Awudingi naluphi na uluvo lwothando, kodwa kuphela kuloo ndawo kwaye ngethuba lokuncoma lingaba ngumqhawe onamandla onobubele kunye nomsindo. Kodwa kuphela ngenxa yokuba amadoda ethu akakwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kokutshatyalaliswa kwethu, ukunyaniseka kwethu.
Amadoda afana namanconywa, ngelishwa nje kuphela abafazi abazi ngako. Amancoma amadoda anika ithuba lokuziva luphakamileyo kwaye lubaluleke ngaphezu kwamanye amadoda. Bahlukana nabo kwisihlwele kwaye banokwenza abantu abakhethekileyo. Ukwenza iziphakamiso ubugcisa, kungekhona ukudideka ngobungcali - ukucula iingoma kunye namazwi ahlabayo athathwa ngexesha lokulawula kookumkani noodumo. Masiyeke ixesha lethu lokuncoma ukuba bangabi nanjengobuncwane bokubetha, kodwa kufuneka benze ngokuhlakanipha.
Ixabiso elixabisekileyo lokunconywa yithenda apho kudunyiswa khona udumo. Enyanisweni, iincoma zenzululwazi yonke. Akunakwenzeka na ukuba ungabhekisela kumntu onesisa, intetho yengane, kulunge ngakumbi ukuba ngelizwi lezwi lakho kukho intetho ephantsi.
Abayithandi ukuncoma okungenanto, kodwa akufanelekile ukuvelisa iimpawu zabo ekunconyweni, kungcono ukugxila kwiinkcukacha. Ukuba ufunda ukuncoma ngokunyanisekileyo, oku kucocekile kwaye indoda iya kuhlala ifuna ukukubonga. Akukho mzekelo masize sivumele ukunyaniseka esinawo, kwabasetyhini rhoqo kwizinto zobomi bemihla ngemihla. Ngokomzekelo: "Ukudada, kwaye andingazi ukuba unomnandi kakhulu, unokupheka isobho, kwaye iplatshi iphelele kwaye iminwe yakho isendaweni!" Mhlawumbi andiyikuvuyela ukuncoma okunjalo, kodwa bekuya kuphazamisa umnqweno wokupheka isobho ngonaphakade. Indoda engummangaliso, onomdla, uya kubuyisela imali enye.
Enye impazamo eqhelekileyo, abaninzi abafazi banamathela ngokuncoma, bawachithakela ngasekunene nakwesobunxele. Njengoko "awukwazi ukuphazamisa i-porridge ngeoli" - oku kuyinyaniso, kodwa akusoloko isebenza kwiincoma. Izibongozo, njengeesekese, kufuneka zinikezelwe kuphela ngenxa yobuninzi bemincoma engakwazi ukulahlekelwa amandla abo kwaye bayayeka ukukholwa.
Ukuze uyanconywa kumntu, usebenze kuyimfuneko ukwazi imikhwa kunye nomlingiswa womntu obhekiswe kubo. Kubaluleke kakhulu kukuvandlakanywa kweziphi iimpawu ezibalulekileyo kwi-addressee yokuncoma. Mhlawumbi kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba aphephe isikhonkwane, kodwa mhlawumbi le yinto yakhe yobomi bomi bonke: "Yayiphi indlela ephilileyo kunye nezandla zakhe zegolide." Kuba nawuphi na umntu ubaluleke kakhulu ukuvavanya iimpawu zakhe zobungcali. Nangona ummeli wecandelo lobuganga lifuna amagama ukuba ahlale ebaluleke nakwigunya langaphakathi: "Uyazi kangakanani na? Uninzi kangakanani entloko yakho! Unobulumko kangakanani! "
Amanconywa athandwa ngabantu kwaye angenziwa ngaphandle kwamagama, akwanele kuphela ukuthinta isandla sithandekayo ngexesha elifanelekileyo kwaye ukhangela amehlo akhe njengokungathi ngendlela ekhethekileyo, ngokumomotheka, okanye ukumangalela ngentshantshi.
Ukuncoma kukuhle kwaye kunika umphumo omhle woqhagamshelwano lwakho. Bathetha njalo, kodwa kwinqanaba. Yena, umfazi oya kumdumisa indoda yakhe ngengqiqo kunye nokuqhubekayo ufumana inzuzo ngaphezu kwamanye amabhinqa, ngenxa yokuba unamandla kunene kwihlabathi, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ube nomfazi onokuzilungela.
Ukuba umntu uhamba phambi kwakho, kwaye unomuvo wokuthi uyamthanda - ungasondela kuye ngokuphepha kwaye umxelele ngako. Ewe, kuthekani ukuba akabonakali ukuba yinkosana yakho, kodwa kuya kuba nomntu owonwabileyo emhlabeni, nangomzuzu omnye.