Kodwa kukho enye into. Ulwalamano olulungileyo nomntu - ezi ziza kubakho ubomi obonwabileyo nothando nokuvisisana. Nantsi ibhinqa kwaye ulindele ubunzima, kuba indlela yokuziphatha ngokuchanekileyo? Ungathini ukuphosakela, ukhetha iqabane ebomini?
Ukuba ibhinqa lizibuza yona le mibuzo, ngoko, mhlawumbi, sele sele ilandelelwano lwakhe oluhle kakhulu nolwalamano lwakhe lobuqu. Kwaye ngoku uzama ukuqwalasela zonke iimpazamo ezidlulileyo kwaye enze ulwalamano olutsha CORRECT.
Ulwalamano nomntu aluyi kudidisa, umfazi kuqala kufuneka aqonde oko akufunayo kuye. Mhlawumbi utshatile, okanye mhlawumbi uya kulungisa isimo senkosikazi ... Kule nqaku siza kuqwalasela ubudlelwane nomntu ochanekileyo kumbono womntu, oko kukuthi, kubangela umtshato omde kunye novuyo. Ewe, inkokheli ehlakaniphile kwaye ikulungele ukudala intsapho, ayiyi kulungelelanisa ubudlelwane bexeshana, apho kuyoba ngumfazi wesikhashana nje kuphela xa engekho umfazi osemthethweni. Ngokulula, abaninzi abafazi bakholelwa ukuba kubo indoda iya kushiya intsapho ekhoyo kwaye yenze enye entsha - nayo. Njengomgaqo, le ngcamango iphosakeleyo. Amadoda akwenzeki ngokukhawuleza ukuba aqhawule umtshato kwaye akhuphe ukwakha intsapho entsha. Kule meko, ngokuqhelekileyo bafumana isiqwenga sezizathu zokubangela, kwizifo ezibangelwa zizifo ezibangelwa abantwana abangenakushiywa. Oku akuhambelani nolwalamano olufanelekileyo nomntu oya kumkhokela umfazi kwiinjongo zakhe kunye nosapho olomeleleyo. Kuya kuba ngcono ukuzinqoba nokuyeka ulwalamano, oluza kuphazamiseka, kwaye ekugqibeleni, ukudimazeka okungenakuthenjwa.
Njengoko kuyimfuneko ukuthetha ngelinye uhlobo lolwalamano, okubizwa ngokuba ngumtshato womtshato. Nantsi into eyahlukileyo. Izizathu ezibangela ukuba abantu baphile ngale ndlela bahluke. Kukho amaxesha amaninzi xa le meko ihambelana namaqabane omabini. Kwaye kubo, olu luhlobo olufanelekileyo. Emva koko, mhlawumbi elinye iqabane liza kutshatyalaliswa, okanye mhlawumbi abaselula bayasindisa umtshato okanye bafuna "ukuxuba" omnye nomnye. Kodwa, kunokuthi kwenzeke ukuba ibhinqa nje aliyithathi, kodwa indoda yinto enhle. Emva koko asikwazi ukubiza le ndlela yokuphila ngokufanelekileyo.
Emva koko, ukuba ibhinqa lihlala liphazamiseka lihlala emtshatweni womtshato, ngoko ulwalamano olunjalo aluyi kuvuya.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ekuqaleni kobudlelwane bakho nendoda, kufuneka ubeke izikhalazo ngokuchanekileyo. Ngaba unenjongo ephakamileyo? Ngaba ufuna intsapho kunye nabantwana? Ngoko ukhethe indoda engatshati kwaye ilungiselele intsapho. Ewe, awukwazi ukuyalela intliziyo yakho, kodwa ukuba umfazi ufuna ekugqibeleni ufumane intsapho yakhe yolonwabo - kufuneka ucinge ngale nto ekuqaleni kobudlelwane bakhe nendoda. Kufuneka sikhethe ngokucacileyo umgca wokuziphatha, siqonde ukuba umntu udinga ubomi. Kwaye ke kufuneka senze izigqibo kwaye sigqibe ukuba ngaba kuyimfuneko. Umfazi ngamnye ngokwakhe uqikelela oku "ukuchaneka" kobudlelwane. Yintoni ebantwini ababi kwaye ingacacanga, inokuba yinto enhle kuye.
Kungcono ukumnika umntu ngoko nangoko ufuna kuye, ukwenzela ukuba ungenzi izicwangciso ezinkulu kwaye ungadideki, ngenxa yoko. Ukuba ubona ukuba indoda ayifuni ukukhawuleza kwiofisi yeRejista kwaye ngokubanzi isabela malunga nayo ayiyikuthoba, kwaye uphupha ingubo emhlophe - kukulungele ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza, kuba oku akunjalo. Uyazi, kukho amadoda amaninzi ehlabathini abafuna ukutshata kwaye banabantwana bavuyiswe. Awukuzichitheli ngokuzibandezela kunye nokudumala.