Nsuku zonke uza ekhaya uvela emsebenzini kwaye, uvula umnyango wendlu yakho, uhamba kuzo zonke iintlobo zezandla. Emva kwayo yonke into, isoloko yinto efanayo: i-mess is around, yonke into iyahlakazeka, yonke indawo ayikho inqwelwana yothuli, kwaye kwi-vase ukhangele kwiintyatyambo ezimileyo, ezingasayi kukhishwa ngaphandle kwendlu. Ngelizwi, kungcono ukuba ungaboni ndawo. Kwaye ungenamandla okuhla waya kwisihlalo seengalo, ukhangele ngeenxa zonke ngaphandle kokukhangeleka kwinqanaba elipheleleyo, uqaphele ukuba uyazi ukuba kufuneka uqonde konke oku. Kodwa, ngelishwa, konke oku kuphinda kushicilelwe imihla ngemihla kwaye akuvelisi nayiphi na iziphumo. Lo mfanekiso wokuphila uyaziqhelanisa nabasetyhini abaninzi abangenakuqonda ukuba kutheni oku kunjalo. Kodwa kule meko akufanele uqale ngokucoca indlu, kodwa kunye nawe. Makhe sizame ukuphendula umbuzo othi: "Ukuziqonda njani wena, uqonde oko ndikufunayo? ".
Ukuba ufuna i-oda epheleleyo, qalisa wena
Ukuba indlu yinkangala, khumbula oko kuthetha kumphefumlo wakho kuyafana. Yonke into ivela khona. Ngoko ke, qonda kwaye uqonde oko kwenzekayo, okokuqala, ngomphefumlo wakho. Apha, kunye nawe kunye nehlabathi lakho eliphakathi siza kuqala.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, silahlekelwa uxolo lwengqondo ngenxa yokuxabana nomntu osondeleyo (umhlobo, isihlobo, intanda). Okanye ngenxa yeendidi ezahlukeneyo, zombini emsebenzini nasemndenini. Ngaphezu koko, yonke into apha, unokukhuseleka ngokungazinzi rhoqo. Emva koko, ufuna ukutshintsha yonke into, kodwa kungekhona kwimikhosi. Ngoku, ubheka yonke into eyenzekayo ngenyameko, uhlale uzijezela oko. Ingxaki kwikhredithi, ekhayeni, kwideskithophu, nantsi ke, isalathisi esona sithetha ukuba akufanele uthande. Kodwa apha, akusikho nonke. Kufuneka uqonde ukuba ukunyanzeliswa ngokomzwelo kunye nokungabi namandla okuziphatha, kubandakanya ukungabikho komzimba, kubandakanywa. Ngoko ke, ukubeka yonke indawo kwindawo yayo, kufuneka udibanise ngokwakho kwaye uphendule wena umbuzo: "Ndiyayiqonda njani into endiyifunayo ebomini mna? ". Ukucoca endlwini akukho nto, xa kuthelekiswa nokufumana ukuvisisana kwangaphakathi.
Nika amatyala akho - kwaye ubomi buya kuphucula
Ukuba awuyi kunika ummelwane wakho ngaphakathi kweenyanga ezimbini, uboleke i-ruble 100, kulungile. Nanku nje kufuneka ubeke umzuzu kwaye uyiswe kule mali. Kodwa kukho izikweletu esizenzayo. La matyala anako ukwandisa nokusixinzelela ngokuziphatha ngaphakathi. Umzekelo wesikweletu esinjalo unokuthi, umzekelo, umnqweno weenyanga ezininzi ukutyelela isihlobo sakho esikude okanye ubize umngane. Kwaye, njengenhlanhla ingaba nayo, awukwazi nje ukunika ixesha le shishini. Kodwa balindele wena kwaye banethemba kuwe. Kwaye awuzange ufumane izizathu zokungenzi. Kwaye kwindlela, xa uthe wagqithwa ngesikhumbuzo, nawe unesizathu esinjalo. Ucinga, kodwa akunjalo. Emva kwakho konke, kukubetha kakhulu kwaye kukukwenza uhlale unqabile, ngenxa yokuba uyabahlonela kwaye uyabathanda aba bantu, kodwa awukwazi ukutshintsha into, okanye kunoko awufuni. Kwaye apha ebomini ngamnye wethu, ngaphezu kwezinto zonke, kukho indawo apho "neenyawo azihambi," kodwa, kubalulekile ukuba uhambe. Ngokomzekelo, iofisi yepaspoti okanye isitishi seenkonzo. Ezi ziko aziyi kuzisa nayiphi na i-aesthetics ekutyeleleni kwabo, kodwa ukuyeka ukutyelela oku kukhoneni elide akufanelekanga. Ngaphandle koko, kunokuvelisa iingxaki ezininzi kwaye zingakhathazeki kwikamva.
Qala uhlale phantsi uze ucinge ukuba kutheni ungakwenzi oko ngaphambili. Ukuba ngumcimbi wokungcoliseki kwakho, khokela ishedyuli yemihla ngemihla, kodwa ukuba awufuni, fundela ukuba kutheni ncam na isizathu. Emva koko uzithathele ngokulawulwa ngqo.
Kodwa kwimeko apho unqwenela ukwenza into engekho ebaluleke kakhulu, kwaye le "nto" iselulela ukuba unqwenele inqwelo, ngaloo ndlela uxanduva lobukho bakho, zama ukulahla "imisila" enjalo. Khumbula, ukuba awufuni ukwenza nantoni na okanye wenze into ethile, ungahambisani nentando yakho.
Musa ukuhamba ngomso into enokwenziwa namhlanje
Kukho abantu abenza umsebenzi othile, bahlale bewuzisa ekupheleni. Abantu abanjalo, njengomthetho, abahluphekanga ngenxa yesazela, kwaye baninzi kakhulu belele kunabanye. Kuthiwani ukuba awunabo? Kwaye le miba, ngathi "idyokhwe entanyeni yakho" ukukufikelela? Ngaloo shishini "elingagqitywanga" alinakulungeleka ukuba liphile, lihlala lidonsa phezulu, kwaye ngokugqithiseleyo kwexesha, iqokelela ngaphezulu nangaphezulu. Luhlobo luni loxolo lwengqondo kunye nokulinganisela kunokubakho ngokubanzi?
Qinisekisa ukugqiba lonke le shishini, uze ubalekele ngabo kanye kunye. Awufuni ukuzenza-okanye uzenzele izizathu ezilungileyo zokufuna.
Ukuqonda into endiyifunayo ngoncedo lwesicwangciso esakhiweyo
Ngokuqhelekileyo, silahlekelwa yimilinganiselo yethu ngenxa yokungaqiniseki kwethu. Ngokomzekelo, ebomini bomntu ngamnye, kukho uluhlu oluthile lwamatyala abekwe phantsi kweekholamu ezimbini, isihloko esithi "kufuneka" kwaye "sifune." Ezi zinezela zokungaqiniseki kuwe, kuba awukwazi ukuqonda oko kuthethwa ngokuba yinombolo "kufuneka", kodwa ukuba "ufuna". Kule ngxaki, kufuneka ukhethe isicwangciso esicacileyo esiza kukunceda uqonde nokuqonda into oyifunayo, kwaye yintoni enokuyenza ngaphandle kokushiya. Hlala phantsi kwaye ucinge ngako. Khumbula ukuba ukuba uyayiqonda ngokwenene into oyifunayo, kuya kufuneka ukuba ugqibezele ukuba ufezekise konke okufunayo. Emva koko, kuhlale kunokwenzeka ukuphumeza okufunwayo kuphela ngokufezekiswa kweminye into. Umzekelo, ufuna ukuhlaziywa kwindlu - kufuneka ulungise. Nantsi ke, umgaqo osisiseko wokuvisisana kwangaphakathi phakathi kweminqweno kunye namathuba ethu. Musa ukuyihoxisa oku kwaye uyidlulise yedwa. Khumbula ukuba umphefumlo unakho ukhululekile, kuphela ukuba unako ukwazi wena kunye noko ukulindele kuwe nakubomi ngokubanzi. Sifisa ukuba uyaziqonda kakuhle kwaye usebenzise yonke "intswelo" yakho, ngaphandle kokuba "andinako"!