Unokunyamekela njani umthandayo

Ngamaxesha onke abantu baye babonisa inkxalabo ngabathandekayo babo. Abazali banakekela abantwana babo, abantwana - malunga nabazali babo, abafazi babo babanakekela abayeni babo, nabayeni-ngabafazi. Olu luhlu luyaqhubeka kwaye luqhubeke.

Kodwa kutheni, ngoko, abantu abaye babizwa ngokuba ngumtshato ovuyayo izolo, ababebukele ubomi obude kunye novuyo kunye ngokukhawuleza bahlukana. Kubonakala kum ukuba esinye sezizathu ezibalulekileyo ukungabi nomonde, ukunakwa, ukukhathazeka, ukunakekela, ukuxhaswa kumaxesha anzima, nangona kwakubonakala ngathi uthando aluzange lufe. Masizame ukuqonda indlela abaye bahlala bebathanda ngayo iminyaka emininzi bayayinyamekela umntu oyithandayo ngokuchanekileyo.

Yintoni enokuthi ithathwa ngokuba yinyameko yabazali malunga nabantwana? Oku kukukhathazeka ngempilo yabo yempilo. Njengoko: malunga nokuhanjiswa, iimpahla, ukuphumla kwezinga eliphezulu, njl. Nengqondo. Thenga izinto zokudlala, uye epakini, kwaye xa kuyimfuneko, uncedise ngomsebenzi wesikolo. Kwaye ezinye iwaka zibonakala zizinto ezincinci ongaziqhelanga ubomi bemihla ngemihla, kodwa oko kusenza sizive sishushu entliziyweni xa sijonge kuzo. Noxhala, nokuxhalaba emphefumlweni, nokuzimisela ukuthatha yonke intlungu kunye neengxaki xa bekude. Ukunyamekela abantwana malunga nabazali babo, ngakumbi xa bekhulile, kubandakanya ukubonisa ingqalelo, ukuba kunokwenzeka, kunye nenkxaso yenkxaso, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ekunyamekeleni nasekuveleleni. Kwaye sinokunyamekela njani uthando (nokuba ngumyeni nomfazi okanye isibini sithandana). Oku, kwaye, kunye nokubonakaliswa kwengqalelo kwimpilo yomnye nomnye, kunye neentambo ezimnandi, kunye nekhofi ye-banal kwiibhedi kunye neentyantyambo zintanda yakho, kunye nokunye okunokubangela ukuba nemihlali kunye nomvakalelo onokudinga.

Sonke sifuna inkxaso, ukunakwa kwabathandekayo, ukunakekela abo bathandekayo. Akufanele simazi kangakanani indlela yokuziva, indlela yokunyamekela intanda yakho. Abathandekayo nabathandekayo badinga ingqalelo, ngakumbi xa umthandayo egula. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uzive ekhuselekileyo kwaye akhathalele ngaye. Ukukwazi ukunyamekela umthandayo ngexesha lokugula kunempembelelo enkulu kwintlalo yakhe. Iyeza elifike ngexesha elifanelekileyo, ukugqoka okwenziwe kakuhle, ukuthobela imithetho yokucoceka kunye nokutya okunomdla, ukuphunyezwa ngokunyanisekileyo kwemigqaliselo yodokotela - konke oku kuqinisekileyo kuya kufaka isandla sokuphucula ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ngamnye wethu wayeziva ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukwazi ukuba unomdla wokuthi uyathandwa. Yiyo esiyiva ngayo, ukuba izalamane zethu zisondelelene nathi. Kukwazi kwabo ukunyamekela umthandayo okhokelela ekuphumeni okukhawulezayo.

Kuninzi kuthiwa kwintsapho evuya. Emva koko, ulwazi oluqhelekileyo kukuba kuphela ubudlelwane obakhelwe othandweni, ukunyamekelana kunokubanceda uxhamle intsapho. Ingakanani, kwaye ngexesha elifanayo elincinci, lithetha amagama othando! Nguwaphi amagama onokuwubonisa ngalo uvuyo othulileyo, oza kukuzalisa bonke ngaphandle kokulandelana, ukukhala iimbonakalo emehlweni akho, xa wena, ukwesaba ukuhamba, jonga umntu olele ehlombe lakho. Okanye ukuba ukulangazelela nokukhathazeka esifubeni sakho xa uhlala kunye nabathandekayo bakho. Yaye indlela yokuchaza olo vuyo, ukunyameka, okungaqondakaliyo kunye nentlungu ephilileyo entliziyweni, xa ucinga ngeminyaka yakho endala, abantu abadala kwaye ngexesha elifanayo, abazali abangenakukhuseleka. Akukho namagama achaza konke oku. Kodwa oku akuyimfuneko. Konke kubonakala kum kumlula kakhulu. Kufuneka nje uhlale ukhumbule ukuba kufuphi nawe abantu abasondele kuwe. Kufuneka ukhumbule kwaye uqonde ukuba uthando lwakho nenkxaso iyadingeka. Yintoni exhomekeke kuwe, ingaba abathandekayo bakho abakufutshane nawe baya kubafudumala, bahlaziye baze bathule. Kwaye konke oku ndawonye, ​​njengoko kubonakala kum kwaye kukho inkxalabo kubantu abathandekayo.

Zama ukunyamekela abathandekayo ukuze amagama afuneki!