Ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva wonk 'umama unemibuzo: indlela yokululela ngayo ukusondeza ubusuku bakhe? Ingane ayinakhathala ngokufumana ubisi, ngoko ke ukuvuswa ebusuku kuvuyisa. Kwaye umama omncinci unemizekelo eyahlukileyo, oko kuthetha ukuba ukutya ebusuku kungabangela ukuphazamiseka.
Ukuba umntwana usondlo lwendalo, ngokokutya kokuhlwa kunokulibaziseka ixesha elide. Kubabungcweti, izinto zihlukile, zicutshulwe kakhulu ngaphambili: ezinye iintsana sele zisezinyangeni ezintathu azivuki ebusuku ukuba zidle. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba umama wanquma ukuthambisa umntwana ekudleni ebusuku, kufuneka awazi imithetho ethile.
Isinyathelo sokuqala kukuthintana nodokotela wezingane. Ukuba umntwana akanakulinganisela, akukho mfuneko yokuyeka ukutya kwebusuku, kuba ngobusuku, ukwandisa ubisi kunyuke, oku kuthetha ukuba umntwana uya kugcwaliswa. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntwana ukhuluphele, ke ukucima ubusuku bokutya kubonakala kunokwenzeka. Ngesisindo esifanelekileyo, unina unakho ukuzigqiba isigqibo sokuba uya kukhula okanye awuyi.
Indlela yokunciphisa umntwana ukuba adle ebusuku?
Kukho iinkqubo ezinzima kakhulu zokunciphisa umntwana ukususela ebusuku. Ezi ndlela zifanelekile kubantwana ababini bancelisayo, kunye nalabo badlayo ubisi.
Ukuze unqume umntwana ukuba adle ebusuku, kufuneka ukwandise inani lokutya ngexesha lomhla. Ngomhla umntwana kufuneka athole umthamo wobisi, awawuthetha ngawo ngosuku olulandelayo. Ukutya kokugqibela ngaphambi kokulala ixesha kufuneka kube nzima. Njengomthetho, umntwana udla ngokuhlwa ngaloo mihla xa usenalo ubisi obaneleyo. Kwenzeka ukuba oomama abancinci bathatha uxakeke kakhulu ngemisebenzi yasemakhaya baze bayikhohlwe ngomntwana wabo okwethutyana. Ukuba le meko ibe yinto eqhelekileyo, umntwana uya kuvuka ebusuku kwaye afune ukuba atywe. Ngoko umntwana ufuna ukuzalisa ukungabikho kwengqalelo yomama. Ukuba umama weza ukusebenza ekuqaleni, oko kuthetha ukuba akayiboni umntwana wakhe yonke imihla, ngoko umntwana uya kuvuka ebusuku.
Ukuba umntwana ulala embhedeni, xa abazali bengalali, ke, ngaphambi kokulala, unina kufuneka akwazi ukuvusa umntwana aze amondle. Emva koko umntwana uya kulala ixesha elide, kwaye umama uya kuphumla ixesha elide. Kwiimeko ezigqithiseleyo, umntwana uya kuvusa umama elinye ixesha elingaphantsi kwexesha eliqhelekileyo.
Ukuba umntwana sele sele engaphezu komnyaka ubudala kwaye unina uya kukotshwa ngokusondeza ebusuku, ngoko kwimeko le nto umntwana angabekwa kwelinye igumbi. Eyona nto ingcono kukuba udade omdala okanye umzalwana ulele kwelinye igumbi kunye nosana. Emva koko inkomo iya kutshintsha ingqalelo kwimeko entsha kwaye ngokukhawuleza ayikhohlwe ngokutya kokuhlwa. Njengendlela yokukhetha, ungathetha nomntwana uze uyichazele ukuba wayela yonke ubisi emini, kwaye kungenxa yoko akukho nto ebusuku. Kule minyaka, umntwana sele sele esenokungena kumagama.
Umntwana ukuyeka nini ukutya ebusuku?
Ewe, ngamnye umntwana ngumntu ngamnye kunye nexesha elithile, xa umntwana engasadingi ukutya ebusuku, akukho. Nangona kunjalo, ngelinye ilanga eli xesha liya kuza. Njengokuba kukho umzekelo, oomama abaselula banokukhathala ebusuku besondla kakhulu kunoko kungabalulekanga kubantwana. Ngokutsho kweengcali, ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukondla umntwana ekudleni ebusuku, zonke izimo eziyimfuneko kufuneka zenziwe ngenxa yale nto, yonke into ifanele ibe yinyameko kwaye iphumelele. Akukho mfuneko ukuba umntwana ahlupheke ngenxa yokuba akafumani nxalenye yesidlo ebusuku. Unokuqala ukufunda ukususela kumzuzu xa umntwana eneminyaka emihlanu okanye ezintandathu ubudala. Kulo nyaka, umntwana unokunyamezela ngokukhawuleza okunjalo. Mhlawumbi ubusuku obuncinane abuyi kuvumela abazali bakhe ukuba balele, baya kufuna isifuba okanye umxube, kodwa emva kweveki ezimbini, njengomthetho, umntwana unqunywe.
Ukuba umntwana uyanyana ubusuku bonke, oku akubonakali ukuba ulambile kakhulu. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kubonisa ukuba akafumani ngokupheleleyo umama, i. Ngoko unelisekile iimfuno zakhe zengqondo. Le meko ingenakwenzeka kuphela kwintsana, kodwa iphinda isane ngaphezu kweminyaka yobudala. Kule meko, kuyimfuneko ukumisela ukunxibelelana nosana ngosuku - ukuthetha ngakumbi, ukudlala, ukuthatha izandla.