Ukuba ukholwa incazelo, uthando luqale ngokusekelwe kwisisa kunye nokuzinikela, kwaye umnqweno ngumnqweno ongenakunqwenela. Ukongeza, bahluke kwiintlobo zobudlelwane. Ngoko njani ukuqonda uthando okanye ukuthanda?
Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukwabelana nothando kunye nomdla, kuba umonde ungaba nobukho bobubele. Masizame ukwenza uhlalutyo lwangaphambili lobudlelwane phakathi kwenkanuko kunye nothando. Inokukunceda ukuqonda umntu ojongene naye: ukuthanda okanye ukuthanda. Uthando luphi ubudlelwane babantu ababini? Xa uthando lusebudlelwaneni babantu ababini, bobabini baxabisa ulonwabo kunye neminqweno yomnye nomnye. Impembelelo yothando ibonakaliswe ngeendlela ezininzi: izenzo, amazwi nezenzo.
Esi sibini sithandana siziphatha kakuhle, ngelixa sisoloko sikhumbula ngeemvakalelo zeqabane. Ngobudlelwane obunjalo, abantu bachitha ixesha labo labakhululekileyo, ngokusekelwe kwintlonelo kunye nothando. Isenzo ngasinye sikhethwe kwaye sijongwa ngononophelo olukhethekileyo ukuqwalasela iimvakalelo zeqabane. Ukuba kukho iimbambano, bobabini amaqabane bazama ukufikelela kwisivumelwano, bafumane isisombululo esisodwa okanye ukudibanisa. Ekugqibeleni, ubudlelwane obusekelwe othandweni, njengomthetho, bude. Ngenxa yokuba ukholo luthando lubangela ukuba isibini sinqobe ubunzima kunye neengxaki ezivela ngexesha phakathi kwazo. Isimo sengqondo esifudumeleyo malunga nomnye siya kunceda ukumelana neemvavanyo ezininzi, kuquka nexesha.
Ufumana njani unomdla? Ubuhlobo obunjalo abuyi kuvelisa umphumo ongalunganga. Nangona kunjalo, abanako ukuzithemba nokuzithemba njengothando. Njengothando, ukunyamezela kuthintela ubudlelwane, amagama kunye nezenzo zabantu. Uthando kunye noxineko bahluke kulwalamano phakathi kweqabane: ngothando, bahlala banolonwabo ngaphezu kwabo ngokwabo, kwaye xa bobabini abalingani bevavanya, bazama ukufezekisa iminqweno yabo, bawabeka kwindawo ephambili kunye nendawo yokuqala.
I-Egoism, ekhoyo kwiintsebenziswano ezinomdla, ihamba ngokukhawuleza ize ichaphazele ngokupheleleyo zonke izenzo kunye ngqo kwizondlo. Ngethuba luthando oluvulekileyo isibini sifuna ukufumana ingcamango kunye nempendulo apho bobabini baya kuvuma, kwaye xa luthando, abantu bathambekele ekufezeni iimfuno zabo, ngelixa bengabandakanyi kwiqabane labo.
Isici sokugqibela sinobuhlobo obusondeleyo ubude babo obufutshane, obuninzi kunye. Ngenxa yokuba ubudlelwane obusondeleyo buhlala kuphela ngomnqweno kunye nomdla ngokwalo kwaye akukho nto. Yaye xa iinjongo zifezekile, umnqweno uphelalala, kwaye amaqabane awanasifuni. Ngaphandle kwenkanuko, iimvakalelo zabo ziqala ukutshabalalisa kwaye zidibanise. Ukongezelela, iimpawu ezinxulumene nobudlelwane obunothando - ukungabi nantlonelo kunye nokuzingca, ngoko kulula ukucinga ukuba uthando okanye uthando oluthandekayo?
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Umxhwele uhlala ngothando ngaphakathi. Ukunyamekela akukwazi ukuquka uthando. Ngenxa yokuba ukuzingca akuniki ithuba lokwenza uthando njengento ebangela ubudlelwane obusondeleyo.
Ukuhlukana kwentshiseko yothando kungabonakala nzima. Nangona kunjalo, simele sikhumbule ukubaluleka okubalulekileyo phakathi kokuthanda kunye nothando-ulwalamano oluthando lusekelwe ekuziphatheni nasekunyamekeleni, kunye nokuthanda ukuzingca. Nangona kunjalo, awukwazi ukuchasana kunye, akufanele ufune.