Inwaba Yomndeni Elula

Umntu wadalwa ngenjongo yolonwabo, njengentaka ehamba. Ngoko ke, ngamnye wethu ufuna ukuvuya. Yaye ukuba asizange sithethe khona, kodwa isona senwabe yintlalo yolonwabo. Nangona umntu uthe uthanda ukuhlala wedwa, ke le ntetho iyinyani de kube ngumzuzwana xa engayithobeli umntu onobubele, onothando, onokuthenjwa naye onokuzikhulula, ocolile kwaye ezolile. Ngoko, ngokufanayo, sifuna ntoni, siyicinga ntoni kunye nokuphupha malunga nolonwabo lwentsapho olulula?

Ukuqonda nokuwamkela

Ulonwaba luyinto ecacileyo, exhomekeke kubuninzi bezinto ezininzi. Kodwa, mhlawumbi, ngo lonwabo lwentsapho, indima ephambili idlala ngokuqonda. Akunjalo ukwahlula umdla, kodwa ukuqonda. Ewe, kulungile xa isibini sithandwa kwaye sibukeka, kodwa asiyisisiseko. Ngaphandle kwalokhu ungahlala. Kodwa ngaphandle kokuqonda intsapho yolonwabo ayiyi kuba. Ukuqonda kuthetha ukwamkelwa kweminqweno kunye nokuthanda komnye umntu, ukukwazi ukunyamezela. Ukuba intsapho yindoda-umdlali, kunye nomfazi wesondlo, ngokokuqonda kuphela kuya kubanceda bahlangane. Xa abantu behluke kwiimbono zehlabathi, ukufikelela ekuqondeni akuyona into elula. Ngoko ke, abantu bafanele baqonde ukuba abayi kuguqula umntu omthandayo, ukuba umntu ahlale naye kunye neminqweno yakhe. Kwaye ukuba umyeni ufuna ukuhlala ngosuku ekuphumeni kwikhompyutheni, ukuphumla emsebenzini, ngoko umfazi kufuneka afunde ukuba angayigxina nje. Kumele amkele oko akwenzayo kwaye aqonde ukuba kutheni enza njalo. Qonda ukuba ixesha lokuzonwabisa liyamnceda ukuba aphumle kwaye aphumule. Kwakhona, umyeni kufuneka aqaphele ukuba umsebenzi womfazi akuyibubudenge kwaye uyamxhasa iimpembelelo zakhe zokudala, unike ixesha lokuguqulela iingcamango kwiinjongo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba akukho nto xa umyeni echitha usuku lonke ehleli ngekhompyutheni, akayikunyamekela umfazi wakhe, akasebenzi kwaye akafuni nto nantoni na. Kwaye umfazi uhlala kwihlabathi elikhohlisayo, engaqapheli into eyenzekayo kwinyani kwaye akafuni ukuqonda into engeyona inxalenye yehlabathi efikelele yona.

Ukulingana

Ulonwabo lwentsapho luxhomekeke kwiminqweno yokuncedana. Kwintsapho elungileyo, umfazi akadingi ukuba acele umyeni wakhe ukuba ahlambe izitya okanye athathe inkunkuma. Ngokufanelekileyo, indoda kunye nomfazi benza yonke into ngokulinganayo. Ukubeka nje, obani na ixesha, uyasusa, ulungiselela ukutya okanye ukuhlamba izitya. Yaye ukuba umfazi uhlala emsebenzini, ngoko umyeni akahlali ekhaya, njengeenwele eziphuzi, elindele ukuba uza kuza kwaye adle ukudla. Ngaloo ndlela, umfazi, xa ebona ukuba umyeni wakhe akanalo ixesha nonke, akayithandi ihlazo malunga nelokuba uya kufuneka athathe iibhegi ezivela esitolo, kwaye uya kuthenga. Xa intsapho inene ngokulinganayo, izizathu ezininzi zokulwa ziyabhubha kwaye abantu baphila umphefumlo ngomphefumlo.

Amandla okuzonwabisa

Kwakhona, ulonwabo lwentsapho luxhomekeke ekubeni kukho intsipho phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Njengoko kuthethwa ngokuchanekileyo, abantu basondelelene kuphela xa bebandakanya izinto eziyintsipho ezibaxhaphazayo baze bazihlanganise ngokubanzi. Ewe, kulungile kakhulu xa abantu behamba kunye, bahlaziye baze bahlekise. Kodwa akusiyo wonke umntu onalo ngeemeko zobomi ezahlukeneyo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umyeni nomfazi beza ekhaya benemihlali, benze into kunye kunye, baduke baze bahlekise, ngamanye amaxesha baziphathe njengabantwana, ngukuthi uthando lwabo alupheli ngomnyaka ngamnye odlulayo, kodwa ngokuchaseneyo, luyaqina kwaye luvuyisa ngokwenene.

Enyanisweni, akukho namnye iresiphi yolonwabo lwentsapho. Kuphela nje ukuba abantu bathande ukuchitha ixesha kunye kwaye kufuneka bazimisele ukulungisa iingxabano, kwaye bangabashiyi. Bonke abantu baxabana kwaye benza. Oku akunakunqandwa, kuba ngamnye wethu ngumntu, nomntu wakhe, imbono, imbono nokuqonda. Kodwa ukuba sifunda ukuqonda omnye umntu, ukuba samkele izimvo zakhe kunye nezigqibo, ukuba singabagwebi, ngoko siyavuya ngokwenene.