Ingaba umntwana wakho wayenexesha lokungabantwana? Funda ukuphendula ngokunyanisekileyo, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo ukuze umntwana aqonde le nto okanye loo ngcaciso ngengqondo yomntwana.
Enye yezona zinto ziyinkimbinkimbi kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, imiba engeyiyo yabantwana, xa uphendula lo mbuzo, umntu makaqaphele, lo ngumbuzo wokufa. Kule meko, ukuba awuqinisekanga ngolwazi lwakho, kungcono ukuvuma ngokunyanisekileyo umntwana ongaziyo impendulo yombuzo wakhe. Ngokuqhelekileyo, iintsana zibuzwa imibuzo enzima ukuba ngaba ngababufakazi bokuzibonela ekufeni kwabathandekayo babo. Abazali abangenangqiqo kwimeko enjalo bangaqala ukucinga ngamabali angenangqondo, malunga nokuba ugogo wengane ushiye kwesinye isixeko okanye walala ngokulala. Ukukhohlisa umntwana, umane udibanise. Iingcamango zomntwana zidlula umcinga womntu omdala amaninzi, unokuzicingela engqondweni ukuba uThixo uyazi. Ingane ayayiqondi isizathu sokuba ugogo ahambe kwaye akazange amtshele, kuba kutheni engamthiyi kwaye angaphoswa, ngoko uqala ukucinga ukuba ugogo wakhe uwile ngothando. Ukuba umntwana ukholelwa kwibali lakho ukuba ugogo wayefile ngokulala ngokulala, ngoko unokuqala ukwesaba ubuthongo nobusuku. Iingcali zengqondo zidla ngokubhekiselele kwimimiselo enjalo kwizenzo zabo. Ngoko ke, kukulungele ukuxelela umntwana ukuba xa abantu befa, umphefumlo wabo uya ezulwini, apho kulungile kwaye kufudumele. Enyanisweni, umntwana unokucaphukisa kakhulu, akhale. Kodwa kuya kufuneka aqonde ngokucacileyo nale nto yokuba yonke into efile emhlabeni, kwaye mhlawumbi umama noTata baya kufa ngelinye ilanga. Umsebenzi wakho kukumchaza ukuba oku kuya kwenzeka, kodwa kungekudala kungekudala, unayo yonke ixesha elide, ubunzima obuphambi kwakho. Ngenxa yeenkolelo zakho zonqulo, tshela umntwana ukuba umntu unomzimba nomphefumlo. Umzimba wakhe uyafa, kodwa umphefumlo ungunaphakade, emva kokufa komzimba uhamba ngefu. Abantwana ngokulula kwaye benokufumana ulwazi olunjalo, baya kukhululeka ukuba bazi ukuba unina ufile ngoku, kwaye akazange alale ngokucacileyo ngenxa yezizathu ezingaziwa.
Umbuzo oqhelekileyo wabantwana, odibanisa abazali abaninzi - njani ndiba khona? Le mibuzo ihlala ibuzwa ngaba bantwana, ukuqala kwiminyaka emithathu. Ukuguqulwa kolu mbandela kuyahluka kakhulu: ndavela phi? U-Masha wayenomzalwana, njani? Akukho nto inzima ukuphendula lo mbuzo. Umntwana unelisekile, ukuba umxelela ukuba uzalwe ngumama wam. Mxelele indlela intlanzi eyakhiwa ngayo kumaqanda, nakwiqanda - inkukhu. Ikati igqoke inkabi kwisisu. Kwaye nawe wawugqoke kwisisu, kwaye xa ufikile apho, wazala.
Ukuba le mpendulo ayaneleyo kumcwaningi wakho omncinci, unokucela umbuzo ongeyomntwana malunga nokuba wayephi ngaphambi kokuba akubethe esiswini. Mphendule ngale ndlela: ngaphambi kokufika kumama esiswini, wayeyintsimi, isiqingatha sayo sigcinwa ngumama, kunye nesinye isigamu - esivela kupapa. Xa umama nobaba bedibana, badibanisa iinqunithi ezimbini. Ingqondo yomntwana le mpendulo iya kupheleleyo kwaye iyaqondakala.
Imibuzo engeyiyo yabantwana malunga nokulala ngokwesondo ivela kubantwana ekukhuleni, kodwa kwimihla ngemihla kunzima kakhulu ukukhusela umntwana kwiinkcukacha zobungozi ngobomi obusondeleyo kubantu abadala, kuba ngezinye iinkhathi iifilimu zabantwana ziquka ixesha elibuhlungu. Kisses ossionate kunye nezidumbu ezihamba ze zibangele ukuphazamiseka komntwana. Ukuchazela umntwana lo mkhuba wabantu abadala, mxelele ukuba xa umntu omdala kunye nomfazi omdala bathandana, bahlala kunye, bahlala kunye kunye nokulala embhedeni omnye, bethana baze baxane. Kwaye maxa wambi banokuba nomntwana.
Ngokwenene, umntwana uyabuza imibuzo engacacanga yomntwana ngokuphathelele uthando, ubomi kunye nokufa. Funda ukuwanelisa iinqwenela zabantwana, ngelixa kungalimazi ingqondo yakhe.