Uyazi ukuba uza kutyelela njani?
Musa ukumangaliswa ngumbuzo, abaninzi banokukrokra ukuba ukuba ba tyelele, kufuneka ulandele imithetho ethile. Kubahlobo ngokugubha umtshato, abahlobo abahambi kwisitya sokulila, kodwa kwithebe yetiyi kummelwane, musa ukuya kwambatho yokuhlwa. Cinga malunga nesiphi isaga esivela kuyo, ukuba isivakashi esingavunywanga sibi ngaphezu kweTatar. Akunjalo nje, ukususela ekuqaleni, kwaqulunqwa. Ukuba ucinga ngako, esinye isaga sithi: "indwendwe endlwini, inkosi yolonwabo." Kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukufumanisa ukuba yeyiphi umkhosi, kwaye yiyiphi indwendwe.
Ukuba awumenywanga, bhala i-imeyile okanye umnxeba. Akunjalo nabantu abasondeleyo bawela njengekhephu ezintloko zabo, kuba kungabakho ukutyelelwa ngumzukulu othandekayo okanye ukutyelelwa kwentombi ekhutshelweyo kuya kuphula izicwangciso ezibalulekileyo zabanini. Ewe, izihlobo zakho okanye abahlobo abasondeleyo baya kuvuyela ukukubona nanini na, kodwa unokwenza uhambo olungenakuvakalisa xa kungekho ndlela yokulumkisa malunga nokufika kwakho. Ukuze abanikazi kunye nabo ngokwabo bangabikho kwiimeko ezihlazo, kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba ukutyelelwa ngaphandle kwesixwayiso kuvunyelwe xa kwenzeka unxunguphako okanye xa unxunguphako.
Ukuba ngaba abantu abangaqhelekanga okanye abangaqhelekanga, ngoko awukwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kwesixwayiso esilula. Kufuneka ube nesimemo esisemthethweni, uchaze uhlobo lomcimbi owamenywa kuwo. Kwaye ixesha elithile lokutyelela.
Kodwa iimeko zihlukile, kwaye ukuba kufuneka ufike ngaphandle kwesimemo esikhethekileyo, kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba iindwendwe azihambi ngokuhlwa okanye kusasa. Asazi ukuba zeziphi izinto ezicetywayo kubanini bendlu. Kuya kufuneka sithathe uhambo ngapha nangaphambi kwemini, ukuba akukho shishini. Kwaye emva kweyure "ye-admiral" ngezizathu ezihloniphekileyo, ngokuxolisa, kodwa kungekhona ngezandla ezingenanto. Ungabi yi-bhisikidi enhle engadingekile kwitafile okanye inkosikazi yeentyatyambo.
Ukutyelela emva kweyure lesibhozo kungcono ukuba ungahambi ngaphandle kwesimemo esikhethekileyo. Ubungqina obunjalo buyakwazi ukufumana iinkampani ezincinane, okanye abantu abahola indlela yokuphila yobomi. Kodwa banemithetho yabo, ukungabi naluphi na umgangatho, kwaye sifuna ukuba ngabantu abahloniphekileyo nabahloniphekileyo. Konke oku kukukhathalela ukutyelela emakhaya abo, kwaye "kwiziganeko ezivulekileyo," banemithetho yabo, kwaye ayinomdla kuthi kwaye ayimfuneko.
Mhlawumbi ufike ngaphandle kwesimemo waza wabuqonda ngokukhawuleza ukuba bephule izicwangciso zabanini. Kuyimfuneko ukukhawuleza ukufuna isizathu sokukhawuleza kwaye ushiye ngokukhawuleza, ngoxa ukhumbule into ethile ephuthumayo. Kodwa kulula kwaye kulungele ukuxolisa ngokuzisa abantu kwaye unokuvuma kwindawo eyahlukileyo, kwaye ngexesha elihle ngakumbi. Akufanele ukhohliswe ngobungqina kunye nobungqina bezindlu zabanini, kungakhathaliseki ukuba bachitha ngaphantsi kangakanani iindawo zenkundla. Ukuba unquma ukuhamba, shiya.
Ukuba ufike, ngaphambi kokuba uvule umnyango, landela imigaqo. Yiya emnyango uze unike umnxeba omfutshane. Ungacinezeli inkinobho yebell, njengokungathi ikhefu lomlilo kwikhephe. Ukuba awuzange uvule ngokukhawuleza, linda isikhashana uze ubize ngaphezulu. Mhlawumbi akukho mntu ekhaya, kwaye mhlawumbi abanini bengasabeleli kule fowuni. Kwaye ukugxininisa kwakho, kuphela kuya kuthiwa awufundanga kakuhle. Ukuba abanini bendlu, kwanele ukwenza iifowuni ezimbini, kwaye ukuba bafuna ukuvula, baya kwenza.
Ukuba umnyango awuvuleki ngumntu oza kuye, kodwa umntu ovela kwintsapho, kwaye umntu akakho ekhaya, unokuchaza ukuba unokufunyanwa phi. Kodwa akumele uqhube kwisigxina esifanayo uze ubuye kwenye indawo kwaye kungekhona ngexesha, apho ungazi kwaye ungafuni ukukuqonda. Kuphela xa ixhalaba ngombandela wobomi okanye ukufa, unokwenza ukhangele lo mntu kusuka kwabanye abantu. Kodwa wonke umntu unomnxeba, kwaye yenzelwe ukuba akwazi ukubiza umntu.
Awukwazi ukuthabatha abantu abangaziwayo kunye nawe ukuba awuzange uvumelane ngaphambili. Kungcono ukubiza nokuyeka ukutyelela kwakho kunokukhokela umntu ongaphandle, kwaye ke uxanduva lwezenzo zalo mntu, kungcono ukuphendula kuphela.
Ukuba ngexesha lokutyelela kwakho lihambelana nesidlo sakusihlwa okanye isidlo sakusihlwa kwaye umncedisi ngokumema ngokukhawuleza etafileni, kungcono ukubulela nokulahla, uthi usanda kudla. Ukuba umncedisi ubonisa ukuphikelela, ubeka esinye isicatshulwa esongezelelweyo, ke ungaqhubeki. Akukufanelekile ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza emva kokutya, kunokubonakala ngathi uye wasebenzisa indlu yabahlobo njengolunye uhlobo lwe-cafe yamahhala.
Imithetho embalwa emfutshane ekufuneka ibonwe xa uhambela ngexesha elifanelekileyo.
- Kufuneka uvakashele abantwana abancinci nabantwana kuloo mizi apho baya kuvuya okanye apho kukho abantwana. Ekutyeleleni, kungafanelekile ukuhamba kunye neenja kuphela ukuba zifana nezinja ezingafaniyo, ezifana nawe.
- Ukutyelela okufutshane kungenziwa ngeveki emva kweeyure eziyi-12 kwaye ngokuhlwa, kodwa kungekhona ngexesha lesidlo sasemini.
- Ukutyelela ngenjongo yokwazisa abazalwana kunye nohambo lokubuyela kuyo kunokukhokelela ekuqhelaneni rhoqo. Kodwa ukuba ulwalamano lwenziwe ngokukhawuleza, ngoko kutyelelo kufuneka kungabi ngaphezu kwemizuzu engama-15 okanye engama-20.
Ukuba unokushiya isigxina okanye uhlale unomphela kwindawo ohlala kuyo ixesha elide, tyelela abahlobo bakho abasondeleyo, okanye ubhale ileta, okanye ufowunele ukwazisa malunga nokuhamba kwakho. Emva koko kukho ithuba lokuba uza kufika kwisikhululo okanye kwisikhululo sezitishi. Ekubuyiseni, inqubo echaziweyo yenziwa, ukuba awufuni ukudibana.
Kwiimeko ezibalulekileyo kunye neeholide zentsapho zihambele ngenjongo yokuhalalisela. Kuqhelekileyo apha ukunika izipho kunye neentyatyambo.
NgeMigqibelo kunye neeholide zangaphambi kokuba zivakatye, kuba le mihla abantu balungiselela iholide kwaye bahlambulula njalo njalo.
Ubungakanani bokutyelela buxhomekeke kwiimvakalelo zesithenjwa somthengi, kwiimeko, ngomlingiswa wakhe. Ixesha elifutshane lokutyelela livela kumzuzu ukuya kwe-15. Ukuba uhambele ixesha elifutshane kunye nesizathu esithile, ungakhange ujonge iwashi, njengoko oku kunokukhubekisa imikhosi. Kungcono ukucela uxolo kwaye ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba uchaze isizathu sokushiya, okanye ukushiya kusasa, ubhekisele kwimeko ephuthumayo.
Kodwa wenyulwa ukutyelela, wachaza isiganeko, kwaye ixesha liye laqeshwa. Yaye ukuba awufiki nje, iya kuthathwa njengento ephezulu yokuziphatha okubi. Kwaye awunaso ixesha, ungathandeki, kukho izinto ezibalulekileyo kwaye awufuni ukuya. Ngaba kunjalo, kodwa uninzi othanda.
Ukuba awufuni, ungabhekisela kwiimeko ezibuhlungu eziwe phezu kwakho. Kodwa kuqala uvuyisana ngokuvisisanayo, kwaye ke ungabuyi, kungcolileyo, kungenasizathu esihle sokwenqaba kwaye ungahambi.
Iimeko ezibaluleke kakhulu kunye neziganeko ezingalindelekanga zinganqumla intlanganiso. Umntu ofundele uya ku lumkisa umnini wendlu, malunga nokudibanisa kwakhe kwimeko. Abanye bakholelwa ukuba isizathu sokwenqaba asikwazi ukucaciswa, kodwa abaqulunqi bezitifiketi bathi kubalulekile ukubiza isizathu. Ingaba umnini angazi ukuba ucinga ntoni ngawe.
Baya kuza kutyelela ixesha elimisiweyo, kwaye akukho iyure enye phambi kwexesha elimisiweyo, okanye emva kweeyure ezingama-3. Masithi ufika imizuzu eyi-10 phambi kwexesha elimiselweyo, kwaye oku kukhuthazwayo, kodwa ukulibaziseka kwemizuzu emi-2 kuthathwa njengongcolileyo. Kuya kuba mnandi ukuba iziganeko ezimenywe ziza kuba yindlela efanelekileyo yokukhawuleza imizuzu eyi-15 okanye engama-20. Kodwa ngasekupheleni kwexesha elingaphezulu kwesigama seyure, unokukwazi ukufumana inkwenkwezi okanye umntu obalulekileyo, ngenxa yokuba ayifumananga, kodwa ibalekile.
Kwimibhiyozo yentsapho, le mithetho ayisebenzi. Enye yezalamane ziza kusasa ukuza kumncedisi ekulungiseleleni ukutya, umntu ongenazo iinkcazo eze emva koko, wonke umntu sele esazi ngokuphathelele kwakhe ukuba uya kukhawuleza. Emva koko, unobumba obunjalo okanye umsebenzi onjalo. Esinye isivakashi sisamenywa ngokukodwa kwiiyure ezine phambi kweshedyuli ukwenzela ukuba afike ngokukhawuleza okufutshane. Kodwa konke oku akunakwenza nantoni na, kwaye akuyena uphawu lwetoni elungileyo. Emva koko, "indlu nganye ineemidlalo zayo," kwaye kwintsapho nganye kukho indlela yokubhiyozela imibhiyozo.
Indlela yokuziphatha etafileni
Kukho imimiselo emininzi okumelwe ibonwe kwindwendwe, ehleli etafileni:
- kufuneka uhlale ngqo, ungathinteli itafile ngezandla zakho, umgama ukusuka etafileni uze ube phantsi kwesandla sakho,
- iifowuni zithatha abo bangaphezulu kweplate,
- ukuba awuyidingi ijezi okanye ifoloki, kufuneka uyibeke emaphethelweni endle,
- ukuba uthe wagqiba, faka iifowuni ezibekwe ngokufanayo, xa ubeka ikhefu nje, fakela izixhobo,
- isandla samahhala akufanele silale etafileni, kodwa emadolweni,
- i-napkin kufuneka ifakwe emadolweni, kwaye emva kokutya, kufuneka uyibeke kwicala lasekhohlo,
- ukuba ngesizathu esithile awukwazi ukuyidla esi sidlo, kufuneka uzenzele ukuba uzame le nto, kwaye ungazami ukunqanda.
- udle ukuze ukwazi ukuxhasa incoko ukuze abadibaniselwano bakho bangafanele balinde uze uginye iqela.
Kukho iingcebiso ezininzi eza kuba luncedo kuwo wonke umntu:
- Ukuya kutyelela, uzame ukwenza iimoya zihambelane nelo xesha, kuya kuba yinto engcolileyo ukuza kwimeko embi, kwaye uyibonise. Iindwendwe kufuneka zikhumbule ukuba ngokumalunga nabanikazi abanemisebenzi yakhe, kunye nalabo abaza naye.
- Ukuba ufanele ushiye ngaphambili, ungakhange ukhange abanye abantu, bathethe kuphela abanikazi, kwaye uchaze isizathu sokushiya.
- Ukuba awukwazi ukuphunyuka ungayiboni, kufuneka wenze isaphetha ngokubanzi kubo bonke abantu abaseleyo.
- Xa u tyelela, ungalahlekelwa lixesha lexesha, kufuneka uhambe ngaphambili, xa uvakalelwa kukuba abanini banelisekile.
- Ukuba umninimzi ujonga iwashi okanye ngokungathi ngokungaqhelekanga athi into engapheliyo, ngoko kungakhathaliseki ukuba ungathanda ukuhlala njani, kufuneka uhambe ngokukhawuleza.
- Ukuba umenywe ukuba "uza kusihlwa", ngoko kufuneka uhambe ngaphandle kweeyure eziyi-22-23. Ngomhla woNyaka omtsha okanye emtshatweni uvumelekile ukuba ujabule kude kuse, kodwa oku, ukuba imikhosi ayiyi kuba ngumthwalo. Musa ukulibala ukuba ukumkelwa kweendwendwe kwimikhosi kukuxinzelelo olukhulu.
- Kusuka kwinkqubo ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abadala bayashiya kuqala, kwaye emva kokushiya, omnye akufanele ahlale ixesha elide kwaye eselula.
- Xa uthengisa imali, iindwendwe kunye neendwendwe kufuneka zibulelane ngexesha elichithwe kakuhle kunye nokuzonwabisa abakuzisayo. Umninimzi ngamnye udlula inkosi yakhe emnyango, kwaye umncedisi kunye nezinye iindwendwe zihlala egumbini. Xa iindwendwe zihamba, kufuneka zivule umnyango ngokwazo, ukuze zingabi ncamango yokuba zifuna ukulahla iindwendwe ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, umninimzi ngokwakhe unceda ukuvula umnyango. Ukuba iindwendwe zimbalwa, abanini bancedisa ukuba bagqoke. Umsebenzi wokugqibela womnini ukukhokela kwikhaya elincinci. Ngamanye amaxesha umninikhaya unokucela isibini okanye enye yeendwendwe malunga nayo.
Emva koko iziqhelo ezaziwayo ziqala. Kwiingcamango, indwendwe kufuneka imeme abanikazi ukuba bahlawule ukubuya kuye, kwaye, ngenxa yobuchule babo, balungise ukwamukelwa ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo iphela iphelile. Kodwa ngoxa ukuhanjelwa kwamagunya okutyelela akuzange kwenziwe, ungazenza ngaphandle kwabo, kuba abaninzi abantu abakulungele oku. Ukuba udibana nabantu abalungileyo, kwaye unqume ukuqhubeka uqhelana naye, kufuneka ucele umninimzi wendlu odibana naye.
Ukuba ufuna ukubonga imikhosi yokwamkela, unokubamema kwipikiniki, i-cafe, ikhonsathi, indawo yokudlala. Oko kukuthi, ukuba aba bantu banomdla kuwe, ngoko unokufumana indlela yokuqhubela phambili lo owaziwayo. Ngaloo ndlela, unako ukuqhubeka uxoxisana naba bantu, ukuseka ubudlelwane bezoshishino kunye nobuhlobo.
Kulula ukulandela nayiphi na imithetho xa usebenza nabanye ngokungathi ufuna abanye baziphatha ngale ndlela nawe. Ukuba ukhumbule oku, uza kwenza konke okulungileyo. Umzekelo, ufuna ukutyelela ngexesha lokugula, tyelela oogxa bakho kunye nabahlobo. Bangakwazi ukuzisa iilekese, iziqhamo, iintyatyambo ngaphandle kovumba olunamandla. Umntu onengqiqo uya kubonisa ukuthatha inxaxheba kunye nokuqwalasela isigulane, zama ukufaka ukholo kubantu abanikele kuye impilo yakhe.
Imeko ephambili yethoni elungileyo ubumnandi, ukuzithoba, ukukwazi ukulinganisela ekusebenziseni iziphuzo nokutya, ukukwazi ukuxhasa incoko. Awudingi ulwazi lobuqhetseba bokuziphatha, aluyi kuthatha umgudu omkhulu, kwanele ukuba ukwazi imithetho yokuhlonipha, eyaziwayo kuwo wonke umntu ukususela ebuntwaneni.
Ukuya kutyelela, kufuneka ukwazi ubuncinane ubuncwane obuthile bokuziphatha, ukuzithemba kwiqela kwaye ungadibanisi imfoloko kunye nomese.