Ilungelo lobumfihlo
Ukuba iqabane lakho lisisindisile ngokupheleleyo umtshato, akumangalisi ukuba ngoku akayi kulungela ulwalamano olunzulu. Ngomzuzu udinga intombi, umlingane wesini kunye neeplani eziphambili kwixesha elizayo. Ngako oko, ukuba uyamthanda, kuya kufuneka ube yintombi yakhe / intombi kunye nomnye umntu. Kodwa le nto yonke isohlwayo esivela kumtshato uqhawule.
Ungabonakali umntu onjalo ukuba unamathele ngokupheleleyo. Kumele ube nobomi bakho-abahlobo, izihlobo, abasebenzisana nabo, izinto zokuzilibazisa. Makhe azive ukuba awufunanga nje kuphela. Buza, umzekelo, ukudlulisela iiyure ezintathu ukuya eNapara, kuba kufuneka ugijime kumama wakho emsebenzini kwaye ulethe into ethile, hamba kunye nentombi yakho kwi-salon, okanye uhambe naye kunye naye kunye nesitoreli kwaye uncede amkhethe izicathulo zakhe. Bonisa imbali yakho okanye, ngokwenene, yenza into evela ngasentla ukuba kuyimfuneko. Ngaphandle koko, unokuyixela uxanduva olucingayo ngaye njengento yokugqithisa ngokweqile, kwaye awuyidingi.
Musa ukubeka ingcinezelo enkulu kuwe, akufuneki ukuyilawula yonke inyathelo, cela iingxelo kunye naye, kutheni ixesha elide njalo njalo, kwaye nangakumbi ungayilungiseleli izikhalazo kuye. Khumbula ukuba akakunanto kuwe, njengoko unako kuye. Kungenzeka ukuba waqhawula umkakhe ngenxa yomona. Ngendlela, iinani-manani, kwindawo ethile malunga nomyinge wemitshato iyahlukana ngokuthe ngqo ngenxa yeengxabano ezifanayo. Enye into, ukuba ithe yaphela ixesha elide - inokufakazela ukuba awunayo.
Indlela yokubuza imibuzo ngokuchanekileyo
Musa ukukhawuleza uze ubuze imibuzo kwi-knave yakho malunga nomtshato wakhe. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba akufanele usenomdla kwesi sihloko. Kuthekani ukuba wambetha umfazi? Ndicinga ukuba awukulungele ukudibana nobomi nomntu onjalo. Ngesihloko sokuqhawula umtshato kukuthetha ngokukhawuleza kwaye kungabonakali. Ungalungiselela isidlo sothando, umoya ococekileyo, ukuze umntu abuyele kwaye avulekele kuwe. Imibuzo ekhokelayo malunga nomfazi wangaphambili akufanele ibuzwe, kunye nokuqhawula umtshato ngokwawo. Ngapha koko, unokubuza malunga nomfazi ngokubanzi, yintoni ibhinqa elifanelekileyo kuye - ngexesha elifanayo kunye nolwazi lwakhe lolwazi.
Kwakulungile ukuba uqaphele ngemibuzo malunga "nomntu" wangaphambili. Ungamcindezeli, ucele iqela lemibuzo malunga nalo. Ukuba uthe wathetha ngaye ngokwakhe, ngoko akufanele ucele imibuzo ehamba phambili, kwaye kufuneka ubaleke ukuphawula. Mamela nje ngokuthula. Okunye: ukuba umntu uthetha ngomfazi wakhe owayengumfazi nje, kufuneka unakekele. Uyaqonda ukuba nakuphi na ubudlelwane kukho izibini ezilungileyo kunye nezimbi - ukuba uhlala naye kwaye utshatile, kuthetha ukuba yonke into ayimbi njengoko ibhaliwe kuwe.
Ubudlelwane nomfazi wangaphambili
Ukwahlukana akusoloko kuphelile ngokupheleleyo kulwalamano. Kufuneka uzilungiselele ukuba indoda yakho iya kuba kunye nomfazi wayo, mhlawumbi nokugcina ubudlelwane obuhle. Akukho nto enyantisayo kulobu - lo bubomi kwaye okwangoku nguwe ohlala kwindawo yothandwa wakho ebomini bakhe. Akuyimfuneko ukulungiselela amacandal ngenxa yoko, ukumgxeka kunye nangaphandle. Kungcono ngokubanzi ukuba ungene kubudlelwane. Kodwa kunelungelo lokugcina iso. Ngokukodwa ukuba umntu uhlala etyelela "indlu endala" kwaye uyazi ukuba ufuna ukutyelela. Kungenzeka ukuba akazange asenze isigqibo sokugqibela sokuphula ubudlelwane "apho" kwaye ufuna ixesha elincinane lokuchonga ngokuthe ngqo. Kule meko, uya kuba ngumntu osisigxina, ngenxa yoko uya kuqonda ukuba uthanda umfazi wakhe wangaphambili. Oku kuvakalelwa kakhulu. Ngako oko, oku akunako ukunyamezela.
Kungenzeka ukuba kukho umntwana osele kuloo ntsapho. Ngoko ke ngokuqinisekileyo ubudlelwane abuzange bube nerazvuyutsya ngokupheleleyo. Indoda ehlawula ngokufanelekileyo kunye nokunyamekela umntwana wayo kumtshato ongaphambili ngumzekelo omhle, apho kungabikho baninzi ngoku. Umbuzo omtsha kwenye, ngaba uyavuma ukuthatha lo xanduva kwaye uvumele "imiphefumlo" yabantwana endlwini nasemphefumlweni?
Iinjongo zekamva
Musa ukucinga ngokukhawuleza ukukhohla iofisi yokubhalisa. Ikhetho lokuqala lithengiswa "zhenatikom" ukukhwela. Njengomthetho, amadoda anjalo ngokuchaseneyo, thintela "amaziko" anjalo kwaye ixesha elide kakhulu ungahambi apho. Kwaye wena, ukuba ungumfazi ozilumkileyo, akufanele ucinezele indoda yakho kwaye umqinisekise ukuba kuwe ulwalamano lolwalamano, kunokuba luhlobo oluthile lwesitampu kwipaspoti yakho, ukuba wena kunye naye ulungile. Makhe azive enhle kangakanani nawe kwaye emva kweenyanga ezintandathu okanye ngomnyaka emva kokumazi, unako ukuya "kuhlambalaza."