Ziyinkxwaleko kulo, kodwa uvalelwa kubo ngenxa yezizathu ezithile? Kakade. Kodwa ungadikibali - kukho indlela yokuphuma! Into ephambili ayikuzilungelelanisa nale meko! Wena kwaye nguwe kuphela onokukunceda umntu wakho anqobe ukwesaba kwakhe. Ngoko, umbuzo oyintloko ukuza kuthi: ama-complex complexes amadoda kunye nendlela yokujongana nabasetyhini nabo. Xoxa?
UKUPHATHA 1. Ndiyinto yesibini.
Uyazi njani? Ukulindela yonke into ehlwaya, engabonakali ukunyaniseka kwakhe, kodwa ukwesaba ukuthatha inyathelo lokuqala. Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba ukhangele ingqondo kangakanani, kulula ukuba angazi kunye nawe, kodwa kunye negama elithi "grey mouse" ngokuqhelekileyo lisondela.
Yintoni endiyenzayo? Iingcali zengqondo zichaza ukuba ngokukhawuleza xa indoda ibona ibhinqa elihle phambi kwayo, ingcamango ifike kuye ngokukhawuleza: "Ubuhle obunjalo abukwazi ukuba yedwa." Ukuhlakulela kuye, uyaziqinisekisa ukuba lo wesifazane sele sele ehamba naye. Kwaye nokuba uyakwazi ukumazana naye kwaye enze naluphi na ubudlelwane, ngoko kwixesha elizayo kuyakufuneka ukuba alwe nxamnye naloo nto, ngenxa yokuba kuya kubakho izihlwele ze "kuchkavatsya" amadoda ... Musa ukuvumela iingcamango zakhe zihambe kakhulu, zithathele inxaxheba ngokwabo. "Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kukuxabisa umdla wakho kwaye uya kukwazi ukuba ungumntu onokuthetha naye ngokulula", iingcali zengqondo zithi.
UKUPHATHA 2. Ndingumntu ongenalwazi.
Uyazi njani? Xa elele embhedeni, uqala uxolo ngenxa yento engazange yenze, kwaye yonke imizuzwana engama-30 ukubuza ukuba wenza konke okulungileyo-okanye ubonisa ukunakekelwa ngokugqithiseleyo, okanye ufumana ubunzima obuthandayo. Ukucacisa iingxaki ngokuzithembela kunokuba ngumnqweno wakhe wokukhuphisana nomntu wonke. Ngaba lakho iqabane lilindele ukuthelekiswa kuwe? Ufuna ukwazi ukuba uninzi lwawe obenamthandayo phambi kwakhe, ngubani na onokuba yinto engcono kwaye kutheni? "Musani ukumangaliswa ukuba, emva kwebali lakho le-frank, uxela ukuba abaninzi abathandi bakho (nokuba ngaba uthetha kuphela amabini kuphela) banonakele kakhulu. Ukuba ngoku akanakukuthembela ngokupheleleyo, kwaye ngoko ke, ukhululeke ngokupheleleyo kwinkampani yakho, "uxwayise abantu besondo.
Yintoni endiyenzayo? Into oyifunayo kukuba ukhethe amagama afanelekileyo. Zama ukumxelela ukuba nguyena kunye kuphela, owashiya zakho zangaphambili ngenxa yokuba 'akazange' amele ecaleni 'kuye. Zama ukumnceda ukuba akhulule, kodwa ungasuswa. Emva koko, ukuba yonke into yayimangalisa, kwaye ukuxoka akunjalo into efanayo.
UKUPHATHA 3. Ndiya kukukopela.
Uyazi njani? Ngaba uchitha ixesha elininzi kunye, kwaye akazange akhonze nawe? Ungathanda ukuhamba kunye naye kude kube sekuseni, ubambe izandla, kodwa engabonakali nawaphi na amanyathelo? Ngaba ufuna ukunamathela ehlombe lakhe, kodwa ukhawuleza? Enyanisweni, umntu unokuvuma ukungathandabuzeki ngokuziphatha kwakhe ngokwesondo, ukuba akazange aphinde aphinda aphandle ngeentombi zakhe zangaphambili. Okanye, ngokuchanekileyo, malunga nendlela yabo bonke abayiphosa ngayo. Uzama ukuzakhela umculi, onobuchule ngamava, ulungele ukuthetha iiyure malunga nokutshabalaliswa kobuhlobo bonke.
Yintoni endiyenzayo? Okokuqala, ku funeka kuqatshelwe ukuba amadoda anqabile, kuba abaninzi babo bangabasindi ngokusesikweni. Benza konke okusemandleni ukuqinisekisa ukuba ubunzima "obomi bokukhohliswa" kaninzi ngangokunokwenzeka kubonakala kubasetyhini. Okwesibini, ngokusongela - eli ligama lolu bunzima - unako kwaye kufuneka ulwe. Apha, amaqhinga okulinda ayadingeka. Akufanele ukhawuleze ukwakha ulwalamano, kuba uloyiko lokuba ngokukhawuleza ukuba uthembele, uya kuwusebenzisa ngokukhawuleza ngenjongo yokuzingca. Ukuba uthatha inyathelo ezandleni zakho, ufuna ukuqala ulwalamano, uze uwaphule, oko kukuthi, ukuliphonsa, akuyi kuba nzima kuwe. Makuqonde ukuba ulindele isinyathelo sokuqala kuye. Yiba nje ngokukhawuleza nangokunyaniseka kunokwenzeka. Yiyo kanye into awayilindele kuwe. Zonke izicwangciso zakhe eziqhelekileyo ziya kuqubuka - kwaye uya kutshintsha ukuba ngcono.
UKUPHATHA 4. ANGAKHUMBULWA.
Uyazi njani? Uhlala ehlala ekhaya edinwa, nangona xa eofisini yonke imini uhamba esuka kwindawo eya kwindawo eneefayili kunye namaxwebhu. Okanye silungele ixesha elikhulu lokuphulaphula ibali lakho malunga nezicathulo ozilinganisela kwisitoreji esichaphazelekayo, kodwa ungalokothi uphethe igama malunga neengxaki zabo.
Yintoni endiyenzayo? Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umntu azibonele emsebenzini. Kodwa nangona wenza iphosakelo ekukhetheni ubugcisa, oku akuthethi ukuba unyanzelekile ukuba ahlupheke kule nkathazo ebomini bakhe bonke. Zama ukuqalisa ingxoxo malunga nento ayithandayo ebuntwaneni. Emva koko, abantwana baninzi bathanda into abayenzayo. Ukuba wayethanda ukwenza iindiza, mxelele ngokungathi ngamathuba malunga neqela lezithili zeenqwelo zezixhobo. Waya kuyo yonke indawo kunye noZenith owayedala kwaye wayifaka yonke into? Emva koko kufuneka umemele embonisweni wesithombe uze wenze isipho - ikhamera entsha. Kwaye, xa ekugqibeleni, uya kuba neyona nto yokuzonwabisa, nokuba ingaxhunyiwe nomsebenzi, kodwa oko kuya kumvuyisa, ishishini lakhe e-ofisi liya kuhamba kakuhle.
UKUPHELELA 5. "IPAPIK".
Uyazi njani? Ngokuqhelekileyo umntu uyaziqhenya ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba "kwi-arsenal" yakhe inkosikazi encinci, okanye ukwesaba ukuba ubuhle bakhe buza kufumana umncinane umthandi. Ngaphantsi kwenketho yesibini, angathanda ukubona ukuba bambalwa abantu abazinikezele ubuhlobo bakho ngokusemandleni. Ngokukodwa xa kuziwa ngokubonakala kunye nawe - ngokukhawuleza wonk 'ubani uya kucinga ukuba ungumzukulwana wakhe?
Yintoni endiyenzayo? Akuyimfuneko ukuyidonsa kwindawo apho kunokwenzeka khona ukumtyhila njengomkhulu. Zama ukumkhumbuza kaninzi ukuba akekho oontanga onokukunika oko anikayo. Emva koko, unomdla ngakumbi kuye? Apha apha kwaye kufuneka enze ukugqamisa.
UKUPHATHA 6. NDIYE MSEBENZI.
Uyazi njani? Awunayo ukuqonda ukuba unenene le nkxwaleko - uyinto yonke, kunye nawe, kuquka. Kuphela kufuneka ufune isigqibo sokuba umlingani wakho unzima kangakanani kwaye oko akumvumeli ukuba aphile ngokuthula. Into eyodwa ekhulwini lepesenti ye-inferiority complex is jealousy.
Yintoni endiyenzayo? Ukuba lakhe icala alilona lihlala likhona, into ebaluleke kakhulu akuyikugxila kwizinto ezibangele ukungaqiniseki kwakhe. Ngokomzekelo, kunokukhula okuncinci, isisu sebhiya, intloko yentloko, njl. Ncokola ngakumbi malunga nokufaneleka kwayo. Emva koko, ukuba unenkathazo malunga nokuvumelanisa kwemilenze yakho, ngoko kungakhathaliseki ukuba uthetha kangakanani ukuba bahle, abayi kuba mncwane. Ngoko ke, ukuba u mfutshane, dumise ingqondo yakhe kunye neentloni; ukuba unolwazi - ukukwazi ukudlala i-shihmata ephezulu, njl. Kwiimeko ezikhethiweyo ezingakumbi, indoda engahlanganiswanga ngokupheleleyo izama ukuhlawulela iimpazamo zakhe ngokuhlazisa abo bajikelezile. Ukuba ngokukhawuleza uqale uvakalelwa kukuba uzama ukukuphinda, kufuneka ucinge: ngaba ubudlelwane naye basebenzise ngokulinganayo. Ukuba kunjalo, ngoko uncedo ekuxazululeni le ngxaki kubalulekile ukuphendukela kubaqeqeshi ukuncedisa.
UKUPHATHA 7. NDIYAVUMELA.
Uyazi njani? Kuyabonakala ngathi ukuba kukho konke kwaye uhlala efuna ukuba yinto engcono kakhulu, ngaba kubi? Ewe, oku kulungile, kodwa kuyo yonke into kufuneka uyiqonde umlinganiselo. Kufuneka ihlawule ingqalelo yintoni na intlawulo eyinika inkokheli ngonaphakade. Ukuba, umzekelo, wathembisa ukwenza okuthile kuwe, kodwa ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukahlukeneyo azinako, ngoko uya kumdla ngaphakathi ngaphakathi ade azalisekise isithembiso. Nangona uyazi kakuhle ukuba unokwenza lula ngaphandle kwalo.
Yintoni endiyenzayo? Kubalulekile ukuba umntu avume ukuba uyamthanda. Uthande ngendlela. Kwaye i-asterisk encinci evela esibhakabhakeni iya kuba yanele kuwe. Ngoko ukuba, ngokomzekelo, ngeli lihlobo akanakukwazi ukuhamba nawe eholide ukuya kwiiIihawaii Islands, uzame ukunikela: "Ndoda, sithini ukuba sichitha le holide kwi-dacha yakho?" Ewe, uya ku ma ngaliswa, kodwa "Ndiyabonga." Kwaye zonke izenzo zakhe ezongezelelweyo ziya kuthethwa nje ngomsindo wokubulela ngenxa yokuba uyamthanda. Uthande kungekhona nje kuphela kwaye kungabi nakakhulu kwizipho ezibizayo.
UKUZIPHATHA 8. NDENYE IMALI.
Uyazi njani? Yena, ekhanda lakhe, ehamba ngokudlulayo iindleko zokutya, ugweme ukuthetha ngemicimbi yeemali, ubiza bonke abantu abangabancinci okanye abancinci kunye nabasemagunyeni baze bathi i-suit yeedola eziliwaka iya kuthengwa kuphela ngumdemani. Enye inketho inokwenzeka - into eyahlukileyo: kunye naye, indoda yenza loo nto, echaza indlela ebalulekileyo ngayo ukuhlala kwiRublevka, ukukhwela i-limousine, kwaye ugqoke iimpahla okungenani kwiRalph Lauren.
Yintoni endiyenzayo? Kuzo zombini kwezi ziko, indoda yakho inenkinga yokubeka izinto eziphambili. Umsebenzi wakho oyintloko kukuthetha ngokubanzi malunga neenzuzo ezingekho kwizinto eziphathekayo, kodwa ngokomoya. Wena, kunokwenzeka ukuba, awuyi kuzisa enye imizekelo okanye emibini ukuzama ukumenza aphinde ahlalutye iimpawu zakhe. Zama ukuhamba naye kwi-cafe elula, apho ithule kwaye ipholile kwaye unokuthetha ngentliziyo ngokukhuselekileyo. Unokuya kwimiboniso, ebonisa omnye umculi onobugcisa ongenayo imali yokungena. Okanye kwikhonkethi yeqela elincomekayo kodwa elingaxhaswanga kakuhle eliqhuba kwiiklabhu mahhala. Uya kubona, uyayeka ukuxhalabisa ngemali, ngokukhawuleza ukuba uyaqonda ukuba yonke into iyabiza, akunjalo. Ukuba uyamthanda, kwaye uthando lwakho aluxhomekeke kwimali yemali okanye izipho. Yaye ukuba unobaluleke ngakumbi kunokuba ukhangele.
UKUZIPHATHA 9. ANGAZI NGOKUZIPHUMA.
Uyazi njani? Umzekelo onjalo: Uvela eMoscow - uyiphondo, ufumana imali efanelekileyo - uyasindisa yonke ipensenti, uphumelele kwi-University State yaseMoscow ne-diploma ebomvu - wagxothwa kwinjineli ngonyaka wokuqala. Kungenzeka ukuba indoda yakho inesidima esivamile. Ewe, ewe, kunye nazo zonke iziphene ezibonakalayo kunye nale nto - akukho nto ifaniswe nokufaneleka. Yonke into ehlabathini iyalinganisa. Yaye xa unako okwaneleyo kwintsilelo, unento yokufundisana ukuze ujabule ukulinganisela kobudlelwane. Yaye inyaniso yokuba uvela kwi "sandboxes" ezahlukeneyo - ayikho nto ebaluleke kakhulu. Izinto ziyinkimbinkimbi xa umntu wakho engaphepheli nge-foam emlonyeni ubonisa ukuba kulula kumaMuscovites asekuhlaleni ukuba aphile ngokulula, ukuba konke kulula kuba onyana bakaPapa, ukuba unokuthenga idiploma nayiphi nayunivesithi, kwaye awuyi kuzuza imali enkulu ngeendlela ezithembekileyo. Kodwa nangona konke oku unokukwazi ukuhlangabezana nayo.
Yintoni endiyenzayo? Kuphutha ukumxelela ngokucacileyo ukuba indlela yakhe yokuziphatha kunye nokuziphatha kwakhe kubonisa iingxaki zakhe zangaphakathi, nokuba ziphi na. Ukuba unengcambu ehlukeneyo yoluntu-zama nje ukungaqwalasela izinto ezincinane ezahlukileyo. Kufuneka ufumane iminqweno efanayo, uhambe kunye nento enye, ngokuthe rhoqo kuthi "thina". Kwaye ke nina mabini niya kuba nye. Yaye uyayeka ukucinga, ekugqibeleni, ukuba awunomhlobo komnye nomnye.
UKUZIPHATHA 10. SINENKCAZO YOKWENZA IMINYAKA.
Uyazi njani? Ebomini, ngokuqinisekileyo wonke umntu uhlangabezana neengxaki ezimbini ezinxulumene nobudala: owokuqala-eneminyaka engamashumi amathathu, okwesibini - xa ephantse-mane mane anesihlanu. Elikuqala lixesha lokuqulunqwa kokuqala, xa umntu evavanya oko aphumelele kwaye oko kusele kwenziwa. Okwesibini kubangelwa ngumnqweno wokusebenza ngamaphutha adlulileyo: utshintshe imisebenzi, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abasondelene naye.
Yintoni endiyenzayo? Ngokuqala kokukhethwa kwakho ekugqibeleni, nokuba kukuphazamiseka kwabo bonke ubudlelwane, okanye isibonelelo sokutshata. Okwesithathu okwesibini - zama ukudweba kwimifanekiso yakhe yobomi bentsapho yakho. Inkathazo yeminyaka emashumi mane indoda iphila nzima kunzima. Nantsi into efanelekileyo kunokuba ube nomonde kwaye uzama ukuba ngowokuqala kunye nomhlobo omhle.
Ukugqibela ukuxilongwa.
- Iingama-75% zamantombazana zihlupheke kwiinkqubo zamadoda abo.
- Ama-50% azama ukulwa neendoda ezinzima.
- 13% bakholelwa ukuba abatsha babo banomdla onzima.
- 28% bakholelwa ukuba umntu uhamba, ekholelwa ukuba akafanelanga.
- Ama-50% aqinisekisile ukuba akukho namadoda ngaphandle kweengxaki kwaye, ngokusemgangathweni, akunako. Kwaye ukuchasana nemvelo yindoda kukuchitha ixesha kunye namandla.
- I-27% yazama ukujongana neengxaki zabantu, kodwa ngelishwa, isiphumo asizange siphumelele.
- I-23% yabantombazana ithi bayakwazi ukukholisa amadoda abo ukuba izakhiwo zabo azikholwanga.