Iinyembezi zeendoda njengezixhobo ezinamandla, yenza amadoda. Benza imfesane kunye nokuphelelwa ithemba. Kwaye benza njani abafazi-iinyembezi zamadoda? Ngamanye amaxesha, abafazi bayakhohlwa ukuba amadoda ayingabantu abafana nomphefumlo kunye nentliziyo. Amadoda anamava kwaye afuna ukufudumala kunye nothando.
Kutheni abantu bekhala. Kukho izizathu ezininzi zeendwangu zendoda ezibuhlungu, okanye iinyembezi. Ukuba indoda iyancipha le ntsizi, ngoko ayiyi kuba "ingqungquthela", akakwazi ukuzithintela kuyo yonke inzondo evela kwinto eyenzekayo. Kwaye umntu onamandla kakhulu unokubonisa iimvakalelo zabo. Kwaye ababuthathaka baya kunkwantya.
Inkxwaleko eyingozi kakhulu eyenza umntu akhale ngukufa komntu osondele kwizihlobo zakhe: abahlobo. Nangona kulona xesha lilukhuni lobomi, umele nje ahlale engqinelana nobomi. Thatha zonke iingxaki zokungcwaba wena. Le nkqubo yinkimbinkimbi kakhulu, idinga amandla okhethekileyo. Kodwa, ngexesha apho onke amalungiselelo emingcwaba ephelile, loo mntu uyabuyisela kwaye apha kwaye uphume kuye, nokuba yiyilwanyana, ukungafihli, okanye nje idama eliza kuthenga intlungu.
Amadoda amaninzi akwazi ukulimela iinyembezi xa ehlukana nomfazi othandekayo. Abanalo amandla okulwa, ukubuyisela intanda. Kuzo zonke izinto ezenzekayo, baqala ukuba neentlanzi, kwaye banokuthi, njengabesifazane, bangene emkhombeni. Kodwa kuya kuba ngumzuzu omnye walezinyembezi ezingabikho mntu uya kuzibona.
Ngexesha leenkonzo zecawa, amadoda abonisa iintlungu. Kodwa, sele sele ihamba ngokukhawuleza, nguThixo ongena emphefumlweni wabo, aze atyhile zonke iingcambu ezifihliweyo zomphefumlo. Kulo mzuzwana indoda iya kuba yedwa, kwaye ayibonisi amandla kunye nobukhulu bayo. Uba ngumntwana nje, ucocekile kwaye uvulekile.
Abasetyhini bacinga ukuba kuphela abanokukufumana ngentshiseko isifo sabantwana. Yiyo kuphela eyayiba novelwano nabanye. Indoda ekuqondeni ibhinqa, ngokuqhelekileyo ibhenqa elikhuni elingenakubonisa iimvakalelo zalo phantsi kweemeko.
Ukuba ngaba bafazi kuphela. Kwenzeka ntoni entliziyweni yomntu ngeli xesha. Kuyamkhathaza kwaye kunesizungu kule mizuzu. Akakwazi ukukhala njengowesifazane, akanako ukubiza abahlobo bakhe aze akhale ekhanda lakhe. Ngenxa yokuba yenziwe kwenye "ukuvavanya", iqhubeka ixesha elide ngaphezu komfazi.
Awuzange uzibuze ukuba kutheni abantu befa ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwiminyaka ekhulileyo xa behlaselwa yintliziyo. Ngenxa yokuba abanakho ukubonisa iimvakalelo zabo, iintlungu zabo. Konke oku kuhleli phakathi kwabo, kwaye uyaphule intliziyo ngokuthe ngcembe ibe ngamaqhezu amancinci. Udla umphefumlo. Utshisa yonke iminyango yomzimba. Kodwa abakwazi ukubonisa oku, kuba bacinga ukuba bangaphantsi kwesidima sabo.
Kodwa bahlala phi batshabalalisa iimvakalelo zabo? Bafumana enye indlela, baphuze, baphuze baphuze. Kubonakala kubo ukuba utywala yindlela kuphela yokuphuma kuzo zonke izikhundla. Ukuze amadoda angabikho phantsi kwabo, abazange bangene ekuphuzeni ukuphuza, thina-bafazi kufuneka sibancede. Singabokuqala kubo bonke oomama abafanele kwaye banyanzelekile ukuba bazive oonyana babo, amadoda abo, bazalwana. Abasetyhini banamandla ngakumbi ngokuziphatha kunamadoda.
Awukwazi ukuhlazisa umntu ukuba uye wakhalela phambi kwakho. Iinyembezi zeendoda zihluke kwiinyembezi zeentombi. Abasetyhini bayakhala ngokungekho. Indoda inokukhala kuphela ngomzuzwana othile, xa umphefumlo wakhe sele ugcwele imizwa. Indoda ithetha intlungu - ithetha kakhulu, ithetha ukuba indoda enomntu othembekileyo kwaye wazibonakalisa kuwe ngaphandle kwegobolondo yakhe nzima.
Abasetyhini banakekela abantu, ababaninzi kubo kweli hlabathi. Bayeke baphume ekhaya, bahlale bekhala baze bakhala, kwaye ulalele ngokukhawuleza ukukhala kwabo komphefumlo. Ungaze u khumbule, khumbula ungalokothi uhlekise umntu.