Oo, la madoda ... Thina, bafazi, sinzima kakhulu kwaye silumkileyo, kwaye intliziyo iyaziqonda kwaye ziyiqonda, inzululwazi ingenanto engenawo amandla. Unokuyiqonda njani le mibalo kaThixo, eyadalwa ngomfanekiso nomfanekiselo womfazi owenziwe kwiimbambo?
Kwaye ukuba ukhangeleka kwimbono yezinto eziphilayo, ke indoda ayikho enye yindoda yomntu ochasene nomfazi kwi-biological sex. Into eyona nto kukukugqiba kwixesha, obani ngexesha elinikwe lona umntu "ngumfanekiso" wezinto ezifanelekileyo, intanda okanye nokuba yindoda yendalo yeHomo Sapiens.
Xa uzimisele ngokuchanekileyo ngubani ongaphambi kwakho, uya kukwazi ukujamelana nayo ngokulula. Akuthethi umzabalazo wokusinda kwimihlaba ethile, kodwa ukwazi ukufumana ulwimi olufanayo kunye nalolu dalo nokuseka ubuncinane "insimu eqhelekileyo". Kubalulekile ukwenza oku ngaphambi kokuhamba ngentloko ukuya entloko ukutshata intanda, kodwa umntu ongenakuqondakalayo.
Ingaba siyayithanda okanye ayikho, abantu bayakha inxalenye enkulu yoluntu lwethu.
Ngoko ke, ukuqonda umntu, nokuba engqondweni, nokuba entliziyweni, okanye ngoncedo lweengcamango zesayensi-kubaluleke kakhulu. Ngokomntu, ndicinga ukuba kunjalo, nangona kukholwa ukuba amadoda angaphantsi kwabesetyhini. Kodwa sijamelana nawo onke amaxesha-ekhaya, emsebenzini, esitratweni, kwizothutho ... Bangobani, amadoda ethu? Babawo, bazalwana, madoda, bathande, bahlobo ... Bonke aba bantu basondeleyo, esinokubakhathalela, kunye nobudlelwane obubaluleke kakhulu kuthi. Kwaye ekubeni ulwalamano, ekuqinisekiseni kwam, lufanele lulethe kuphela iimvakalelo ezintle, kubalulekile ukuzakhela ngokuchanekileyo, kwaye oku kuyenzeka kuphela kumfazi, indoda ayinakukhathazeka ngayo.
Akuyena wonke umfazi onokuziqhayisa ukuba yena namadoda akhe banalo ubudlelwane obukhulu. Emva koko, njengoko bethetha, "indoda ayikwazi ukuyiqonda ingqondo, inzululwazi ingenamandla". Ukwakha ubudlelwane kunye nesini esahlukileyo ngokwenene isayensi yonke, kwaye kunesizathu kunye nengqiqo, ukuqonda, ukuqonda ukuqonda komntu wakho, ngaphandle koko uthando aluyi kuba namandla. Kodwa ekubeni akukho xesha lokubheka iincwadi zethu, kukho amaninzi amaninzi, kwaye akuyiyo yonke imibuzo efumaneka kwiimpendulo, kufuneka sithembele kuphela kumava ethu obomi.
Kwaye kuyimfuneko ukuqhubeka kwinto yokuba wonke umntu - umntu ngamnye kunye neyonke imeko ekhonkco-yiyo yonke imeko yekhonkrithi. Ibhinqa kufuneka, hayi, kufuneka ubenobulumko. Akulungele ukuba sinike lo bulumko, kodwa sibukhali ngokuqhagamshelana namadoda, apho simele sikubonge ngokukhululekileyo. Awukwazi ukukhubeka ngamadoda, ukucaphuka, njalo njalo, kufuneka uwathande.
Ndicinga, njengamanje uninzi kuni, iintlanga zam zintanda, zindiza kuloo ndawo. Kwenzeka njani ukuba bathande? Yintoni na? Emva kwakho konke, banjalo-kwaye-kubi kakhulu kwaye bonke abayiyo indlela ofuna ngayo. Kodwa nangona kunjalo, ulwalamano lufanele lube luncedo. Emva kwakho konke, ukuba ucinga ukuba kutheni sifuna amadoda? Ngokuqinisekileyo, kungekhona ukunyanzelisa, esele sinyanzele, ubomi bethu.
Ukuba ulwalamano lungakhiwa ngokuchanekileyo, ngoko thina, bafazi, siya kuphila lula kwaye sivuya ngakumbi. Ngokubanzi, ukukwazi ukufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo luvela kumntu onengqiqo. Kwaye ukuba umntu unomdla kuthi, siza kuphuma esikhumbeni, kodwa siza kubonakalisa kwicala elingcono, akunjalo?
Kule ndlela kulandela ukuba ukuze ufikelele ekuqondeni nendoda, kufuneka asithande, okanye angcono kangako-njengokuba kakhulu. Yingakho ekuqaleni kobudlelwane asibonanga iimpazamo zekhethiweyo zethu. Bathi uthando luyimpumputhe ... Hayi, mhlawumbi umntu wenza oko, umzekelo, kubafazi abancinane abanamava, kodwa umfazi onamava uya kuhlala eqikelela ubunzima kunye neengqungquthela, kwaye kuphela ke "baya kukhwela" indoda.
Yona inkqubo yokutsala ingqalelo ngesini esahlukileyo iyinkimbinkimbi, kodwa, ngokusemthethweni, kungcono ukwenza into. Amadoda - ahlukeneyo kwaye ngamnye ufuna indlela yakhe ekhethekileyo, kwaye isiqubulo esithi "indoda ayikwazi ukuqonda ingqondo, inzululwazi ingenamandla", ngokwenene ifaneleke kuphela kubaphuphi abafunayo kwaye abanakuyifumana "iinduna" zabo nayiphi na indlela.
Kulo mfazi, imeko yakhe yokomoya ibaluleke kakhulu, ngoko ukuba uziva ukhululekile kunye nomntu okhangele kuwe, oko sele sele isiqingatha sempumelelo. Kunzima ukuba wonke umntu aqonde umfazi. Yaye ukuba unayo "ikopi" enokuvakalelwa kwaye unokuchaza into enamava akho - ujabule. Kwaye xa ugubha le nyaniso, unokutshata ngokutsha okanye udale ubuhlobo obude kakhulu.
Enye ingqungquthela eyonakalisa ubomi bethu kukubonakaliswa kwamadoda ngobuhle. Bobabini iintengiso kunye nosapho banika igalelo lokuba kuye, okhethiweyo, ubuhle bubaluleke kakhulu. Umabonwakude kunye namaphephancwadi asitshela indlela yokungaxhatshazeki nokugqibeleleyo. Kodwa ngelo xesha, amadoda ngokwawo anomdla, uyavela, angabhalwa phantsi, kodwa abafazi abanomdla kubo. Nangona, into encinci ikholwa kulo, ukunyaniseka.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuba simthanda umntu kwaye ubalulekile kuthi, simele simxolele ngazo zonke iimpazamo zakhe neempazamo. Ndingathanda ukuxolelwa ngenxa yokungaphumeleli kwethu okuncinci.