Akukho mntu unokuphikisana nenyaniso yokuba isiqingatha esihle sabantu sithandeka ngakumbi kunesondo esahlukileyo. Umoya ngumbonakalo obalaseleyo kubasetyhini. Ngenxa yokuba siyakwazi ukubonisa iimvakalelo zethu, iimvakalelo zezona nkalo azizange zithintele, kodwa, ngokuchaseneyo, ziyavuselelwa. Kwaye kuthiwani ukuba isiqingatha sesibini asinasenzo esibangela ukubonakalisa iimvakalelo kubasetyhini? Ukuzama ukwabelana ngamava akho ngothandekayo, awufumani impendulo kunye naye? Yintoni esiya kuthixelela yona?
Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokubanda kwamadoda.
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Ukususela ebuntwaneni, ukukhulisa kudlala indima ebalulekileyo ebomini bomi nawuphi na umntu. Ngokumalunga namadoda, kufuneka kuqatshelwe apha ukuba ukukhulelwa kungenza inkwenkwe encinci ibe ngumntu onobubele, onovelwano, owaneleyo kwaye onamandla. Emva koko, iintetho ezinjengokuthi "musa ukukhala, ungumntu" okanye "ungabi njengentombazana" inika into ebizwa ngokuba yimpembelelo. Ukwenqaba ngokweqela ukuba kubonakale i-rannimymokruzhayuschim, abafana, iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo ngamanye amaxesha zithatyathwa yintloni kunye nokubandayo.
Intsebenziswano phakathi kwabazali-phakathi
Inkqubo yobuntwana ibeka isiseko esomeleleyo kakhulu sokubuyisela ubuntu bomntu. Ngoko, umzekelo, abazali abangabonakali nantoni na impawu zothando kumntwana, kwaye phakathi kwabo, ubuhlobo bwakhiwa kwintsapho enjalo kubakho banda. Kule meko, kunokucinga ukuba umntwana, ekubeni ngumdala, uya kukopisha indlela abazali abaziphatha ngayo, kuba umntu unokuthi bafundisa le nto. Ngomntu onjalo kuya kubakho ukunyamezela into yokuba awuyi kuva amazwi omsa nothando, oku akuthethi ukuba akasenayo imvakalelo, ayenjalo, akasetyenziswanga ukubonisa ngokulula.
Izinto ezidlulileyo zexesha elidlulileyo
Nakhu kumele kuqatshelwe ukuba ukuba umntu, ngomzekelo, ebudaleni beminyaka engama-10 ubudala, wayengenalo uthando, ingakumbi ukuba wayehamba kunye nokukhohliswa, isizathu sokuba kwixesha elizayo uza kubambelela kwiingcamango ezifana nale ndlela: "ngokukhawuleza" kwaye "ungathembi ngaphandle kwakho" . Mhlawumbi ekupheleni kwexesha, iziganeko ezingamnandi ziya kususa kwimemori, kwaye kuya kuba nelithuba lokwakha ubudlelwane obuqinileyo kunye nesiqingatha sesibini.
Imiphumo yomntu
Ukususela kumaxesha amandulo, loo mntu uye wabelwa inani lemisebenzi, njengomzekelo, ukuveliswa kokutya, ukuzingela izilwanyana zasendle. Kuyafaneleka ukuba uqaphele ukuba isimo sengqondo somntu ophumelelayo wesondlo akufanele sithandeke kwaye sivelele. Kwixesha la mandulo kumadoda, umgangatho weqhawe lixabiseke gqitha. Kwaye oku kubonisa ukuqina kwamandla, ukunyaniseka, ukunyaniseka kwengqondo.
Kuyathakazelisa ukuba izazinzulu zaseCanada zenze uphando ukuze zichongiwe iinkalo zengqondo ejongene nenxalenye yengqondo yokuziphatha. Ngaloo ndlela, kubonakaliswe ukuba kumadoda, ngenxa yokuvela kwemvakalelo, kukho ukwahlukana okucacileyo kwengqondo. Kwaye ngabafazi, apha, ngokuchaseneyo, iindawo ezithintekayo zengqondo zikhoyo zombini nakwi-right hemisphere yengqondo. Kwaye siza kugqiba ekubeni umntu ophethwe ngokwasemzimbeni ulungelelanise ngokuhlukileyo. Ngoko ke, umntu akakwazi ukujonga ingxaki efanayo kunye nomfazi ngokulinganayo. Masithi nje ukuba amadoda aqiqa ngokucacileyo, ngelixa abafazi bengabonakali. Unokwenza umzekelo. Umfazi ubuyela ekhaya, kwaye uqala ukwabelana ngamava akhe ngesiqingatha sesibini, kwaye asebenzise inyaniso yokuba umntu uyayiphulaphula, unikezela ngokupheleleyo imizwa. Kodwa le ndoda ayinomdla kwiimvakalelo kunye nemvakalelo, kule meko ibonisa ngokucokisekileyo indlela le nto okanye loo ngxaki ingavela ngayo, kwaye yintoni ekufuneka yenziwe ukuze igweme.
Okanye ngaba kunokwenzeka ukugqiba ukuba oku kungabandakanyeki?
Enyanisweni, kunzima ukubeka imida phakathi kwale ngcamango njengokungabandakanyeki kunye nokubanda komoya. Konke kuba zifana nokubonakala. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafazi bazama ukuthethelela nasiphi na isenzo sokhetho lwabo kwisikhokelo esifuna. Kodwa le yimpazamo.
Ukuze kunikezelwe uhlolo lwesigqibo sesigqithatha sesibini, kubalulekile ukujonga le meko kwinqanaba elingathathi hlangothi. Wena, kuyimfuneko ukulahla iminqweno kunye neemvakalelo zakho kumlingane kwaye uthathe ukhangelelwano olunzulu kwizinto. Ukuchazwa kakuhle komntu kunokufunyanwa ngokuvavanya kwezenzo zakhe. Hlalani nijonge kwaye nizenzele isigqibo.