Eyokuqala kukukhawuleza, ngubani oza kuphakamisa ubuhle bakhe ngobuso obukhangayo, ngezwi elithambileyo.
Uhlobo lwesibini lububi. Intetho yakhe inamandla kwaye ikhusekisa, akafuni nje ukuyihlaba umxhwele, kodwa ukukhusela umfazi, ukubeka kwisimo esinjalo ukuba kuya kuba lula ukuyilawula. Abantu abanjalo bavame ukubonakala benxila kunokuba bekunjalo, kwaye basebenzise amagama anzima.
Amadoda ohlobo lwesithathu angaguqukela kwisitye samatye, awanakunqanda ngokupheleleyo. Uthemba ukuba ukuthula kwakhe kunye nesimo somfanekiso kuya kuba nomdla kumfazi, kwaye uya kuba nomdla kubo.
Xa uyazi iindlela zokukhohlisa amadoda, kulula ukuba ukhethe umgca wokuziphatha kwimeko nganye.
Xa i-flatterer, leCasanova, eya kufumana i-eulogy, idumise ubuhle bakho, sicebisa umfazi ukuba angamomotheka ngokungazicukucezi, musa ukudibana okanye ukugubha. Kufuneka ukhunjulwe ukuba akayikukuthanda kakhulu, ingaba ufuna ukudibanisa kwaye ufumane ithuba lokuthintela kwingxoxo. Faka isicelo semithetho yakhe yomdlalo, bulela, uze udumise ngokubuyisela. Zama ukuncoma kwakho ngezantsi kwaye kufuneka ucinge ngako. Kwimizuzwana embalwa indoda ilahlekile, igaye into oyithethileyo, kwaye ngaloo mzuzu inzuzo iya kubakho. Yiya kuhlaseli, mbuze, ipolisi enemibuzo malunga nokusebenza kunye nokuzonwabisa. Zama ukufunda okungakumbi ngaye, ngaba nguye umntu owufunayo? Kwaye kuncinane kunokwenzeka, unike ulwazi malunga nawe.
Ukuba umntu uqala ukunyaniseka, ungayikhokheli ingqalelo amagama akhe ahlambulukileyo, ungabonakali ukuba ukhubekile okanye uyatshitshiswa. Ubuqhetseba bayo yindlela yokufumana inzuzo yokuziphatha phezu kwakho, ngandlela-thile ukunqanda. Uya kuzama ukukubandakanya kwimpikiswano - akukho mzekelo ungahambi kuyo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni umxholo weengxabano - ubugcisa, ezopolitiko, imvelo - kuphela unomdla kuye, kwaye akayazi nayiphi enye indlela yokufika kuwe. Napha, kwakhona, ukukhusela okulungileyo kukuqala ukubuza imibuzo. Indoda enyanzelekile ukuba iphendule kubo iya kumisa ukukhawuleza kwaye iya kukhankanywa kwiindawo zakhe. Ixesha lokuqalisa ukuhlaselwa. Ndimboze ngeemibuzo, kwaye uya kukhwankqiswa ngokukhawuleza ukupholisa phantsi kwaye ubuyele kwifom ephuculweyo yencoko. Nanku kuya kufumaneka ukuba kuyayifanelekile ukuyiqonda, nokuba umntu othakazelisayo uyazifihla emva kwentetho engcolileyo okanye ayikho. Ngokuqhelekileyo impendulo iya kuba yinto enhle, kwaye ubuqhetseba obubuqili kunye nokungabi nantlontya luyi-shell nje, emva kokuba umntu oqhelekileyo efihla.
Indlela elula yokujongana ne "ityitye". Ekuboneni okokuqala yindoda engenakufikeleleka, kodwa imfihlelo kukuba kuyimfuneko ukumbuza, njengokungathi kudlula, umbuzo othile ofuna impendulo enzulu, kwaye uya kuba yecala elikhuselayo, aphume kwimeko yakhe ebuthathaka, uMephistopheles. Kwaye ke umxholo oqhelekileyo wemibuzo yobuqu kufuneka ulandele: apho ahlala khona, indlela afumana ngayo, njl. Udlala kunye naye, kuba konke akufunayo kukuza kuqala uze uthathe uxanduva malunga nento eyenzekayo. Kodwa uya kuhlala unenzuzo kwincoko, kwaye nguwe kuphela oza kuqikelela ukuba uza kufikelela phi. Ungavumeli ukuba amadoda akuthathele kwingxoxo de uze uqiniseke ukuba uwatyebile.
Amadoda athandwa ngabanesibindi, abazithembekileyo, abafazi abanomnqweno-bacela umngeni kubo, bafanele bahlulwe. Musa ukucinga ukuba amadoda ayesaba abafazi banamhlanje, abanokuzithemba, abanengqondo. Abayikwesaba ngabo nonke, bayabathanda. Ukuba udibana nendoda enomtsalane, jama ukuyicacisa kuye: bonisa ukuba uyonwaba ncokola naye, bonisa intsingiselo ebomini bakhe, izinto ezithandwayo. Emva koko, ngoncedo lwezicelo ezincinci (ukuzisa iglasi, ukufaka indawo esihlalweni), ukuqinisa ubungqina bakhe bunini malunga nawe. Kwaye ekubeni eziva ukuba ungumnini wakho, phantse uphumelele: umhlobo wakho omtsha uya kuqala ukukukhusela kumabango abanye abantu, kwaye uvakalelo lwakhe luya kuphakama kakhulu xa umxelela ukuba unayo. Akukho nto yokwandisa ukuzithemba komntu kunye nesithakazelo sakhe sokuthandana nawe kunokuba ulwe (mhlawumbi uya kuphumelela).
Ukuba indoda ifuna abanye bazuze ukuxhamla kwakhe, amandla, isibindi, imali ayifumanayo, ngoko umfazi kufuneka aqonde ubuhle bakhe. Umntu ongeyisivila kakhulu ukuphinda umphinda wakhe umfazi imihla ngemihla: "Thixo wam, uhle kangakanani!" - unokuziva ekhuselekile ngokupheleleyo: akayi kunyanzelwa ukuba ahlambe izitya, ubeke yonke imvuzo yakhe etafileni, kwakhona abuyele esitolo. Kwaye, ngokuchasene noko, umfazi, makunakekele ngokubonakalayo kwindoda yakhe, ngokukhawuleza ube ngumncinci: uya kukhubekisa, akhononde ngezilonda zakhe ezininzi, aphephe kwaye ekugqibeleni, ukufa kwakhe kumyeni. Isimo sengqondo somntu kumfazi ngokubanzi sinqunywe ngumnqweno "wokuzisa ukuphazamiseka," ukumangaliswa, kubangele ukuthokoza, ukumangaliswa ngamabali angenangqiqo. Ibhinqa ngolu hlobo lugxininise emhlabathini, akaze afike adibanise abantu ngezinto awazange abe nazo ebomini bakhe. Uya kuvuya gqitha. Unayo okwaneleyo oku, kunye namandla, kunye nokunyamezela. Abasetyhini ngaphezu kwananto nantoni ehlabathini bayamkeleka izinto ezimangalisayo.
Ukuba indoda ifuna ukulahla umfazi oqhaqhaqhawulayo, makamthenge yonke imihla into emnandi. Ukuba ibhinqa liba ngumthwalo kumntu ongathandekiyo, akazithengi nto, kuncinci kuye, kodwa uya kumshiya yedwa kwiyure xa ebuyela ekhaya evela emsebenzini aze amnike ithuba lokwenza oko akufunayo. Amadoda adinga ukuthula njengento yokuhlambela ebushushu abayithandayo. Ngokufanayo, abasetyhini badinga umzobo omncinci oya kubavuyisa njengesilwanyana esifizileyo. Amadoda ayifuni isidingo sokuthetha ixesha elide kwifowuni, ukuba ibhinqa-le ngenye yezinto ezilungileyo kakhulu. Bafuna ubuncinane iyure ngosuku ukuze bafumane okulungileyo. Amadoda adinga eli lixa ukuzola. Emva kokuba uPythagoras wathi: "Iqabane elihle, ukuba ufuna indoda yakho ichithe ixesha lakho elikhululekile kufuphi nawe, zama ukungafumani unonwabo oluninzi, ukonwaba, ukuthozama nokunyamekela kwenye indawo."
Ukugcina indoda kunye nokuqinisa intsapho, ibhinqa kufuneka likhumbule kwaye ligcine imithetho e-7 eyimfuneko ebomini bentsapho.
1. Ungaze 'uphuze' umyeni. Ukuthetha okulungileyo kunye nokuchanekileyo kuya kufika kanye, kwintsifo-kungakhathaliseki ukuba kuninzi kangakanani, ayiyi kufika.
2. Musa ukuzama ukufundisa kwakhona umntu. Kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu, into ephambili ayiyikumisa umntu ukuba ahlale naye, musa ukumnyanzela ukuba atshintshe imikhuba enokumncedisa, ngaphandle kokuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, ayilimazi abanye.
3. Nika umyeni wakho ngemiqondiso yokuqwalasela kwaye ufune okufanayo kuye. Izimpawu zengqalelo yindlela yokwenza ubuhlobo bomtshato obuhle. Kubalulekile kuphela ukuba ayikho into enamandla kwaye ishukela.
4. Musa ukugxeka umyeni wakho phambi koobaziyo, abahlobo, izihlobo, abantwana. Amazwi acacileyo, nangona ayenelungileyo, kufuneka athathwe ngamehlo. Ukongezelela, ukugxeka komnye umlingane ngesinye kuholele ekungcoleni kwintsapho, ukungquzulana, ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo, kutshabalalisa ukudibana komtshato.
5. Khumbula izinto ezilungileyo kuphela. Ukukwazi ukukhumbula okulungileyo kukukwazi ukulibala elibi.
6. Hlonipha. Ngesizathu esithile, abanye abantu abanobuchule kunye nabahloniphekileyo emsebenzini emsebenzini kwintsapho, bahlala bekhohlisa, baqeqesha, bawagwebe.
7. Unakekele impilo yakho kunye nabathandekayo. Ubulumko baseTshayina bokudala uthi: "Impilo yintsimi yokuqala, kwaye yesibini ngumtshato ovuyayo." Landela impilo yomyeni wakhe, menze aye kudokotela ngokukhawuleza, ahlolwe, aphumelele uviwo lokukhusela. Umntu ongenandaba nempilo yakhe ngumntu ohloniphekileyo, kuba izifo zakhe zibeka umthwalo onzima kumahlombe ezihlobo kunye nabahlobo.
Kuphawula ukuba indoda nomfazi, abaye baphila ixesha elide emtshatweni, baqala ukufana. Enyanisweni, ukuba abafazi bahlala ngoxolo nokuvisisana, bafumana imilinganiselo kunye, baphendule ngokulinganayo kwiziganeko, bahlakulela ukuthanda kunye nemikhwa efanayo. Abahlali nje ngecala, bahlala kunye kunye, kwaye ke ngoko elowo unelungelo lokuthi: "Ubomi bakho bubomi bam."