Le ngxaki ephosakeleyo kwaye ndimele ndithi akuyonto inqabile. Ngokuqhelekileyo baxhatshazwa ngabaphathi, abafazi nabaviwa kwendima yabo bobabini. Ezinye zabasetyhini zifuna izaba ngenxa yokuba zifuna iimali kwizinto eziyimfuneko kakhulu - ukubeka umntwana, ukuhlawula indlu, eyona nto ixabisekileyo. Omnye uthi ndifuna ukukholisa into encinci, kodwa indlela yokuthetha ngayo kule ngxaki, kuba ekugqibeleni indoda ayiyi kuphula.
Ziziphi iindlela ozenzayo nomntu?
Lapha kuninzi kuxhomekeka kukuphi uhlobo lobuhlobo onalo nomntu. Kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba kukho umntwana kwaye basemtshatweni osemthethweni, kwaye umyeni unikezela ngemali, ngoko xa ecinga ukuba kuyimfuneko kwaye yodwa eyona mfuneko. Ekuqaleni, ulwalamano lwemali kufuneka luchazwe kwisivumelwano somtshato, okanye zivele ngokwazo.
Imodeli yokuziphatha ebini ngalinye ibolekeke kubazali kwaye xa bevuma kwiintlanganiso okanye bahlala nalo mntu, unamkela ngokukhawuleza ubudlelwane bezezimali phakathi kwakho. Kwaye oku kuthetha ukuba ngale ndlela unethemba lokuxhasa indoda. Xa ibhinqa lizimeleyo ngokwezimali, umbuzo onjalo ungamhlangabeza.
Indlela yokucela umthandi ngemali?
Xa ungena ebuhlotsheni obusondeleyo nomntu, ngokukhawuleza uzenzele ukuba yintoni inkosikazi ayifunayo. Ukuba uya kuthandana nawe, akuyi kuba neengxaki ekukuxhaseni ngemali, njengokuba uyazi, uthando luhlolwe yimali, lukhulu kangakanani, luthanda kakhulu umninkosikazi wakhe.
Kukho ininzi imibala, yathandana nentliziyo yonke, kwaye ngokwenene intsapho ngokwayo, kufuneka ixhaswe, kwaye ayikude ibe ngumgidi-mali, ngoko ke isizathu sokuba "ubudlelwane obungabikho". Nangona uqala ukuphawula, kunoko, uya kuba nesisa ngezipho ezincinci, akayi kukwazi ukukhupha.
Xa ukhetha inkosikazi, le ndoda icinga ukuba phambi kwayo yinkosikazi ofuna ukuyisebenzisa imali. Ukuba unomlenze we-posh kwaye ufuna ukuyifumana, uyaqonda oko "unokuthengwa". Indlela yakho yokuziphatha nokubonakala ibambe indima ebalulekileyo.
Unokuqala nge-trifle, ichukumise kwinto ofuna. Uza kubona izenzo zakhe nokuphendula, uze ufikelele kwisiphetho, ukuba uya kuqhuba njani. Ukuba emva kwesicelo unomsebenzi, akukho nto ilindele kuye, kuya kufuneka uqhubeke nesicelo sakho ngokuthobeka okanye uya kufuneka ukhohlwe ukuba kukho indoda enekhredithi kufuphi nawe.
Ukhetho luhlala lukhona. Ungavuma ulwalamano olusondeleyo kwaye uya kuyaneliswa kuphela kweli candelo. Nokuba uqala ukubeka ingcamango yento oyifunayo kwaye uyavuya ukufumana izipho kuye. Ukuba umntu akavumi okanye akayizi izicelo zakho kunye neengcebiso, kuya kukwakho ukugqiba oko kubaluleke kakhulu kuwe - imicimbi eqhelekileyo okanye inkxaso yezemali. Kodwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo umntu uchitha imali kumfazi othile, uvakalelwa kwaye ubona isimo sakhe sengqondo, ukuba akunjalo, ngoko ukulindela kwakho akuyi kufika usuku oluxabisekileyo.