Ewe, okokuqala, okokuqala, uthando ngalunye lufanele luqale ngokuzithanda. Ukuba sizidelela, ngokobubomi bethu okanye kwimisebenzi yethu, akukho nto iya kuvela kuyo. Nangona kunjalo, i-narcissism kunye nokuzithanda zizinto ezimbini ezahlukeneyo.
I-Narcissism yahlula kwiindidi ezininzi
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngamnye wethu esitratweni udibana nabantu abathandayo, kwaye ukuba babone, akudingeki ukuba ube nezakhono ezithile ezizodwa okanye ukuba yingcali - zibonakala zivela kude. Bahamba ngokuzithemba, baphakamise iintloko zabo phezulu kwaye amahlombe abo aqondiswe. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu abanjalo banamdla ngokunyamekela kwaye bahlala bebenza ngokwabo-baphuculo. Baqinisekile ukuba kufuneka babe yiyona nto ibalulekileyo kwaye yokuqala kwizinto zonke kwaye rhoqo, ngoko ke bahlala bengavumi.
Abantu abanjalo banobungane nomntu wonke, bengenabugovu, bazame ukunika isandla omnye umntu ukuba bayayidinga (emva koko, baya kukwazi ukufumana i-pluseses!), Kodwa kuphela ukuba uncedo aluphikisana nemigwebo nemigaqo. Bayazintle kakhulu ekuzigxeka, ngoko banokuphucula kuphela imeko yabo.
Abantu abanjalo bahlala benomdla kakhulu ekunxibelelaneni, ngamanye amaxesha bafuna ukufana nabo baze baxhasane nabo, ndifuna ukuthetha nabo ukuba ndibalandele.
Inqanaba lesibini labantu abanobuhlanga banikelwa abantu abazinyamekelayo, bahlala beqinisekile ngokwabo, yintoni imeko engayi kuba yenzeke, ingabonwa nakude, kodwa ukuba kuthelekiswa nohlobo lokuqala lwabantu abathandanayo, ke le iholide yinto ebalulekileyo ebomini. Ngamanye amaxesha babonisa ubuvila. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba bakuphi, akukho mda ku-narcissism, bakholelwa ukuba akukho mntu uphezulu kunabo emhlabeni. Ngokubanzi, bodwa.
Abantu abanjalo abanobuhlobo kwaye abanxibelelwano nabantu, banesondo sabo soqhagamshelwano oluhlangabezana nemigaqo yabo. Abayithandi ukugxekwa! Ngaba banokunceda elilandelayo? Konke kuxhomekeke kwiziphi iinyawo ezivusayo ukusuka - imizwa.
Kanye kunye neqela lokuqala loonyana be-narcissistic, oku, njengomthetho, bafezekisa ngempumelelo xa kwenzeka ukuba bangabonisi, okwenzekayo kangako, kodwa kwenzeka!
Uhlobo lwesithathu lwabantu ngabantu abathanda kakhulu kangangokuba ngamanye amaxesha abakwazi ukuzibiza ngokuba ngamanani! Ewe, phakathi kwabantu abanjalo kukho iingcali ezigqwesileyo kunye neengcali ezingekho kakuhle, kodwa bonke baziziva bezingcali!
Abantu abanjalo banzima kakhulu, bahlala befakela uluvo lwabo, bahlale bengathandi yonke into, abakwazi ukuphulaphula umbono womnye umntu. Bakholelwa ukuba wonke umntu ophakathi kwabo ngabantu abangafanelekanga kumgangatho wabo, kodwa ziziphi izinto ezixhalabisayo kunye nobomi bomntu - akukho bantu abalinganayo nabaguqukayo apha!
Ngabantu abanjalo kunzima ukuthetha-kunzima kakhulu, kuba akunakwenzeka ukufumana ulwimi olufanayo! Emva koko, ukuziphatha kwaba bantu ngokuqinisekileyo kuyanyanyisa. Uncedo abanokukubonelela, kuphela ukuba kuya kuba luncedo kubo! Kubantu abanjalo ukuba ilizwi lithi "Kulula kwaye abantu baya kufikelela kuwe!" Uya kuvela.
Umntu ngamnye ngokwakhe uqikelela ukuba uninzi njani iimvakalelo zakhe, kodwa kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala kwinqanaba lomdlalo ohle kakhulu kwaye impembelelo ayiphumeli.
Zithande - umnqamlezo onzima
Iingcali ezininzi zeengqondo zithi uthando kufuneka lube yinto efunekayo yokuphatha kakuhle ihlabathi elikhuphayo. Kodwa abantu abaninzi abaphosakele ngokupheleleyo banqume uthando lwabo ngokwabo, ngelixa belidibanisa ne-narcissism.
Ngamanye amaxesha le mpazamo iba yingozi kubantu abaninzi, amadoda namabhinqa amaninzi, amakhwenkwe namantombazana akakwazi ukufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo ngabanye abantu, kodwa kaninzi nabo abanakuzifumana ebomini. Abantu abathandayo abaqondi into abayenzayo kutheni abantu bejika kubo.
Kodwa sele sasiqwalasele ukuba ololu hlobo luyothando, kodwa yintoni uthando wena?
Okokuqala, njengokuthanda komnye umntu, lo mnqweno kunye nokukwazi ukwakha ubudlelwane obumanyene nawe ngelixa ufumana le mihlali. Kwaye sele sithobela inhlonipho, amandla okuphila ngokuvisisana nokuqonda. Kunzima kakhulu ukukwenza nawe - emva koko, ukwakha ubudlelwane nomnye umntu kulula. Oku kuthiwa uthando olwaneleyo lwakho.
Abantu abakujikeleze, bahlala befikelela kumntu onjalo baze bachonge enye, kuba ukuvisisana ngokwalo kukhangeleka kwaye kukhangeleka. Kodwa i-narcissism inokuthelekiswa nomnqamlezo omkhulu, apho abantu babuthwala bonke ubomi babo kwaye bacinga ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuyilahla.