Umyeni wakho usebenzisa isizathu sokuba "kufuneka ubuyele ezinyaweni zakho".
Ngokuqhelekileyo amadoda athi: "Ndithwala yonke imbopheleleko yentsapho kwaye andifuni" ukuvelisa ubuhlwempu, "andikulungele ukuyeka umsebenzi wam, ndifuna ukufumana ukuzimela nokuzimela." Ngamanye amaxesha amagama anjalo ahlehlisa ukubonakala komntwana kwithuba elide elingenammiselo, kaninzi - ngokuba "akaze".
Mhlawumbi, eli qhinga lokukholisa liya kunceda kule meko.
Naliphi na umzali ofuna ukunika umntwana ithuba elihle kakhulu, kodwa akusoloko iqhosha elibonakalayo limele libe liseko. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantwana abafumana yonke into abayifunayo, bakhula baze babe ngabanobugovu nabaxhomekeke kubo. Zama ukukholisa umyeni wakhe ukuba ukuba umntwana wakhe ubaluleke ngakumbi kunothando lukayise, kungekhona amathoyizi aphezulu kunye neempahla. Abantwana - oku kuyona nto ebaluleke kakhulu ebomini, oku kuyintloko yothando. Indlu kwindawo ehloniphekileyo kunye ne-akhawunti enkulu yebhanki ayiyi kuyenza umntwana onwabileyo. Uthando kunye nokunyamekela kwabazali kuphela kunokukwenza oku.
Isizathu sokwenqaba sinokuthi sinciphise imizwa kuwe.
Ukuba indoda yakho ethandekayo, ukubonisa ikusasa lakhe, ayikubandakanyi kwiiplani zakhe - oku kuphawu olubi kakhulu. Kungenzeka ukuba, akaqinisekanga ngeemvakalelo zakhe, kwaye ukuhlala kunye nawe akuyona inxalenye yeenjongo zakhe zekamva. Kule meko, ukwenqaba ukuqala umntwana kuyaqondakala.
Amaqhinga okuthintela, okufuneka asetyenziswe kule meko.
Zama ukusombulula iingxabano ngaphakathi kwentsapho, uze uqale ingxoxo malunga nabantwana. Ukuzalwa komntwana akuyi kugcina umyeni wakho kwaye ayiyi kusindisa umtshato owonayo. Nangona ukukhulelwa kwakho kumisa umntu othandekayo, ngoko, akunakwenzeka ukuba oku kuya kuhlala ixesha elide. Yaye ukuba ukhohlisayo lwakho luyabonakala, intsapho yakho yolonwabo iya kutshabalalisa ngokukhawuleza.
Umyeni akafuni umntwana, ngenxa yokwesaba uxanduva.
Ukuba umyeni wakho ukwesaba uxanduva, ngoko, mhlawumbi, wakhulela ngoko. Akaphikisana nomntwana, kodwa akaqondi ukuba uza kwenza ntoni ngomntwana, xa ebonakala ngokukhawuleza. Indoda enjalo ithi ininzi ngabantwana, kodwa ihlala ikhankanya ukuba ngaphambi kokuba ube nabantwana, kufuneka ucinge ngembopheleleko abaya kuba nako ukubathwala. Kubonakala ukuba, isizathu sokungavumi ukuba umntwana usebuntwaneni.
Kule meko, zama ukusebenzisa eli qhinga lokukholisa.
Zama ukumfundisa ukuba anakekele umntu. Makube inja okanye esinye isilwanyana sasekhaya. Mxelele ngohlobo lwakho olonwabileyo, malunga nothando lwakho ngobawo onakekelayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo uya kutyelela abahlobo abanabantwana. Ukubona umhlobo enendima yomntu onwabileyo, umyeni wakho uya kuqonda ukuba, mhlawumbi, akuyiyo yonke into eyoyikisayo njengoko emele yona.
Kwenzeka ukuba akusikho ixesha lokuba umntu abe nabantwana.
Umtshato kuye akuyena inyathelo ekukhuleni, kodwa enye into yokuzonwabisa. Indoda enjalo iyethusa ngokubonakala kwesidalwa esincinci, apho kuyimfuneko ukuthwala umntu omdala kunye noxanduva oluqhubekayo. Ubudala kule meko ayinandaba - amanye amadoda sele sele esele angamashumi amabini anokuvuthwa ukuba abe nguyise, kwaye amanye angamashumi amahlanu kunzima ukucinga. Ngokweqhinga, bafuna ukuba nabantwana, kodwa kamva kamva, kwikamva elikude. La madoda anqabile ukuba athole inzala, kuba ahlala efumana isisombululo sokugxotha lo mcimbi obalulekileyo.
Zama ukusebenzisa eli qhinga lokukholisa.
Zama ukuthetha rhoqo kunye nomyeni wakho malunga nezingane ezinokwenzeka, kwaye uzilungiselele kwangaphambili. Kule mibuzo, kungakanani ukulinda, kufuna iimpendulo ezithile. Ukuba umhla wokugqibela ulungele wena, vumela umyeni wakho aqonde ukuba ulindele ixesha elithembisiweyo kwaye ungahloseli ukulibazisa ukuzalwa komntwana. Ngaloo ndlela, ubonisa umyeni wakho ukuba amagama akhe ngumthetho kuwe, kwaye ukuba uyakuxabisa, uya kuthatha isithembiso sakhe ngawo wonke umsebenzi.
Indoda yakho ayifuni abantwana, kuba sele esenomntwana.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, amadoda anomntwana ovela kumtshato wokuqala ongagqitywanga, ungalindelanga ukuba nabantwana emtshatweni olandelayo. Kubo, umntwana unxulumene nobunzima kunye neemfanelo ezininzi. Abayiqondi ukuba luninzi lunwaba olunokufunyanwa kwinkathalo ebantwaneni.
Kule meko, zama ukusebenzisa eli qhinga lokukholisa.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukukholisa umntu onamava angaphumelelanga kakhulu kunzima kunokuba unamava. Yenza kucacise kumyeni ukuba umntwana akavelanga nje iingxaki, kodwa novuyo. Ngomzekelo wentsapho yakho, xelela ukuba ngaba abazali bobabini isabelo esinzima kwaye sithandekayo esiza kuzisa ixesha elivuyayo.
Impilo yomntwana ayivunyelwe yindoda.
Esi sizathu esona sizathu esichukumisayo sokuthintela ukuzala. Amadoda amaninzi, eyazi malunga neengxaki zabo, ahlazo ukuthetha ngawo kwaye aphikiswa "ukungathandi ukuzala abantwana."
Mhlawumbi eli qhinga lokukholisa liya kunceda kule meko.
Ukuba unomtsalane kumntu, ngokukhawuleza kunokukhokelela ekuqhawuleni umtshato. Yena, engaziqondi unetyala, akafuni ukuphazamisa ubomi bakho kwaye uya kulahleka kuwo - ngokukhawuleza unethamsanqa, kwaye uya kudibana nomntu oza kunika uvuyo lobazali. Nika umyeni wakho ukuba aqonde ukuba awukhululekile nomntu ongaphandle, ukuba ufuna umntwana kuphela kuye. Zama ukuvumela umyeni wakho akuxelele ngeengxaki zakhe. Mkholise ukuba ithemba lokuphulukisa kunye nosana luhlala lukhona.
Ngenxa yokuzalwa kwabantwana, umyeni ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa nguwe.
Kunoko, umyeni wakho uyaxhalaba ukuba umfazi wakhe othandekayo nomhle uya kuguqula ngakumbi: ukulahlekelwa ngumntu omncinci, ukukhula kubanda kwiintlobano zesini, ungayeki ingqalelo kuye.
Kule meko, kufuneka uqinisekise umyeni wakho ukuba iingcamango zakhe ziphosakele.
Zama ukuchazela umyeni wakho ukuba emva kokuzalwa komntwana lowo wesifazane ufumana ubuninzi bezesondo kunye nomkhwenkwezi, ebhedeni ukhululeke ngakumbi. Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokufezekisa ukudibanisa kwangaphambili komfanekiso kwaye ungabi ngatyebile. Mxelele ukuba awulindele ukuba ungcwabe kwiindonga ezine emva kokukhulelwa. Ukuba zonke izenzo zakho zingabasebenzi, zama ukukhulelwa ngasese kumyeni wakhe. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba, kulungile ukuvavanya amandla akho. Ukuba zonke izithembiso zakho kumyeni wakho aziyize, kwaye uya kuqhubeka uzibukela, qaphela umyeni wakho kwaye uhlale ubonisa indlela uyamthanda ngayo, unokuqala ukwenza.