Kwaye uhlushwa yingcamango yokuba kufuneka uxoxe nabanye. Kwaye akukho nanye into, indlela yokugqoka imeko yenkosikazi ongenayo. I-destin-villas yenze isigqibo sokukugcoba, kwaye i-Cupid ibetha iindlovu kuzo zonke abantu abangalunganga. Kodwa ungathini ukuba uphazamise, usebomini bakhe, kwaye yena uqobo wakho. Kwaye oku kuqhubeka ixesha elide: iintlanganiso ezifihlakeleyo emva komfazi wakhe, ukulala ubusuku kunye nengcamango yakhe. Iimeko azizange zenzeke kuwe. Kodwa ingxaki kukuba uyamthanda, okanye ubuncinane ucinge ukuba uyamthanda. Ngoko konke okufanayo, indoda esatshatileyo: njani ukuphumelela kwaye ungaphuthelwa?
Njengoko uyazi, "isiqhamo esinqatshelwe siphunga." Ibinzana esilivile ngamaxesha amaninzi kwaye lingasetyenziswa kwiimeko ezininzi zobomi, kubandakanywa nendoda esatshatileyo. Yona ingqondo yethu yokuba-ngoku kude into into engekho kuthi, sizama ukuyifumana nayiphi na indleko. Nantoni na ihlawula. Kungenxa yesi sizathu sokuba amaninzi amantombazana kunye nabasetyhini bajonga "abanye abantu". Ukuqwalasela into engenakufikeleleka, oko kukufanele ukuzama ukuyenza, nokubeka injongo, ngeendlela zonke ufumane. Emva kwakho konke, kungenxa yemigangatho yakho ukuze ungenakukwazi ukuyenza, enhle kwaye ngokubanzi uyisibini esilungileyo. Kwaye umfazi wakhe, akafanelekanga ukuba abe naye, kwaye athathe eli gama eliqhayisa. Kwaye uqinisekile ukuba uyamkela ngekhulu leepesenti ukuba uvuyo lwakhe lube nawe, kungekhona naye, umfazi wakhe osemthethweni. Unkosikazi, kodwa akakho. Emva koko, inkosikazi yegama elithi "uthando", kunye nomfazi wento? Ewe, kwintetho yakho ayikho uphawu olo. Uyiqela elihle kuye, kodwa kungekhona lona. Yaye nangona uqinisekile ngokukholelwa kwiintlolelo zakho, uyaqhubeka engowakhe. Indoda esatshatileyo: indlela yokuphumelela kwaye ungaphuthelwa, indlela yokumncedisa kwaye uyimshiye intsapho?
Ziqonde ngokwakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho. Okokuqala, qiniseka ukuba uzenzele isigqibo sokuba lo ngumntu wakho kwaye awuyi kuzisola ngezinto ozenzileyo. Kodwa ukuphindaphinda, akukho nto ekhohlakeleyo, yiyo kuphela yowesifazane, unqwenelekayo, unononophelo kwaye ungcono. Mbonise ukuba yiyiphi inzuzo kuye, ukuba uyamxabisa njani kwaye uyamthanda. Mbonise ukuba ungcono kunomnye ohlala naye emtshatweni. Yenza ingxabano yokuba kuya kulungile, akayi kuhamba ngakwesobunxele. Emva koko, amadoda abo akaguquli abafazi bawo abalungileyo. Yazi, le yimfazwe, kodwa kwimfazwe zonke iindlela zilungile. Njengoko ilizwi elithandwayo lithi: "Umele ukwazi utshaba ngomntu." Ingongoma kukuba ukukhubaza indoda kumfazi wayo, umele ube ngamaxesha angaphezu kwekhulu ngaphezu kwakhe. Ufanele ukwazi ngokubanzi malunga nomfazi wakhe. Ukuthanda kwakhe kukukhethwa yiyo ayithandayo ngaye, okucaphukisayo. Zithathele konke oku kwiphepha lakho. Kwaye nantoni na, musa ukuvumela iimpazamo zakhe kwaye ungalandeli kwiinyawo zakhe. Kwaye ngaphezu kweempawu zayo ezintle zithatha ngokupheleleyo iindawo zayo. Oko kukuthi, ukuba uzinikele ngakumbi kwaye ube ngcono. Menze azihloniphe yena, yenzani ukuze kube nawe ukuba uyaziqinisekisa kwaye ukhululekile kuzo zonke iimeko. Oko akukuthandayo, kwaye umtsalane wakhe uthabathe kuwe. Mbonise emacaleni ombi wobomi bakhe obatshatileyo kwaye uchaze ngokucacileyo kwaye ngokucacileyo indlela oza kuziva ngayo kunye, yiyiphi inzuzo ekulindelweyo xa eyedwa. Khumbula. Indoda kufuneka ikukholelwe, yithemba kuphela kunye negama elichanekileyo kwintsapho yakhe ongayifumana. Makhe azive ukuba nguwe kuphela onokuba ngumntu wokwenene, oyifunayo kwaye ufuna.
Kodwa ke kukufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba akukufanelekanga ukuthembela kumntu. Emva kwakho konke, akulula kuye, kwaye lo thando lonxantathu aluyikuphela nje. Abantu abancinci basuke bengenakulungelelaniswa ekuphunyezweni kweminqweno kunye neengcamango zabo. Banobunzima ukutshintsha, kwaye nangakumbi kubomi babo. Ngoko ke, umele uncede kulo, kwaye kungekhona ukuba ungayifuni na into. Ngaphandle kokungaqondakali, njengokungathi ukubhobhoza engqondweni yakhe, imihla ngemihla, kumshukumisela kwisenzo esiqinileyo. Apha, ndicinga ukuba umphumo awuyi kulinda ixesha elide, ngakumbi ukuba uyakuthanda. Ukuba umntu ngokwakhe akakwazi ukwenza ukhetho kunoma yimuphi wenu kwaye unelisekile ngayo yonke into. Ukulungele ukuhamba ngaphezu konyaka omnye kuye kuye nakwezinye izinto. Kutheni kulwa okunjalo. Ukuba akazange acinge ngento ngokwakhe, oko kuthetha ntoni. Ngaba unelisekile kule meko - ukuhlala phakathi kwemililo emibini (abafazi). Lapha kuwe abaninzi abafazi kunye namantombazana ngelizwi elilodwa kubonakala ukuba lo akuyindoda, kodwa i-rag. Yaye phi isiqinisekiso sokuba olunye usuku luya kwenzeka ukuba lufumane, awuyi kuba kwindawo yomfazi? Kungcono ukuba uyingqayizivele engekho yeyesibili kwaye ingeyokuqala. Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufumana enye indoda. Umgqatswa ofanelekileyo kakhulu kulo, ngubani oza kudala ukuhlupheka ngenxa yexesha elide, esaba ukutshintsha into ethile. Ukuba umntu ufuna ngokwenene utshintsho kwaye awuyiyo indawo engenanto, uya kuyisombulula le ngxaki. Naluphi na ukuhlushwa ongeyena wena, kungekhona umfazi wakho kwaye kuqala kwakho konke. Ndikholelwe, indoda enjalo ifanele ukubizwa ngokuba "yinyani".
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ndifuna ukuthetha, ukuba unokuthatha umyeni wakho kude nentsapho, cinga ngekhulu, ngaba ufuna le nto? Awukwazi ukwakha ulonwabo kwintlungu yomntu kwaye oku kuyinyaniso. Ngoko kufuneka uphile nale nto. Umxholo othi "Umntu otshatileyo: indlela yokuphumelela kwaye angaphuthelwa" iyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu, ininzi yemigibe. Emva koko, ukuba unokumnqoba, phi isiqinisekiso sokuba ngosuku, ezimbini, inyanga, unyaka, akuyi kubakho omnye onjengawe kwaye akayi kumthabatha, kodwa sele ekhona nawe. Kwaye, emva koko, zama ukubeka ubuncinci kanye kunye kwindawo yakhe yomfazi. Ungayithanda njani? Ukuzimisela kuya kulungile, kodwa ukuya kwiinjongo zezidumbu akusiyo into enombulelo. Apha, uvuyo aluvumba. Kulula ukulibala, ukuyeka. Uhlakaniphile kwaye ulungile, oko kuthetha ukuba uya kudibana nomntu ohloniphekileyo, kodwa ekunye akufanele uxoshe. Ngaphezu koko, ufuna ukushiya umfazi wakhe ngomnye - oku kukude nesenzo esihle. Ukuba wayenkosikazi nenkosikazi yakhe, akukho ziqinisekiso zokuthi akayi kukuguqula. Ukuba uye washiya umntu kuwe, kungekhona ukuba uya kukushiya umntu kwixesha elizayo.