Utata, Mama, kwenzekani?
Umntwana wakho udidekile, akayiqondi into eyenzekayo. Kuze kube kutshanje, abazali baxoxisana ngokukhawuleza, baza baqala ukufunga kunye nokumemeza komnye nomnye ... Ngoku ubaba ushiye ikhaya kwaye ubonakala enqabile kakhulu, kwaye umama akayi kuthetha naye kwaye akhala kakhulu. Kuthetha ukuthini konke oku?
Xa inkwenkwe ingaqondi into eyenzekayo, kwaye abantu abadala abakuchazi oko, uya kuzijonga enetyala lezinto ezenzekayo kwintsapho. Kuyabonakala ukuba, wenza isigqibo, ndenza into engalunganga xa abazali behlala bexabana.
Imiphumo yezigqibo ezinokubangela ukuba yinto edidisayo kakhulu kumntwana-ukususela kwiingxaki ezilandelayo zokuziphatha komtshato ukuya kubomi bentsapho engatshatanga. Ngoko ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba abantwana, ngaphantsi kwefuthe le meko, bangenzi izigqibo ezilolo hlobo.
Thetha
Kuye kwaziwa ixesha elide ukuba ukulindela into embi ngezinye ixesha kukubi kunokuba kubi. Umntwana uhlala evakalelwa ukuba kwenzekani phakathi kwabazali. Ngoko ke, kungcono ukwenze ngaphezu kommelwane ka-Aunt Masha. Ngokukhawuleza uthetha naye malunga nento eyenzekayo kwintsapho yakho, ngaphantsi koko uza kulimala ngalo mcimbi. Mxelele ukuba wena noTata asinakuhlala kunye kunye, kwaye upapa uya kuhlala ngokuhlukileyo, kodwa uya kuzama ukukuvakashela. Yaye ubuhlobo bakho kunye naye abuyi kuphazamisa umntwana. Yaye zama, ubuncinci kwinqanaba lakho, ukuzalisekisa lesi sithembiso.
Akunjalo nje ngamazwi othethayo. Okubaluleke ngakumbi, ziphi na iimvakalelo kunye neziphakamiso ozithethayo. Zama ukuchaza yonke into ukuze kule ngxoxo intsana iqonde ukuba nayiphi into eyenzekayo phakathi komama noyise, baya kuhlala behlala kubazali abanothando abaya kumkhumbula, bamthanda baze bamxhase.
Uya kukuqonda
Kubalulekile ukuba umntwana azi ukuba unomama noyise - abadala kunye nabazali abanengqiqo abanokusombulula iingxaki zabo kwaye abayi kwenza ukuba bakhethe ukukhetha okanye bahlale eceleni komnye wabo, baxhomeke kuye uxanduva lwezenzo zabo. Xa inkwenkwezi iyayazi ukuba isigqibo senziwe kwaye ichanekile, uyeka ukuxhalabisa kwaye azigxeka ngokwenzekayo phakathi kwabazali. Ngoko ungesabi ukumlimaza ngeendaba ezi. Mhlawumbi kungekudala, kodwa uya kukuqonda.
"Uphi ubaba?"
Ngoku ubuhlungu kakhulu, kwaye nangona uyazi ukuba okokuqala ngaphambi nangemva kokuqhawula umtshato - kunzima kakhulu, akusinceda. Ukhumbula kabuhlungu umyeni wangaphambili, ummangalela ngazo zonke izono ezifa, kwaye oku kuyaqondakala. Kodwa umntwana uyayibona yonke into ngokoqobo, ngoko kubalulekile ukuba ubuhlobo obunakho kumyeni wakho wangaphambili, umntwana wakho akazange amkele, athathe ngesimo sakhe sengqondo.
Ukuba ngenxa yoko kwenzeka le nto, kwaye ukungathandeki kwakho kwindoda yangaphambili idluliselwe entombazaneni, ngoko xa ekhula, unokudlulisela le mizwa engalunganga kubo bonke abantu, kwaye ke unokuba neengxaki ebomini bakhe. Khumbula ukuba intombazana uyise uyilo lomyeni wesikhathi esizayo, kwaye ukuba le nkwenkwe ibe ngumzekelo.
Ngoko ke, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunzima kangakanani, akufanele uyenze kakubi ngoyise xa umntwana ekhona. Ukuze inkwenkwe yakho ikhule ibe ngumntu oqinileyo kunye odibeneyo, kufuneka ukuba uzive ngendlela enhle kunye nababelethi bakhe bobabini, kwaye kungekhona nje omnye wabo. Kumelwe 'athembele' kubawo nonina, kubalulekile ukuba ahloniphe abazali bobabini.
Mthetho
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukufikelela kwinkqubo yomtshato ngokuchanekileyo. Yenza yonke imizamo ukuqinisekisa ukuba nantoni na enxulumene nomtshato isenzeka ngokukhawuleza. Oku kuya kunciphisa kokubili ukubandezeleka kunye nokubandezeleka kwabantwana bakho. Ukuba kule nkqubo kunobunzima, zama ukungaxabisani "nomntu wangaphambili" xa umntwana. Ukuba ubona ukuba indlu iyathula, iya kumnika ithemba lokuba yonke into iyahlelwa. Kwaye kuya kuba lula kakhulu kokubili ukuba udlulisele zonke iingxaki zobomi bakho obutsha.
Kodwa ke, xa kufika ixesha, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuthetha naye malunga nento ekulindelayo ngokulandelayo. Umzekelo, ngelinye ilanga omnye umntu uya kuhlala nawe ...