Kukulungele ukuba nethamsanqa, malunga nabo bathi bazalwe kwiikhati. Zigwebe wena: apho, apho yonke inkampani yendawo yawela emgodini kwaye phantse yonke into ibuhlungu, iqhawe lethu aliyi kuba neklasi enye. Abantu abanoLucky bayigwema ingxaki, kwaye xa kukho inkathazo, wonke umntu ucinga ukuba umntu "waphuma ngegazi elincinci."
Eneneni ngokwenene yazalwa phantsi kweenkwenkwezi zenkwenkwezi. Asazi ukuba kusebenza njani ngeenkwenkwezi, kodwa ngokubhekiselele kwokhuseleko lomntwana, isabelo seengonyama zobuncwane kunye nokungaxhamli komntwana kuxhomekeke kubazali. Emva koko, silungiselela umntwana wethu intlanganiso kunye nehlabathi elikhulu. Kwaye ukuba umntu omdala ulungelelanise ngokuchanekileyo, ukuba akagcini nje ukubeka iintlobo, kodwa umkhomba umntwana kwindawo eziyingozi, ukuba uyamnika ulwazi malunga nendlela yokufumana indlela yokuphuma kwiimeko ezinobungozi, ngoko isahluko seengxaki sizodwa. Njengoko umzekeliso waseMpuma uthi: "Ingqondo yikhono lokuphuma kwiimeko ezinzima, kwaye ubulumko kukukwazi ukungena kuwo."
Masiqale nathi
Abantwana bakhula ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ukuba ucinga ngezolo ukuba into eyona nto ibangelwa ukuwa komntwana ukusuka kwindwendwe, namhlanje awunawo ixesha lokuthabatha inkonzo esuka etafileni (isicatshulwa esinqwenelekayo nje sithatha iitrato kuye!).
Ngoko ke, into ebalulekileyo kunazo zonke kubazali ukufunda inyaniso engenakuphikiswa.
"Kutheni kusengaphambili?" Ucela, ngenxa yokuba awukwazi ukuguqula umkhwa (eqinisweni, ukutshatyalaliswa kokuziphatha, i-reflex ethile). "Izenzo eziqhelekileyo" zibhalwe "kwitshati yethu yobomi, kwaye akulula" ukubhala ". Ukukrazula umkhwa owodwa onobungozi kumntwana aze awutshintshe ngomnye, ukhuselekile, kuthatha iiveki ezintathu ukuya kwezine, kwaye akwanele ukuthetha kum: oku andiyi kuphinda ndiyenze.Umntu omdala uya kufuna ukulawula okufanelekileyo kunye nezenzo zakhe. Vumela onke amalungu entsapho pobabl Kananjalo banabanye abantu ukuba baqaphele imichimo eyingozi, omnye umama osemtsha wayenomkhuba ongenasiphelo ngokupheleleyo, wayehamba ngeenxa zonke endlwini ephethe inyopho emlonyeni wakhe, xa elahlekile, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni, loo mfazi wayilandela entsha, kwaye yonke into yayiya kulungile, kodwa ngelinye ilanga i-toothpick wafumana umntwana waza waqala ukuphanda. Ukuqala, wadibana nomgcini onqabileyo kwaye okhaliphile esandleni sakhe. Ukugubha kwangoko kwagijimla kwagqitywa. Ngelinye ilanga, isandla, kungekhona iso, sabona.
Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka ukhumbuze: "Musa ukubeka ingilazi yefuthe elitshisileyo emacaleni kwetafile!"
Izihlandlo ezithoba uzakuphinda, kwaye okweshumi ukhangeleke-i-glassy cocky ibonakala ngathi akukho nto yenzeke. Nangona kunjalo, unako ukulahla indlela yokuziphatha (umkhwa ofanayo) ukuba ubonisa ukuphikelela kunye nomnqweno onyanisekileyo wokudala indawo ephephile kumntwana wakho.
Abazali kwabantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka eyi-3-4 kufuneka bazise kwi-automatism yemikhwa yokhuseleko.
Kwiphepha letafile akufanele kube nantoni.
Izinto ezibukhali azikho ndawo etafileni, apho zifikelela kumntwana ubuncinane ithuba elingaphumi kwe-10. Yinqumle isonka - ngokukhawuleza ususe ummese endaweni.
Amachiza, iikhemikhali zasemakhaya, utywala obunokutsha - konke oku akufanele kube lula ukufikelela kwintsana.
Iintambo ezisuka kwiivenkile zendlu, apho i-crumb ifikelele khona, kufuneka ikhutshwe ngaphandle kweevenkile. Kwiziko lokukhulula, kufuneka ufake iiplogi ezikhethekileyo.
Ukunikezelwa kwegesi kubashiseli kufuneka kuvaliwe.
Xa ubambe umntwana, ungalokothi uthathe into enobungozi ezandleni zakho. Omnye unokucinga nje oko kwenzeka ntoni ukuba ungaziphosa ngokukhawuleza izandla zakho okanye ulahlekelwe ngumlinganiselo wakho. Ixesha lokutshintsha imikhuba eyingozi kwiingcamango ezikhuselekileyo!
"Iingcaciso"
Ukuba ngaba izakhono ezingentla zicacile ngokucacileyo, xa umntwana useneminyaka engama-4 ukuya ku-6 kuphela ubudala, baya kuphinda bancede kunye nosapho lwakho kwixesha elizayo. Kodwa inkwenkwe ikhulile kwaye sele sele inento yokuchaza. Ngokuchanekileyo, kuyimfuneko. Ekuqaleni umntwana ngokwakhe uxanduva lwakhe lokhuseleko, ngcono. Amagama - asengumcebisi onokwethenjelwa kwintombazana encinci. Kuye indlela ebonakalayo ebonakalayo ifaneleke ngakumbi.
Ungakhathazeki ukukrazula iitrafti eziliqela, kodwa awuyikuphulaphula i-crumb? Kulungile, uze ufake inkomishi yeplastiki yamanzi apholileyo emgceni wetafile, i-crumb izakukhupha iitrafti - iglasi iya kugqitha, ngokuqhelekileyo amaxesha amabini ukukhusela ngokufanelekileyo Indlela yokuchazela ukuba isinyithi siyatshisa, yitshise kwaye ishiye umntwana ukuba achukumise. Kwanokulawulwa, jonga i-spact cactus, ncedise "ngenyameko" ukuwa phantsi kombhede. Amava okubambisana kunye neengxaki uya kusindisa umntwana kwiingxaki ezinkulu. Musa nje ukhathazelele intonga, ungayesabi umntwana. Yaye ungabonisi konke ngokukhawuleza. UMthetho ngokuthe ngcembe. Qala nento enomdla umntwana namhlanje. Khangela into ongeke uvumele umntwana ukuba akwenze. Uluhlu lwemibhozo kufuneka lube luncinci, kodwa "isinyithi" -kungekho ukuzithobela, umzekelo, awuyikuvumela ukuba umntwana enze umdlalo wegesi. Ngexesha elizayo, ngokukhawuleza xa umntwana efika, utsho ngokucacileyo ukuba "awukwazi," thabatha iimbombo zakho zonke uhlobo lokubonisa indlela eyikisayo kwaye eyingozi. Ingane iya kuziva kwaye ikhumbule ukwesaba kwakho. Inkqubo isebenza kwinqanaba leengqondo. Nangona kunjalo, izifundo ezinjalo azikwazi ukuphinda ziphindwe kaninzi, ngaphandle koko umphumo wemoya oqinileyo ulahlekile, uvele usongele kwaye udibanise umntwana. Umsebenzi wakho awuyikucima iqhinga lomntwana, kodwa ukuzikhusela kuzo naziphi na iingxaki ezikhoyo.
Gcina amehlo akho!
Ukukhathazeka ngokukhuseleka kwabantwana kwasebuncinaneni kuya kuba luncedo kuba luqeqesho oluhle kubazali. Umkhwa wokuhlala uqaphile usabalulekile kakhulu. Uya kufunda ukujonga ngenyameko kwihlabathi elikujikelezayo kwaye uqaphele ukuba yintoni eyingozi kumntwana. Kamva, xa ufanele ushiye umntwana wedwa ensimini okanye uthumele umntu esikolweni, le ngqungquthela yeengcamango inceda ukuqaphela ingozi ezayo ngaphambi kwexesha kwaye uthathe inyathelo.
Yiya ekupheleni
Uninzi lwabazali benza konke okulungileyo. Bonisa, cacisa, ukwethusa, nika ukuziva. Yikhohlwa ukuba yonke into kufuneka yenziwe ekupheleni. Ngoko kuvela ukuba ama-20 amaqhekeza awazange avunyelwe ukunyuka amakhethini ukuya kwifestile, kodwa ekupheleni kwe-21! Yaye uya kukhwela kwakhona apho ngamandla amathathu!
Jonga wena uhlobo oluthile lwesifundo umntwana azakuzenza, ukuba ngaba abazali bayayinqabela ngokuthe ngqo, bathi "awukwazi," kodwa ngandlela-thile uhlambulukanga kwaye akaqiniseki. Ukuba umntwana akakwazi ukwenza into, akunakuze kube njalo.
Kubalulekile ukuba yonke imizi ibe enye.
Ngomphefumlo
Kukhona enye into ebalulekileyo yombuzo ekufuneka abantwana bafunde kwiintambo eziselula. Ngokuphathelele ukhuseleko lomphefumlo. Oku akusi ngaphantsi, kodwa mhlawumbi kubaluleke ngaphezu kokukhusela ngokomzimba, ukufutheka, ukuqeqesha umzimba kunye nengqondo yomntwana. Umfana kufuneka azi kwaye azive ukuba abazali bakhe baya kuhlala bemqonda, bamxhase, bamncede, bamphulaphule baze bamkhuthaze. Kule meko, sele esakhula ekhuselekileyo ngakumbi kunokuba engaqinisekanga yena kunye nabantu abasondelene naye.
Umntwana ojikelezwe ngqalelo ebalulekileyo yabantu abadala, akafuni ukulimaza yena nabanye, akayi kubeka ingozi kuye. Lowo ongakhuselekanga kunye nobuthathaka uhlala elindele uncedo lokuza ngokwalo. Kwaye ngokusoloko uphelelwa ixesha apho kufuneka usebenze. Umntu okhulile ngokhuseleko lokomoya, uyamkela ngokukhawuleza uncedo xa kuyimfuneko. Yaye uyakwazi ukuyibuza. Yaye unako ukunceda abo bafuna uncedo.
Ukucinga ukuba umntwana wakho "sele esazi oko oku." Ukuba uthethile izinto ezili-10, kwaye akuzange kubekho iingxaki ngoku, oko akuthethi ukuba abayi kuza kuvela.
Ndiyathemba, yonke into izakuzenza ngokwazo. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana babazali abanjalo ababaxeleli ngxaki kuze kube yinto yonke ehamba kakhulu. Kwaye kutheni ukuba, ukuba akuncedi, kwaye akukho ngcebiso abayifumanayo.
Ukufumana emva kweemeko eziyingozi kwaye uqale "ukuxubha" kwintsana yonke imithetho yokhuseleko ngexesha elilodwa.Le yindlela yokufa. Ngokuqhubekayo kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe - kuphela umntwana unokufundiswa kwihlabathi lethu eliyinkimbinkimbi.