Ngokuqhelekileyo, abazali abaninzi bayazibuza indlela yokuhlakulela ukuzithemba kwabo kumntwana, bancedise ukuba bangaboni ukuvakalisa uluvo lwabo, ukuba benze njani ukuze akwazi ukuzikhusela ngokwaneleyo, akwazi ukunqoba izithintelo zobomi, ezama ukuxazulula ingxaki ngokuzimeleyo, ngaphandle kokufihleka emva kobazali bakhe.
Ndingathanda ukuqala ngento yokuba into ebaluleke kakhulu kukuqinisekisa abazali ukuba yonke into ixhomekeka kubo, kubazali kunye neendlela zokukhuliswa kwintsapho, kunye nendlela yokufikelela kumntwana. Isimo esibaluleke kakhulu ukuzithemba kwakho, kuba abaninzi abantwana baxhomekeke kumnye wabazali, bekopisha ngokupheleleyo indlela yakhe yokuziphatha, isitayela sokunxibelelana nabanye abantu. Umzali ulawulo lomntwana, ngoko umntwana ukholelwa ukuba zonke izenzo zakhe nezenzo zichanekile. Ukuba wena unayo nayiphi na ingxaki ozijongayo, ingakumbi ezo zihambelana nokungakhuselekanga kwakho, oku kufuneka kusebenze, kwaye ngokukhethekileyo ngoncedo lengcali yeengqondo.
Imithetho enceda ukukhulisa ukuzithemba komntwana
Umgaqo wokuqala: umntwana kufuneka abe nethemba lokuba, ngokwenene, uyamthanda.
Uthando olunjalo alufanele lube lukhuni, uthando-thando okanye uthando, apho umntwana kufuneka ahlawule uncedo malunga nendlu, ukufunda kakuhle. Umntwana kufuneka athandwe ngenxa yintoni kwaye yintoni na. Ufuna ukwazi ukuba akazalwanga ukuze aqikelele ukulindela kwakho ixesha, kodwa ukuze ube ngumntu onesidima.
Umgaqo wesibini: umntwana kufuneka abe nethemba lokuba uphantsi kwesikhuselo sakho, kodwa kungekho phantsi kwebhodi.
Mxelele ukuba uya kuhlala ukhona, kodwa awuyi kuba mnye naye. Kufuneka ihlale ivulekile kwaye ifikeleleke kumntwana. Mxelele ukuba unokucela uncedo ngaphandle kokugatya, ukuba awuyi kuguquka, uziyeke ukulungisa iingxaki ezinzima kuye.
Umthetho wesithathu kukuba umntwana kufuneka abe nelungelo lokwenza impazamo, kunye nethuba lokulungisa, ukuba angabi namkhethe angasifanelanga okanye ahlaziswe.
Ncedise ekuqondeni impazamo nokuyilungisa. Umntwana akufanele akwesaba ukwenza amaphutha, kuba afunda kubo, kwaye ukulungisa impazamo, unokuthintela ukuba abuyele.
Umgaqo wesine: unxibelelwano nomntwana kufuneka lwenzeke ngeenyawo ezilinganayo , kungekhona ukuphakama kobudala kunye nokungakhwelanga umntwana wakhe, kumenze abe nesithixo.
Umthetho wesihlanu: unike umntwana ithuba lokuxazulula iingxaki zabo , bangajongani neengxabano zobuntwana ngenxa yezinto zokudlala, musa ukukhawuleza ukuba uthumele kwelinye iziko lemfundo, ukuba awufumani ubudlelwane kunye nootitshala nabaontanga. Ngaphandle koko, umntwana akayi kukwazi nje ukufumana imeko kwaye afune indlela yokuphuma, kodwa akayi kuphumelela. Kule meko, uya kuzama kuphela ukuphepha ukungaphumeleli, ukushiya ingxaki, kwaye ungazami ukuzisombulula.
Umthetho wesithandathu: akufanele uqhathanise umntwana wakho nabanye abantwana babantu.
Kungcono ukugxininisa iimpawu zakhe, fundisa umntwana ukuba ahlalutye izenzo zakhe kunye naye, makhe azame ukuzijonga ngokwakhe ngaphandle. Ukuba umntwana uqala ukuziqhathanisa nomntu, ekugqibeleni uya kuxhomekeka kwimbono kunye nokuvavanya kwabanye, okusemthethweni, ngokusemthethweni.
Umgaqo wesixhenxe: ukuba umntwana usemncinci, ngoko kuhlola kwakhe, zama ukuphepha igama "elibi."
Akayonto embi, kodwa ephosakeleyo, uyakhubeka. Chaza umntwana wakho ukuba kukho izinto eziphosakeleyo ezibangela ingxaki neentlungu, apho angabandezeleka khona.
Umthetho wesibhozo: makumfunde umntwana oye waqalisa ukugqiba.
Nangona kunjalo, ungacinezeli ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuhamba kule ndlela kwaye wenze oko kanye, ukuba nayiphi na imisebenzi kumntwana ayikuthandi. Ekufikeni kwentsha, oku kubaluleke ngakumbi, kuba yinto yokwakhiwa kweminqweno, ukukhethwa kobugcisa bexesha elizayo. Ingakumbi umntwana uya kuzizama kwimisebenzi eyahlukeneyo, ngakumbi kuya kuba namathuba kwixesha elizayo ukuba uya kukwazi ukwenza ukhetho olufanelekileyo.
Umgaqo wesithoba: kufuneka uncede umntwana ngokulungelelanisa kwiqela labantu.
Emva kwakho konke, enye indlela okanye enye, ubomi bonke bomntu, ngokuqala nge-kindergarten, luxhomekeke ekusebenzeni kwiqela kunye nokuthetha. Le yenkampu, isikolo, isikolo sezemidlalo kunye neyunivesithi. Kumabantwana abantwana kukho rhoqo ukhuphiswano. Abantwana abakhulileyo bazibheka njengabantu abadala, banamava amanxibelelwano kwaye banokwenza "lula ipakethe" yabantwana abaselula. Into yokugcina isele indlela yokuthobela.
Ukuba ingxaki yokuthetha nabantwana abancinci kunye noontanga akuchaphazeli umntwana wakho, ekugqibeleni uya kukwazi ukufumana ulwimi olufanayo kunye nabantwana abadala. Kubalulekile ukuxhasa umntwana wakho, umnike ithemba. Buza uthisha wontanga ukuba ancede ukuthabatha imidlalo eya kubakholisa abantwana kwiqela. Ngokuyisisiseko, le midlalo apho umntwana onamahloni angabakho, umzekelo, umodareyitha wokudlala. Ngenxa yoko, ukuzivocavoca okunjalo kunceda ukukhulisa ukuzithemba kwintsana, ukuzithemba kwakhe kuphakame, kwaye ekugqibeleni unokuzibonakalisa aze abonise.
Indlela efanelekileyo yokwandisa ukuthandwa kwiqela kukuza kunye lakho, umdlalo omtsha (ngoncedo lwabazali), thatha ithoyizi nawe kwi-kindergarten kwaye umema abantwana abadala kumdlalo wakho. Abantwana beza kunye, bedlala imidlalo edibeneyo, bafumane ezinye iintetho zabathintana nabo.
Umthetho weshumi: ukuhlonela umntwana kunye noko akwenzayo, oko akufunayo kunye noko akuphuphayo.
Awudingi ukuhleka kwaye ufuna ukutshintshwa kwisigqibo esivela kuye. Ukuba ukhetho lomntwana alukho konke ukuthanda kwakho, zama ukufumana amagama angabonisa ukuba oku kungafanelekanga okanye akunakulungile. Vumela umntwana wakho afunde okuthile kwaye, ngokomzekelo, ukufumana uhlobo oluthile lokufumana imidlalo, ukulahla ibhola, umdlalo omtsha okanye ukubeka i-bauble.
Umthetho weshumi elinanye: gxininisa oko umntwana akulungele ukukwenza, ungalibali ukudumisa , kodwa kuphela kwi shishini nangethuba. Ukwanele kufuneka kube nokuhlaziywa.
Ukukhulisa ukuzithemba kumntwana akuwona umsebenzi olula. Le mithetho ayisebenzisi nje kuphela ekuhlakuleleni ukuzithemba, kodwa nazo zonke iinkalo zokusebenzisana kunye nokunxibelelana nomntwana, kunye nawe, abazali, kwindawo yokuqala. Isibalulekileyo sokuzithemba kwixesha lakho elizayo kwaye kuwe kukukholelwa ukuba uyaqondwa, uyathandwa kwaye uyamkelwa nguwe.