Sonke sifuna ukwenza "okulungileyo" kubantwana bethu, kodwa asikwazi ukuba njani. Awuyi kukholwa, kodwa kunye neenguqu ezincinci zingabaluleke kakhulu kubomi bentsapho. Utshintsho olufikeleleke kuwe. Uhlobo lwemithetho "yomlingo" kubazali. Akunjalo, ngokuchanekileyo, imithetho eyi-15 yabantwana abanomdla kakhulu. Bafunde, landela, kwaye, kholwa kwam, kuya kuba neempembelelo ezilungileyo.
1. Yiba nabantwana "ngoku".
Nangona kubonakala kuwe ukuba kubaluleke kunokuba i-ironing okanye ihlambuluke okwangoku akukho nto ayikwazi ukuyikhumbula - ukulibala malunga nale nto imizuzu emibini. Umntwana wakho ufuna wena ngoku. Oku kunzima kakhulu. Ndikholelwe, ukuba abantwana bakho bacele ingqalelo, ngoko bayayidinga ngexesha elichanekileyo abayifunayo. Abantwana bahlala ngoku. Oku kuqinisekiswe ngokwesayensi. Akukho nkohliso, njengokuba "ndihlamba ngoku, kwaye ke ..." akuyi kumenza umntwana ahlale ethule kwaye ulindele. Baza kuhlupheka. Baphile ngoxolo, ukuba ufuna ukufezekisa ukuqonda. Kwaye ukuhlamba izitya kunye nebhodi lokunxinwa kulinda.
2. Musa ukumisela imithetho emininzi.
Ukuba unemiyalelo emininzi kwintsapho, uya kuhlala uhlala "kwindawo yokulwa". Imigaqo eyintloko, eqinisweni, kufuneka ibe. Ngokomzekelo, xelela njalo inyaniso, yibani nomusa kwabanye abantu, nisoloko nichaza apho uhlala khona, ungathethi kubantu abangaziwa. Le mithetho iza kunceda abantwana ebomini, kodwa ingabi nciphisa inkululeko yabo. Ukuba kakhulu imithetho emininzi, ngoko umntwana unomvakalelo oqhubekayo wokuxhatshazwa kunye nokuxhalabisa - ngokukhawuleza ndiya kwenza into engalunganga, ngokukhawuleza andinakukwazi ukulawula, ndiyakulibala, andiyi kukwazi. Ngoko ukunyaniseka kwethu komzali kuya kuba ngubukhoboka kwaye "kunyanzelekile", ukuhlukanisa abantwana bethu kuthi.
3. Yenza abantwana bahleke.
Tyikitye ngaphambi kokulala, uthetha ngamazwi angcolileyo okanye wenze ubuso - oku kwenza abantwana bakho bajabule. Nawe nawe. Kuye kwangqina ukuba ukuhleka yile ngonyango efanelekileyo, ukuphucula okulungileyo kunye neyona ndlela yonyango yokudandatheka, ukukhathala, ukunyamezela nokucaphuka. Yaye le ndlela elula kwaye "yobuntwaneni" iya kubuyisela umzuzu ngomntwana. Kuya kukusondeza kubantwana. Ndikholelwe, oku kuvivinywa ngokwenza.
4. Musa ukwenza izinto eziliqela ngexesha elifanayo.
Awuyi kukholwa, kodwa kunokwenzeka. Musa ukuzama ukunceda abantwana ngemisebenzi yabo yasekhaya ngexesha lomnxeba nomnxeba. Konke oku kuya kuphelisa ngeembombo zeetafile kunye neqela leempembelelo kwi-notebook. Abantwana basabela kakubi kwiingcinezelo, kodwa kunzima nakakhulu - ukungabakhathaleli nokungazinzi. Banike imizuzu embalwa. Kuphela. Uncedo ukuqonda umsebenzi, lungisa iincwadi, qiniseka ukuba kuqondwa kakuhle. Iziphumo aziyi kugcina ulinde. Abantwana baya kukuthemba ngakumbi, thabathe isimo sengqondo esiphezulu malunga nokufunda (kunzima "ukukratshi" ekufundeni phantsi kolawulo lwabazali).
5. Fundisa abantwana ukuba bathi "siyabonga".
Ngelishwa, ukubulela kwintsapho kuya kuba yinto eqhelekileyo. Kodwa kuyimfuneko-ukuba uthi "ngiyabonga" xa ushiya etafileni, ufumana izipho ezivela kubahlobo nakwiintsapho, kwanokuphila kwansuku zonke. Isizathu sokubulela senza ukuba bahloniphe abazali, abahlobo, abantu abajikelezayo. Ngaphezu koko, umntu unokuthetha ngaphandle nje kuphela, kodwa nangokubhala. Nika abantwana isiqephu sephepha kunye neepeni, kwaye mabenze babhale kubani kunye noko bafuna ukukushoyo "mbulela." Ndikholelwe, oku kuyindlela enomdla kakhulu, ezayo ekuncediseni kakhulu ubudlelwane bakho nabantwana bakhulileyo. Ngendlela, ukuba abantwana bakho abasabancinci - masibabonge nge-imeyili, ukuba kulula ngabo.
6. Musa ukuphikisana nabantwana.
Kubantwana, impikiswano ibininzi yindlela yokutsala ingqwalasela ngokugqithiseleyo okanye umnqweno "wokuyeka u-steam." Ingakumbi ixhalaba ngamakhwenkwe. Musa ukuchitha ixesha lakho kunye neentsholongwane kwiingxabano ezingenamsebenzi. Kungcono ukuguqula ingqalelo into enomdla. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntwana uqalise ngokuvakalayo kwaye ngokukhawuleza ukuphikisana, umzekelo, kwisitoreli - vele uyeke ngokukhawuleza. Akuyi kuba yinto engathandabuzekiyo kunye nokunyanzelisa. Kodwa ungagxininisi kulokhu ixesha elide. Shintsha. Umzekelo, njengolu hlobo: "Ngubani na oya kundinceda ndiqhube inqwelo?"
7. Musa ukulindela kakhulu kubantwana.
Ukuba ubeka "i-bar yokuphumelela" ephakamileyo kakhulu - uhlala udidekile. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, kuya kuba yinto ehlazisayo kakhulu kumntwana. Ndikholelwe, oku kuya kuba nemiphumo emide yesikhathi eside ngenxa yokuthembela komntwana wakho. Dumisani abantwana ngazo nayiphi na impumelelo, nangona kungabalulekanga. Yithi ukholelwa kuzo, ziqhayise ngabo. Baya kuthi, bazame "ukungena emdakeni ngobuso babo". Kwaye baya kukubulela ngokunyamezela iimpazamo zabo. Kusondele kakhulu kwaye kuqinisa ukuthembela.
8. Makube nokuthile okumele bakukhumbule.
Kubuhlungu gqitha ukuba ubomi bomntwana bakho bungaqondakali, ngokukhawuleza nangenqabileyo. Kulo izolo, kubonakala, wafunda ukuhamba, kodwa ngokukhawuleza wakhula waza washiya indlu. Kodwa kulula kwaye yendalo ukuzonwabisa nabantwana bakho! Misela iTV ngokuhambahamba epakini. Hamba ndawonye nge-skis, uye echibini. Fumana inja uze uyigqoke ngegceke, ulale ngotshani, udlale "iqela leendawo." Unokuzibuza abantwana bakho kwiimidlalo ezibiza, kodwa akukho nto izakufaka endaweni yazo. Ngokukodwa ekuqaleni kwasebuntwaneni. Nezinto zokuzilibazisa, imidlalo kunye nezinto zokuzilibazisa ziya kudibanisa ubudlelwane bakho bonke ubomi bakho. Awuyi kuzisola, kwaye uya kuba kunye, yintoni ekufuneka uyikhumbule kwimininzi, iminyaka emininzi.
9. Baye bangcola.
Abantwana bangabantwana. Musa ukulibala malunga nalo. Bavame ukuvela ekuhambeni ngendawo engcolileyo, engcolileyo, kodwa eyonwabileyo? Ngoko musa ukuphazamisa imizwa yabo! Abantwana abayikubeka umsebenzi wokuwaphula ngamabomu impahla okanye uhlambe ukususela ekuseni kuze kube sebusuku. Bahlala bexakeke kwaye badonwa. Bafundise ukuba bahlambulule iimpahla zabo emva kokuhamba, bawufeze ngokufanelekileyo, kodwa musa ukugxeka, musa ukusola into, musa ukumemeza. Ekugqibeleni, khumbula wena kwasekuqaleni komntwana. Ngamanye amaxesha kunceda.
10. Zizenzele "iholide".
Ngamanye amaxesha unako ukushiya abantwana nabantu oba themba ixesha elide. Oku kuya kwenza ukuba banamathele ngakumbi kwaye bancede ukuba uzibeke kunye neentsimbi zakho ngokulandelelana. Inyaniso kukuba abantwana bafanele baphathe kakuhle abantu, ngoko "akusiyo" isigqibo "okanye ukuhlushwa kwabo. Ngendlela, ngamanye amaxesha, ukuba unyanzelekile kakhulu kubantwana, oku kunokuzihlakulela. Kodwa kholani mna, oku kuyimfuneko ekuphuhlisweni kwabo kunye nokukhula. Hlaziya. Unako ukufumana indlela yokuphumla.
11. Musa ukuphelelwa amandla.
Ukuba unemihla, makangacingelwa. Abantwana kufuneka baqonde ukuba ukhathele kwaye ufuna ukuphumla. Vumela ukuhlamba nokuhlamba izitya zihambe kwinqanaba. Yiya kubantwana bepikiniki, hamba uye kutyeba. Ungenzi umkhonzi! Ngoko awuyi kuzuza intlonelo, abantwana baya kukuphatha. Ukulingana nabo. Iveki lixesha lokuphumla lonke intsapho.
12. Chaza kubantwana ukuba uzuza phi.
Oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Ndikholelwe, nakuba abantwana abancinane banako ukuqonda ukuba "cha" kunye "akunakwenzeka". Khetha amagama ukuze baqonde ukuba imali ayiwa kwizulu. Kufuneka bafumane. Oku kufuna ubuchule, umonde kunye nexesha. Abantwana kufuneka bazi ukuba kufuneka uzame ukwenzela ukuba bakwazi ukufumana ithoyizi ebiza okanye iingubo ezifake imfashini. Kodwa ungagqithisi ngeenkcazo, ukuze ungabangela ukuba uzive unetyala kubantwana! Akufanele bacinge ukuba bakubangela ukuphazamiseka kuphela ngenxa yobukho babo.
13. Musa ukukhala.
Ngamanye amaxesha ndifuna nje ukuba ndivuke phakathi kwegumbi ndize ndikhale. Kodwa kholwa mna, oku akuyi kusebenza. Kodwa yintoni enokwenza ukuba ingqalelo yakho kubantwana i-whisper! Uphando olutsha lubonise: ukuphumelela kwale ndlela ku-100%! Kubantwana oku kungalindelekanga, baya kukhwankqiswa kukuba baya kuphulaphula. Zama kwaye uzothuka.
14. Khangela amehlo kubantwana bakho.
Xa ubacela ukuba benze into ethile, chaza okanye uxoxane nje-jonga amehlo. Ukuba umntwana uncinci, yehla ukuya kumgangatho wamehlo akhe. Ndikholelwe, oku kusebenza ngakumbi kunokuba umemeza izitebhisi okanye ngasemva kwantoni na.
15. Musa ukukhalaza.
Musa ukuphindaphinda rhoqo kubantwana ukuba kunzima kangakanani kubo, ukhathala kangakanani kwaye ukhathala kangakanani konke oku. Ikhubekisa kwaye iyabethusa abantwana. Oku kubangela ukuba unetyala kwaye ubelethe iqela lezakhiwo. Umntwana akayi kubeka ityala ngenxa yokuba unayo! Waya kule nyathelo kwaye kufuneka uyenze oku, ukuba ufuna, uwele. Ngamandla akho ukwenza imisebenzi yakho yabazali ibe mnandi. Futhi ukusola umntwana ngenxa yokuba umntwana engalunganga kwaye uyisidenge.
Sonke sifuna ukuba ngabazali abalungileyo. Emphefumlweni, ngamnye wethu uthanda oku. Kwaye kulula, ukuba ucinga ngezenzo zakho kunye neengcamango ezincinane. Landela le mithetho 15 yabazali abanomdla kakhulu. Jabulela uvuyo lwabazali bakho! Thanda abantwana bakho! Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni. Kwaye unokuqiniseka ukuba awusoze ushiywa wodwa, kunye nawe uya kuba sobutyebi bakho obukhulu-lwakho nosapho.