Kwiintsapho ezinemithetho eqinile kakhulu, kunye nabazali bezinye izizwe abaze bahlale nabantwana behamba ze. Kwaye kwiintsapho zethu - nantoni na eyenzekayo. Zigwebe wena, luhlobo luni lobuthixo lunokuba yintetho xa usapho lwabane luhlala kwindawo enye okanye kwindlu yokuhlala?
Apho ukutshintsha iimpahla kubazali ukuze umntwana wabo osenkulutsha akhathazeke, sele efumene abazali babo emva kwenkqubo - kungekhona kwindawo yokuhlambela, eqinisweni!
Kanti kukho ixesha labantwana, apho abazali bangabahamba kunye nabo. Njengomthetho, kubazali beesondo ezahlukeneyo eli lizwe lihlukile.
Ingxaki enzima, eyinkimbinkimbi ...
Ngokukhawuleza ukuba umbuzo wokuziphatha uphakanyiswa (kuqhelekileyo okanye ukuziphatha kakubi ukuhamba uhamba kunye nomntwana?), Yonke imibuzo ehlobene nayo ivuliwe.
- Ngubani-uTata okanye umama - makaxelele umntwana, avela phi kwaye njani?
- Kuliphi ixesha elingcono ukwenza oku?
- Indlela yokukhusela abantwana kubundlobongela - kuba bathemba ngokwemvelo?
- Indlela yokubanceda ukuba bangaboni "ubunzima" kwiimeko (njengoko, umzekelo, oku kulandelayo: intombazana engama-4-5 ubudala ubudala, xa efunda ukungafani kobulili, iindlela eziqhelekileyo kumalume ongaqhelekanga aze ambuze apho ipeni lakhe likhona).
Unokukhusela njani abantwana babo ukususela ekuqaleni?
Ngoko, ukuxazulula umbuzo owodwa - ukuzikhethela bona ubuncinane beminyaka yabantwana, ukuba ngabazali bangabahamba kunye nabo, kwaye bayeke bonke abangenakufumaneka - akunakwenzeka.
Umbutho okanye intsapho?
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, yintsapho leyo ichaza ukuziphatha kunye nemithetho yokuziphatha. Kwaye akukho mntu phambi kwabazali abanothando akufanele ahlanganyele kwimfundo yesondo yomntwana. Qinisekisa ukuba intsapho ayifanelekanga.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba uneminyaka yobudala babantwana, ukuba ngabazali bangabahamba kunye nabo, ngokukhawuleza "bafikelele" ekufikeni komntwana osemva - oku kuyingxaki. Kanye nenyaniso yokuba intombazana eneminyaka elishumi elinesithathu ubudala ibiza ilungu le "ileta". Akumangalisi ukuba abahlobo bakhe baya kuphazamiseka, kwaye abantu abadala - bayothuka.
Kwaye nangona isengumntwana kwimimiselo esemthethweni nasemthethweni, kwimibuzo ethile kungcono ukukhula "umqeqeshi" ngaphambili kunokugcina umntwana engazi kakuhle de kube yinto yokugqibela.
Ngoko, uluntu kunye nentsapho zichaphazela omnye nomnye. Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni ecacileyo (okanye ngokuphambene-ngokuvumela ezininzi) kunye namasiko kwintsapho, uluntu luya "lungisa". Kanye nakwiindawo ezichaseneyo - nakweyona ndawo "ephukile" yintliziyo ecocekileyo yintombazana enyanisekileyo kwiimvakalelo, musa ukuzama "ukuthengisa ubuntlwane ngokugqithiseleyo", njl njl.
Ungakuphepha njani ukungaqhelekanga kwentuthuko?
Ngethuba lokuchaza ukusebenza komsebenzi wesini, ukwenza ukuba ingcwele, isondlo-kuthetha, ukugcina umntwana. Emva koko, ezininzi iinkcitho zivela kwimimiselo enqabileyo (isohlwayo ngenxa yokuba nesithakazelo kwisakhiwo sesini lesini esahlukileyo), okanye kwi-permissiveness.
Kwaye umlinganiselo wokuba ulapha unyaka wabantwana, apho abazali bangabahamba kunye nabo. Ukususela kumzuzwana xa umntwana efunda amagama okuqala, xa isigama sakhe sigxina-kubalulekile ukuyeka ukusebenzisana nomntwana - ngokwesini okanye ngokukodwa ngokwesondo (ukudlala ngothando). Ewe, mncinci kwaye akayi kuqonda, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo kukho ukungaqondani ukuba izizathu zeentlekele zikho.
Ungakuphepha njani intlekele kwindlela yesondo?
Ungalindeli iminyaka yobudala abazali abaza kuba kunye nabo-kuba ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesini kunokuthi kungekhona nje izenzo ezinxamnye nabantwana. Kwanele ukuba into engaqondakaliyo yenzeke nabo.
Ukutolika kwinto eyenzekayo (ekuqondeni komntwana) kunokungafani. Ngokomzekelo, isiqhelo ukuhamba nge-naked. Okanye into yokuba umntu omdala angambonisa "ipussy" kwintombazana. Ayaziwa, okokuqala, indlela intombi okanye unyana eza kusabela ngayo xa ebona uyise nonina behamba ngexesha elijonge ngakumbi, kwaye oku kuya kuthinta njani ukujonga kwabo ngesondo.
Okukuphela kwendawo yokulawula
Abazali banconywa kakhulu ukuba banxibe iimpahla kwaye kungabi nakwezambatho zabo zangaphantsi xa beneminyaka emi-5-6 ubudala. Oko kukuthi, kumbuzo wokuqala ocacileyo "ndavela phi?" Kodwa umzekelo umzali wesini esifanayo kunye nemeko ehambelana nayo.
Iintombi ezixhamlayo ukuba zilandele umama ongekho nawuphi na ubudala, ukuba zilungiswe yimfuneko - ibhati yokuhlamba, isitya kwiqula. Ngokufanayo, oonyana kunye noobawo. Njengomthetho, oku akuthinteli naluphi na upembelelo ekubunjweni kwesixhaswa ngokwesini, kunye nokugqoka iimpahla. Umzekelo, umzalwana unxibe ingubo yomdakakazi ekhaya ngaphandle kokuthintela - oku kuya kubonisa umdla wakhe ngeenkcukacha kunye neempahla ezahlula abafana kunye namantombazana.
Kwaye ekugqibeleni - ihlazo elincinci
Intombi (iminyaka engama-4), umama, eselunxwemeni e: Kwaye kutheni intombi kababa "ne-gulfikom?" Ungumuntu omdala, akunjalo? Kwaye xa ndikhula, ngaba ndiya kuba neentlanzi ezinjalo?
Unyana (iminyaka emihlanu), umama: Khangela mna! Ndiyindoda yesicabangca! (ukubeka intloko yakhe kunye nokuyibamba ezandleni zakhe). MOM! Ndikhuphe apha!
Abazali baze baguqulwe phambi komntwana, kwaye bahamba kunye kunye nokuhlamba - bahlanjwe, ewe, bahamba kunye kunye kunye. Kodwa xa umntwana eqala ukuthetha - zonke iinkcukacha zaxelelwa kubantu abemi bomthonyama nabaqhelekileyo. Yintoni inwele yam unyoko, cinga, phakathi kwemilenze! Kwaye uPapa unomsila! Abazali babengazi ukuba benzani neentloni. Kwaye ngoku bonke abazali abaqhelayo bayacetyiswa ukuba baye ekhaya ubuncinci kwiifutshane