Ukuba umntwana usoloko ejongene neendlela ezingenakunqwenelekayo zonyango, umzekelo, wagonywa, ngoko uloyiko olugqityiweyo loogqirha lunokuqondwa ngokupheleleyo. Umntwana uyothukiswa ngcamango yokuba ukuvakatyelelwa kwesinye isibhedlele kwisibhedlele intlungu iya kuphinda iphindwe. Indlela yokuziphatha kubazali, yintoni oyenzayo?
Okokuqala, ngaphambi kokuya kwiklinikhi, kufuneka uzame ukuchaza ngokucacileyo kumntwana, kutheni uhamba khona, baya kwenza ntoni kuye. Ungazami ukuxoka kumntwana, uthembisa ukuba abayi kuyenza nantoni kuye ukuba ngokwenene umntwana kufuneka abuyele enye into yokugonywa okanye ijojo. Ungaze ukhohlise abantwana, ngaphandle koko abayi kukukholelwa ngexesha elizayo. Kwaye awukwazi ukuchukumisa umntwana wakho ngolunye udwendwe kumgqirha, nangona uviwo olucwangcisiweyo.
Zama ukuchaza ukuba zeziphi iinkqubo, yenzani ngokwezizukulwana zomntwana. Umzekelo, umntwana oneminyaka emnye ongenamsebenzi ukuchaza ukubaluleka kweigonyamelo - akakwazi ukuyiqonda. Kanye kunye nomntwana oneminyaka emine-ezintlanu ubudala, akufanelekile ukuchukumisa ukuba ijojo ayibuhlungu nhlobo. Kule minyaka, umntwana usele eqonda into ebuhlungu nokuba yintoni enokubangela intlungu. Umntwana ukwesaba oogqirha ngesizathu. Kodwa ukuba uthembela ngokunyanisekileyo kwaye ngokuchanekileyo umsebenzi wokulungiselela ngaphambi kokutyelela ugqirha, usana luya kuba lukhulu kakhulu kwaye lube lupholile ukuze luthwale yonke into ayithobele kuyo kwiklinikhi.
Musa ukuxhaphaza umntwana wakho noogqirha
Akufuneki ukuthetha, akuqhelekanga kubantu abadala ukuba babesabise abantwana ngokwabo ugqirha, njengoBarmaley okanye uBaba Yaga: "Ukuba uziphatha kakubi, ndiza kubiza ugqirha nge-syringe enkulu kwaye uya kukunika injoza!". Emva kokusongelwa okunjalo, akuyikumangaliswa kukuba umntwana uya kukhwankqisa ukuba "abahlali" -abaphengululi abanobuhlungu abantwana. Kwaye zonke izihlandlo esibhedlele uya kubalwa ngokuphindiselela kwabazali ngenxa yokungathobeli.
Thembisa umntwana ukuba umvuzo wokuziphatha kakuhle kunye nogqirha. Kwaye akubakho konke okufunekayo ukunika amathoyizi okanye ukutya ukutya - unokuhamba kunye nomntwana kwi-cinema, epakini okanye kwindawo yokudlala.
Kwenzeka ukuba umntwana oogqirha akayikwesaba, kodwa izambatho zakhe ezingabonakaliyo azigodli. Ukujamelana nokuloyika, ungamema umngane omhle lowo uphathwa kakuhle, kwaye umcele ukuba agqoke ingubo emhlophe. Nika umntwana ithuba lokuxoxa kunye naye emoyeni, udlale ujikeleze, usetyenzise kuyo encinci. Le nqubo inceda ukugqithisa ngokupheleleyo ukwesaba isambatho esimhlophe.
Dlala nomntwana omncinane kumdlalo odlala indima
Vula isibhedlele sakho sasekhaya, apho indima yezigulane ziza kuba ngamathoyizi, kwaye wena nomntwana wakho uya kuba oogqirha. Ndixelele into endiyenzayo: njengoko ugqirha ehlola intamo, uziva umlomo wakhe, uyabhoxa ngamadolo ngesando. Myeke umntwana aphinda yonke into kuwe. Ngenkqubo yomdlalo, uya kulibala ukuba uyamoyika oogqirha. Emva koko iindima zinokutshintshana, kwaye uvumele ugqirha omncinci akuhlolisise, kwaye wena-yena. Musa nje ukumphoqa umntwana ukuba abe isigulane sakho, ukuba akafuni. Kuthetha nje ukuba akakalungi okwamanje. Thatha ikhefu uze ubuyele kule mdlalo emva kwexesha.
Kwimeko apho umntwana enomntu omdala, unako ukuya kudokotela xa umntwana omdala ehlolwa. Makukhangele owona mncinane ukuba ugqirha akenzanga nantoni na, kwaye ukwesaba kwakhe kuya kuba nganto.
Ukuba kukho umgca omude phambi kweofisi yegqirha, zama ukwenza into enomdla kunye nentwana kwaye uyimphazamise kwiingcamango eziyikrakra. Akusiyo ingcinga embi ukuthabatha nencwadi oyintandokazi okanye incwadi eyithengiwe ngokuthe ngqo kule meko. Kanye kunye nosana, jonga imifanekiso, funda, uthetha ngezinto ozibonayo ngendlela yehlaya. Makhe umntwana abe nomuzwa wokuthi akukho nto iyingozi okanye engaqhelekanga kwizinto eziphambi kwakhe. Ukuba akukho nto inokucwangciswa. Umntwana uya kukhetha ukunyamekela kakuhle kwaye uzilawule.
Musa ukuphazamiseka xa unomntwana. Abantwana bayayiqonda yonke into ngokugqibeleleyo, kwaye ukuba umama uthi enye into, kodwa emphefumlweni, unenkxalabo kwaye ucinga ngokungafaniyo, umntwana uya kuqonda kwaye aqale ukufumana ngakumbi.
Ukuba uyakhela kakuhle ingxoxo nomntwana, kholelwa kuwe ukuba akukho nto eyoyikwenzekayo kuye, ngoko oogqirha abayi kuze kube yinto yokufihla. Jabulela ukutyelela ugqirha kunye nempilo enhle!