Nguye yedwa okhulisa abantwana ababini, wasebenza nzima kwaye wakwazi ukufikelela kwimigangatho. Kwaye phantse iminyaka engama-45 - xa uqala into entsha, njengoko kwakunjalo emva kwexesha - ndabhala incwadi yam yokuqala. Kwaye ngoko uqale enye impilo ...
... Incwadi kaBarbara Cher "Ukuphupha akuyingozi" iminyaka engama-35. Oku kuguqulelwa kwisiRashiya ngokokuqala ngqa, kodwa kwamanye amazwe kuseyona yintengiso. Kwaye kutheni? Ngako oko, kubonakala ngathi izizukulwana ezitsha zingekho ngaphantsi kwezidlulileyo zidinga umntu ukuba aqwalasele amaphupha abo, iingcamango zabo ezingacacanga kunye neminqweno kwaye bacebise ngokucacileyo indlela yokuyibuyisela inyaniso, indlela yokufumana indawo eya kuyo. Sikuphakamisa okwangoku ukuba wenze uqeqesho oluthathu oluvela encwadini nguBarbara Cher "Ukuphupha akuyona inzakalo", oku kuya kukunceda ubone into oyithandayo.
Ukuzivocavoca 1: Buyela ebuntwaneni
Zonke iigurus eziya kuyo ziya guquka into enye: abaninzi abantu banetalente zezizathu ezithile ezibonakaliswe ebusaneni. Ewe, njengomntwana, umntu akakwazi ukuthetha ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ufuna ukuba ngumqambi we-colonier, kodwa, ngokuqinisekileyo, ubonisa umdla kumsebenzi othile. Khumbula into oyithandayo ukwenza ntoni ebuntwaneni bakho? Mhlawumbi uthanda ukudweba, okanye ukhangelelwe ngeeplani, okanye mhlawumbi uthanda ukuza nemidlalo emitsha? Umbonisi owaziwayo we-TV u-Oprah Winfrey, umzekelo, uyathanda ukuxelela indlela, ebuntwaneni bakhe, wabeka iidodoli ngokulandelelana waza waxoxwa nabo. Bhala ubuncinane iiseshoni ezintlanu ozithandayo ukuzenza njengomntwana. Ukuba awukwazi ukukhumbula, buza unyoko, uyihlo, umntakwabo omdala, umalume okanye unina.
Ukuzivocavoca 2: 20 imisebenzi eyintandokazi
Isihluthulelo senu sigxina sinokuthi senze umsebenzi othile ozithandayo. Oko kukuthi, indawo oya kuyo ingekhe ibe yinto ethile, endiyithetha yona, iyinto enyanyekayo. Thatha iphepha kunye neepeni uze ubhale imisebenzi yakho eyintandokazi engu-20. Ngaphezu koko, olu luhlu lunokubandakanya nezo zidibanisa ezibonakala ngathi banal (umzekelo, "ukutya ukutya okumnandi"). Izifundo mazibe ubuncinci 20. Emva kokuba uludwe luhlanganiswe, kufuneka wenze izinto ezimbini. Okokuqala: ukufumana iipatheni. Khangela, ziphi izikhokelo ezikhokelayo kwoluhlu lwakho? Mhlawumbi yimeko enxulumene nokunceda abantu okanye uhlobo oluthile lwemisebenzi yezemidlalo? Okanye, mhlawumbi, uyaqonda ukuba unomdla wokupheka? Kwaye into yesibini yokwenza naloluhlu. Zibuze: yiyiphi na le nto ndikulungele ukufundisisa iinkcukacha. Ngokomzekelo, wabhala: "Ndiyathanda ukusela ikhofi." Ukulungele ukufundisisa ngokupheleleyo inkcubeko yekhofi, iintlobo zekhofi kunye njalo. Ukuba kunjalo, mhlawumbi, injongo yakho, ngokwenene, idibene nokudala i-franchise ekhethekileyo yekhofi.
Ukuzivocavoca 3. Ngubani na ondijikelezeyo
Khawucinge nje ngolu hlobo: unelungelo lomhla omnye ukuzungezela nabantu abanjalo njengoko ufuna. Uvuka ekuseni kwaye isixeko sigcwele abantu phantsi kwesicelo sakho. Luhlobo luni lwabantu oluya kubakho? Ziziphi iimpawu ezifunekayo? Mhlawumbi ufuna ukujikelezwa ngabantu ngaso sonke ixesha, "Einsteins", okanye "iDalai Lama"? Okanye ufuna ukubona abadlali, iimvumi, abaculi kwindawo yakho? Uthetha ntoni ngala bantu? Kutheni unomdla kuzo? Khumbula ukuba imo yindawo ebalulekileyo ekwakheni i-destiny yakho.
Ukuzivocavoca 4. Izilwanyana ezinhlanu
Olunye uhambo lwentambo. Cinga ukuba unemihlanu. Yaye ngamnye kubo unokuhlala wedwa, kodwa ngawo wonke umphefumlo kufuneka uzinikeze umsebenzi omnye. Ziziphi ezo zakhono eziya kubakho? Ngokukhawuleza xa wenza lo msebenzi, uya kubona ukuba kukho ezininzi iitalente kuwe kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, uya kukhetha ukuba bonke abahlanu baphila ngokugqithiseleyo. Inokwenzeka ukuba, ukugijima kuya kuba yintsimi yenzululwazi eya kumculi we pop. Kwaye oku kuqhelekileyo! Ngokomzekelo, u-Albert Einstein, njengoko waziwayo, wayengengowona owaziyo kuphela wefilosofi, kodwa naye u-violinist oqaqambileyo! Wadlala i-violin ukususela ebuntwaneni kwaye ngamanye amaxesha wayethetha nabafundi bakhe.
Ukuzivocavoca 5. Usuku olu-5+
Kwaye makhe sicinge nje: yintoni imini yakho efanelekileyo? Kufuneka uhambe ngcamango yakho kwaye uqonde ukuba, ngubani, wenza ntoni ngexesha lakho elifanelekileyo? Uvuka phi? Unxiba ntoni? Uhamba phi kuqala? Ziziphi iingcinga zakho emini. Cinga ngolu suku ngemininingwane epheleleyo. Musa ukulinganisela ukucinga kwakho. Mkhulu! Kwaye masenze oku okulandelayo. Kuya kubakho ukwahlula amaphupha akho omhla olungileyo kwiintlobo ezintathu: "yintoni eyimfuneko ngokwenene," "yiyiphi into apha ngasentla ifaneleka, kodwa ayimfuneko," kwaye "ukukhawuleza." Kuphela uluhlu lwemicimbi yokuqala, izinto kunye nemisebenzi iya kukubonisa oko kubaluleke kakhulu kuwe kwaye apho i-mission yakho ingafihla khona. Ngokumalunga nokusetyenziswa konke ngokubanzi kunye nendlela yokufezekisa iinjongo, unokufumana kwi-ncwadi ethi "Ukuphupha akuyona into eyingozi"