Umda wobudala phakathi kwabantwana

Eli nqaku lichaza malunga neengxaki kunye neentlupheko ezahlukeneyo ezahlukeneyo kwintsapho ebantwaneni. Ku luncedo kubazali abaceba ukuzalisa intsapho.

Imithetho ebalulekileyo yokukhulisa abantwana

Abantwana yinto ebaluleke kakhulu ebomini bethu. Kwaye ngokwemvelo, sifuna ukuba ubudlelwane obuphakathi kwabo bube bufudumele kunokwenzeka, bube nesithenda ngakumbi kwaye bunamandla. Yintoni efunekayo kule nto?

1. Akungathandabuzeki ukuba imeko yokuqala iyakhuliswa kakuhle. Cacisa abantwana ukuba baphathane njani, bafundise ukwabelana ngamathoyizi kunye neesekese, ncedana, khusela xa kunesidingo.
2. Okwesibini, imeko ebalulekileyo isimo esifanayo kubantwana. Musa ukukhupha umntu omnye, ukumnika ingqwalasela kunye nomsondezo womzali. Abanye abantwana kule meko baya kuziva bephuhliwe, ngoko umona, kunye nobuhlobo obubi kunye nomzalwana okanye udade.
3. Okwesithathu ngumzekelo omhle wokunxibelelana phakathi kwabazali, oogogo, oomkhulu kunye nezinye izihlobo. Abantwana bayamkela yonke inkcazelo abayibonayo okanye bayayiva, kwaye kamva bavelisa ekunxibelelana nabahlobo, umzalwana okanye udade, kunye nabazali babo. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ulwalamano olulungekileyo phakathi kwabantwana bakho, kuqala ulungelelanise ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu abadala. Yaye ukuba kukho ukuphikisana, musa ukwenza isigqibo phambi kobantwana, vumela ukuba uphakamise ilizwi lakho kwaye usebenzise amandla omzimba.
4. Isimo sesine, kwaye akukho nto engabalulekanga, ngumlinganiselo wobudala phakathi kwabantwana. Siza kuxubusha oku ngokubanzi.

Ukwahlukana kweminyaka phakathi kwabantwana kuhlulwa njengolu hlobo lulandelayo:

1. ukusuka kwiminyaka eyi-0 ukuya kweyesi-3-umlinganiselo omncinci;
2. ukususela kwiminyaka emi-3 ukuya kweyesi-6 - umlinganiselo ophakathi;
3. ukususela kwi-6 nangaphezulu, ngokulandelanayo, umahluko omkhulu.

Makhe sihlolisise ngokukodwa ukuxhamla kunye nenkunkuma yecandelo ngalinye.

Ukwahlukana okuncane

Okokuqala, kukufanelekile ukuthetha ukuba ukukhulelwa nokubeletha yinkxalabo yokuxineka komzimba wesetyhini. Ngako oko, izazi zezilwanyana zincoma ukuthatha ikhefu phakathi kokukhulelwa okungenani iminyaka engama-2-3. Ukongezelela, ukunyamekela abantwana ababini abaxhomekeke kuyo kuyinkqubo eyinkimbinkimbi, eyinkxalabo, kwaye umfazi kufuneka acinge ukuba unamandla okomoya okwaneleyo okukhulisa abantwana ababini.

Ngokuphathelele ulwalamano phakathi kwabantwana, kukho i-pros and their cons. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abantwana baya kuba neenjongo eziqhelekileyo, izinto ezithandwayo kunye nemisebenzi. Kuya kuba lula ukuba baqonde omnye nomnye. Baya kuba nomdla kwiincwadi ezifanayo, amathoyizi, iikhathuni, njl. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, oku kungabangela ukuxabana okukhulu. Ukuphikisana phakathi kwabantwana kubakho kuzo zonke iintsapho, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ziphi na ukuhluka kobudala kunye nokukhuliswa. Kodwa umgangatho wokhuphiswano unamandla, ungaphantsi kweminyaka yobudala kubantwana. Ngokuqhelekileyo le ngxaki ayihambi nje ngokukhula kwabantwana, kodwa, ngokuchaseneyo, iyancipha kakhulu. Ngoko ke, ukuba unquma ukuba nomntwana wesibini onomncinci omncinci kwiminyaka yobudala, lungele ukugqiba isigqibo sokuba ngumntu omnye okanye enye into ebantwaneni bakho.

Umlinganiselo wesantya

Lo mahluko ungabizwa ngokufanelekileyo kwiindawo ezininzi. Okokuqala, umzimba womama sele usuphumlile kwaye ulungele ukukhulelwa okutsha kunye nokuzalwa komntwana. Okwesibini, umntwana omdala sele esaya kwintsimi, oko kuthetha ukuba umama unethuba elingakumbi lokunyamekela umntwana osanda kuzalwa. Ukongezelela, owakho ozelwe kuqala uye wafumana inkathalo eninzi yomzali, ulwazi olusisiseko kunye nezakhono, kwaye uye wazimela ngokuzimeleyo. Okwesine, ukususela malunga neminyaka emithathu ubudala, abantwana bavuswa ngentshisekelo kubantwana, bakulungele ukuba babelane nabo, badlale, bahlabelele iillabies, bancede unina ekunyamekeleni, kunye nokuzonwabisa ngokuhamba nomntwana kunye nabazali ukuhamba. Okwesibini, umona kule minyaka yobudala akunakwenzeka kakhulu. Umntwana okhulileyo uya kuba sele eqonda kwaye mhlawumbi uyamxelisa umntakwabo okanye udadewabo omncinci. Kodwa ngelo xesha kukho ezininzi iimfuno kunye nezinto ezithandwayo eziza kwenza abantwana bahlale befumana ulwimi olufanayo.

Kwiimigodi zingabangelwa kwiingxaki ezinokwenzeka malunga nomsebenzi wam mama. Akunabo bonke abaqeshi abazimisele ukunyamezela ukungabikho kwexesha elide lomqeshwa okanye ixesha elifutshane kakhulu phakathi kwekhefu lokubeleka ezimbini. Nangona banyanzelekile ukwenza oku phantsi komthetho wezabasebenzi waseRussia Federation.

Uhlobo olukhulu

Lo mahluko unenzuzo kunye nobutyebi bawo. I-pluses zi:

1. ithuba lokuba nokwakha umama;
2. umzimba womama sele ukhulule ngokugcwele kwaye ufumene ukukhulelwa kwangaphambili, ukubeletha kunye nokuhlamba;
3. Umntwana omdala sele sele ekhulile kwaye emele ukuba ngexesha lakhe elincinane angancedisa abazali ekunakekeleni umntwana okanye ukucoca indlu;
4. Imimandla eyahlukeneyo yemfuno yabantwana ingabandakanyi imbambano phakathi kwabo;
5. Abantwana abadala bahlala bongoza umninawa nodadewabo kubazali babo, kwaye kwixesha elizayo badlala badlale ngokuzonwabisa.

Ngokubhekiselele kwiimigodi zohluko lweminyaka emininzi, into yokuqala ukuyikhankanya ngumntwana ophangiweyo. Ekubanjelwe inani elikhulu leentsapho, umntwana angabonisa ezinye ezimbalwa ngaphezu kweemfuneko.

Ukongezelela, umntwana omdala angasuka kubazali, eqonda ukuba kweli nqanaba lobomi, ininzi yengqwalasela kunye nexesha liyingane. Kwaye ngenxa yoko, kunokukho iingxaki esikolweni, ekuxoxaneni neontanga kunye nezihlobo. Ngoko ke, abazali kufuneka bahlale bekela ingqalelo, bekhathalele, bekhathalele, bathathe inxaxheba kuzo zonke iingxaki kunye nemihlali, ukungaphumeleli kunye nempumelelo kumntwana omdala.

Kwakhona kwiimigodi zingabandakanywa ukungaqondi kakuhle phakathi kwabantwana. Ukwahluke ngakumbi phakathi kwabo, ukungaboni ngaso linye kwizinto zabo kunye nezinto ezithandwayo. Ngoko, zizathu ezimbalwa zokuthetha, ukudlala kunye nokwabela ixesha.

Ngokuqhelekileyo, udidi luyimimiselo, kwaye aluyikuqinisekisa ukuba ulwalamano phakathi kwabantwana bakho luya kuba yileyo ebonisa ukuba lo mda umehluko.

Into eyona nto kukuba abantwana bakho bafanele bathande, bathande kwaye banempilo, kunye nabo bonke abanye uya kulwa ngokuqinisekileyo!