Kubonakala kuwe ukuba uyazi yonke into ngomntwana wakho: into ayithandayo okanye engayithandiyo, into ayifunayo ngomzuzwana othile, okoyikayo. Kodwa kukho ezinye izinto ezimangalisayo ongayazi ngazo. Kwaye baxhalabele intombazana yakho. Ngokumalunga noko kufuneka ukwazi malunga nomntwana kwiinyanga ezi-7, ungafunda ngezantsi. Funda kwaye uyamangaliswa.
1. Ziba ngabantu abanesandla esisekhohlo okanye abanamalungelo phambi kokuba bazalwe
Kubonakala kuwe ukuba inkunzi yakho eneenyanga ezisixhenxe ayikhathalele ukuba yeyiphi isandla sokubamba itekisi okanye isipuni kwaye ubhekisele kwizinto ezenza umdla. Kodwa oku akunjalo. Kwaye nangona umntwana angatshintsha "ukhetho" lwakhe phambi kwesikolo, ukudweba ngesandla sakhe sokunene okanye sokunene-"kwinkqubo" yangaphakathi sele sele icaciswe ngokucacileyo ukuba yeyiphi isandla esikhokelela kuye. Kwaye kungekudala kamva umntwana uya kuqala ukusebenzisa "ilungelo" lomsebenzi.
Ngokutsho kweengxelo zangoku kwimbumba ye-fetus yeYunivesithi yaseBelfast, i-left-side okanye ukulungiswa komntwana wakho ikhula emva kweveki ye-10 emva kokuqala kokukhulelwa.
2. Banokubiza "ubaba" nawuphi na umntu unyaka
Oku kungabonakala kungaqhelekanga, kodwa umntwana omncinci kwiinyanga ezi-7 ayiqondi kakuhle intsingiselo yamagama. Ekuphuhlisweni kwakhe kukho umzuzu obalulekileyo xa eqala "ukuzama" onke amagama kwizifundo ezahlukahlukeneyo, ade adeke "ekunene". Kuyafana negama elithi "ubawo". Ukufika kwinqanaba elithile, inkunzi inokubiza umninimzi oza endlwini yakho njengoyise. Oku akuthethi ukuba akaqapheli abazali bakhe. Intsingiselo yamagama afuneka ukuba abizwe ngawo iyafumaneka kuye kamva. Kodwa into engaqhelekanga kukuba le nto ayifumanekanga ngegama elithi "umama". Ngokuqhelekileyo eli gama igama libizwa ngokucacileyo ngumama, kwaye akukho nanye umama. Mhlawumbi, uxhumano olukhethekileyo lendalo ludlala indima?
3. Abahlobo babo babaluleke kakhulu kubo
Mhlawumbi uvakalelwa kukuba umntwana wakho akayikuhlawula abanye abantwana abahleli kwisihlwele esiseduze. Okanye yena, ngokuchasene, uxabana nomntu wonke, ezama ukukhetha amathoyizi okanye aze alwe. Yaye unqumle ukuba abahlobo banamhlanje akudingeki. Uphosakele! Nangona uhleli phantsi kweontanga zabo, umntwana kwiinyanga ezi-7 sele ezixubusha kwiqela. Kwaye oku kubaluleke kakhulu kwinqanaba lokuphuhliswa kwayo - kufuneka ukwazi nawuphi na umama! Kwaye kunye nokuxabana rhoqo, ukuxabana kunye nokudabuka "kwiintlanganiso" zabantwana kuyimfuneko ekuphuhliseni phambili abantwana, ngokubunjwa kobuntu babo.
Abaphandi baye bafumanisa ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani isimo sengqondo "esingengomzali" kubantwana. Bakudinga ukuba ubuncinci ngamanye amaxesha baphume ekunyamekeleni kwabo bonayo babomama baze bazame ukwakha ubudlelwane kunye neontanga zabo. Okanye bodwa ube nabo. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu kubo.
4. Ungakwazi ukubala ngokukhawuleza ukukhula kwabo kwikamva
Iingcali zenzululwazi ziye zaphuhlisa isicwangciso esithile, esekelwe kuyo, unokuzimela ngokuzimela ukukhula komntwana wakho kummandla omdala
Kule nkwenkwana: [(ukuphakama komama + ukuphakama kompapa + 13 cm): 2] + 10 cm
Kwintombazana: [(ukuphakama komama + ukuphakama kwemitha -13 cm): 2] + 10 cm
5. I- TV ayiyona imbi kubo
Yilokho okufuneka ukwazi malunga nosana kwiinyanga ezi-7 kubo bonke abazali. Enyanisweni, ukubukela iTV kunokunceda umntwana ukuba akhule ngokukhawuleza - abaphandi bathi. Kodwa kuphela ukuba iinkqubo zilungelelanisa i-teleman encinci (kwaye ngoku zininzi zazo kwiindlela ezizodwa zabantwana) kwaye "zondliwa" ziya kukhishwa. Ngendlela efanelekileyo, i-TV ingaba ngumncedisi ekuphuhlisweni komntwana kwiinyanga ezili-7, kwaye akuyiyo imbangela ye-neuroses kunye nobugwenxa bokuqala kwabantwana.
6. Umculo uyabancedisa ukuphuhlisa izakhono zemathematika
Abaphandi eYunivesithi yaseCalifornia bafumanisa ukuba abantwana ababesoloko bephulaphule umculo weklasi ngaphambi konyaka babonisa iziphumo ezingcono kwiimvavanyo zengcinga zexesha kunye nokucinga. Baye baqonda izinto ezisisiseko zeemathematika ngokukhawuleza nangaphambili kunezoontanga zabo abangenanto yokwenza nomculo.