Kukho uluvo oludumileyo lokuba amadoda atshintshe kuphela abanelisekile ubomi obunobomi kwaye bafuna imiphefumlo efudumeleyo, ukuqonda kunye nesondo elimnandi kwicala. Kwaye kuthi, bafazi, kukho ulonwabo olwaneleyo lokuba nomyeni kwaye xa kubonakala, siqinisekile ngokwenene ukuba inokuthi ithathe indawo yehlabathi lonke. Emva kwexesha siqala ukuqonda ukuba, nangona ubukho bomyeni othandekayo, ngasemva, sinomuva wokufuna abanye abantu. Sithanda ukubukeka kwendoda enomnye umntu, apho intliziyo yakhe ikhulula okanye iqala ukulwa rhoqo.
Isimo sengqondo ebantwini kwindoda okanye ibhinqa lihlala lihluka ngokubanzi. Ukungcatshwa kwesiqingatha esomeleleyo kuhlale behlahlisa, bajonge nje isiganeko nje, bajonge ngeminwe yabo, bachaze yonke isithembu samadoda, kwaye oku kungabonwa ngongxaki emtshatweni. Isiseko semigaqo yokuziphatha kabini kwixesha elide elidlulileyo, xa amadoda ekulondolozeni i-gene pool azama ukusabalalisa imbewu yawo ngokusebenzisa i-Expanses yomhlaba, kodwa wayeyilumkele kakhulu ngothando lwabesetyhini - ukwesaba ukuvelisa inzala yabanye kwintsapho. Nangona eFransi ngo-1804, ngokwemigaqo yomgaqo kaNapoleon, ngenxa yokungathembeki komfazi, indoda yayingadinga ukuqhawula umtshato, nangona ukunyeliswa kwakhe kwakungabonakali kwaze kwaba yilapho ezisa umninindlu endlwini yakhe.
Abafazi abasoloko befuna ukuwamkela imigaqo yokuziphatha kabini kwaye babhekise kwimbali. Ngaphambi kokuba i-matriarchy izalwe, imfundiso yeTantra yazalwa, apho ilandela ukuba le nto ibhinqa yayiyintloko, i-Cosmos, i-clot yamandla eyayidinga ukuzaliswa rhoqo kwaye ngoko ayikwazanga ukwaneliswa ngumlingane omnye.
Nangona kunjalo, amaxesha omtshato asele adala, kwaye kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, amadoda akhathazeke ngokungathembeki. Iingqondo ezilungileyo kakhulu zoluntu ziye zazama iminyaka emininzi ukuphendula umbuzo, kutheni abafazi beshintsha? Kwimixholo engapheliyo yokungathembeki kwabasetyhini, imisebenzi emininzi yayibhaliwe, "Groza", "Madame Bovary", "u-Anna Karenina." Amadoda akholelwa ukuba abafazi bayashintsha ngenxa yokuphefumula kwabo, ukungapheli. Sikholelwa ukuba izizathu zokungcatsha zisekelwe ngokupheleleyo kwenye. Abesifazane basoloko badinga ukuqinisekiswa kokutsalana kwabo, iminqweno, isithandwa ngesini. Isambatho sesitayela, isicatshulwa esitsha, isikhwama esinefashini yowesifazane ngumxholo wokubongwa ngabo bahamba naye. Ibhinqa liyindoda yothando. Uhlala efuna uphando, uthando kwaye akaze abe nolwalamano oluhle. Ngokungafani namadoda, ibhinqa alikhangelanga ubuhlobo obutsha, kodwa ngokubhetele.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa efunde ngokungcatsha kwendoda yakhe, umfazi uhamba nomoya olula, njengokuba ufumana imvume yokwenza njalo. Ngoko, madoda, kwakhona, ukhangela ibhinqa elihle, khumbula ukuba umfazi wakho ujikeleze u-donzhuany.
Emva kokuba ufunde ngothando lomyeni ongaphantsi komhlaba, umfazi uphathwa ngenxa yentukuthelo kunye nomona, evuma ukudibana nomnye umntu, ngamanye amaxesha ukuthelekiswa akunakukuthanda umyeni wakhe. Ndingathanda ukuqhubeka nokubonakalisa abantu besetyhini njengabantu abangenasithandana, kodwa simele sivume ukuba iimeko ezininzi ezixhatshazwayo zixazulula iingxaki zezinto eziphathekayo okanye ziqhube phambili kumanqanaba omsebenzi. Kuthiwani ngokuthengwa kwezinto ezithandayo? I-Lacy yangaphantsi kweengubo, ibhotile yeqhumiso kunye nephunga le patchouli ngoko ijika intloko yakho, kwaye umyeni wakho ucinga ukuba ubonakala ngathi ulungele iingubo ze-perestroika, kuba umvuzo wakhe awuvumeli ukuba akuphephe. Umnqweno wokuba nomthandi kwintombi ayifuni ngokukhawuleza, kodwa xa exinekile kwaye ecinezelekile xa engenalo ukhathalelo olwaneleyo kunye nothando emtshatweni.
Umfazi oqhelekileyo, ekhokele umthandi, unokunyanyiswa ngabo ukuba, ngenxa yale nto, uya kumbeka kumgca, kwintsapho yakhe, aze aphelise ubomi bakhe obusemhlabeni. Kukho uninzi lweenguqu eziphathekayo ekukrexeni kwabasetyhini: kukukhuthaza ukuba uhlale ungumzimba ophezulu kakhulu, ukhanyise emehlweni, itoni eyongeziweyo. Kwaye konke oku kujongene nomfazi. Kukho ithuba lokujonga umyeni wakhe ngendlela entsha. Ngamanye amaxesha ukunyaniseka kwakhe kuphulukisa umona wakhe. Ubuqhetseba, ngokuqinisekileyo, sisono esikhulu, kodwa yonke into ayifuni.
Sifanele sinyaniswe phambi kwethu nakwezinye: imiphumo engathandekiyo yokungcatsha ingaphezulu, ngokwenza amandla abo, baya kukhulula. Amadoda ngokucacileyo ayazi ukwenza ntoni kwimeko yokungathembeki kwabasetyhini: ngokukhawuleza ukuqhawula umtshato, ngenxa yokungathembeki komfazi kubuhlungu kakhulu ukuba ukuxolela, bambalwa kuphela abanako.
Ukuba uya kutshintsha umyeni wakho, kukukhathaza ngokuvuma ngokuqhelekileyo, isambatho sezemidlalo kunye nemikhono elula, i-cologne engabizi, musa ukukhawuleza. Mhlawumbi a bafuni izinto ezilungileyo kunye ezilungileyo? Khumbula izimbali eziboniswe kuwe ngokungalindelekanga, iingoma ozibethele ehlobo kwi-dacha okanye umfanekiso wakho, efunyenwe ngethuba kwisikhwama sakhe.
Ukholo lwabasetyhini luhlala lusizi lokuphelelwa lithemba. Awunakunceda ukukhala, kodwa yenzani ukulimaza. Yenza enye inzame yokuthetha nentetho yakho eyintandokazi - kwaye wena, ndiqinisekile, yonke into iya kuvela.
Iingcebiso ozithandayo!