Kodwa ukuba uyaqonda ukuba ufuna ukubuyisela lo mntu, nangona nantoni na, kukho umgaqo osisiseko-ukwenza. Ukuba uhleli, ugoba iingalo zakho kunye nentlungwini, ngoko ngokwakhe akayi kubuya! Ngoko uyifumana njani indoda emva kokuhlukana?
Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukuqonda nokuqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba ngubani owayengumqali weliphu, ndigxininisa i-gap. Akukho mpikiswano, emva koko kwaphuka ukuphuka, kodwa ngubani owanikela kwinxalenye. Ukuba ukhona, ngoko kulula, ukuba kunjalo, kunzima ngakumbi.
Okwesibini, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngubani owaqalisa ukuhlukana, umntu makaqonde kwaye alungele ukuxolela umfana. Emva koko, ukuba le nto ayenziwanga (kwaye ingcono kunabini bobabini), ngoko nayiphi na ukuhlangana kwakhona kuya kutshatyalaliswa ngokukhawuleza ukunikezela ngokutsha kunye nendawo entsha.
Kwaye ekugqibeleni, into yokugqibela kunye eyona nto ibalulekileyo ukubuyisela umfana okanye ukubuyela kumntu unokwenzeka, ukuba ngaba nonke nisenomsindo omnye komnye. Ukuba umntu akanalo, ke zonke iinzame ziza kutshabalalisa, ekugqibeleni kuya kuba yindawo embi, kungekhona ubuhlobo.
Umqalisi wokuhlukana nguwe.
Ukuba ngaba ngu-initiator, ngoko yonke into ilula. Ngoko, uyakuthanda kwaye uyakuxabisa, kwaye ukuba kunjalo, uya kukuxolela ubuthakathaka bakho obuthathaka kunye nokutshintsha kwemizwa yenkqubela. Simele sizame ukuseka ubudlelwane kwakhona. Ukwenza oku, ngamanye amaxesha ukwanele ukubiza kunye nokucela ukuba ubuyele, okanye ubuncinane unikezele ukudibana nokuthetha.
Ukuba umntu uyakuthanda ngokwenene, kuya kwanele ukuba uzichazele kwaye mhlawumbi uxolise ngenxa yeepazamo zakhe ukuze ube kunye kwakhona. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthetha yonke into ngokunyanisekileyo, ukuze intanda yakho imkholelwe ngokwenene ukuba uyaguquka. Ngokuqinisekileyo, awukwazi ukuthatha inkohlakalo yokuzihlukanisa ngokwakho, kuba nje ngoqheliselo lubonisa, oku kubomi akunakwenzeka. Umfana kufuneka aqonde iimpazamo zakhe. Ukuba ushwankathela, ngoko kufuneka uthathe isinyathelo sokuqala, njengesibonakaliso sokuba awufuni ukwahlukana, kodwa kufuneka uhlangane.
Umqalisi wokuhlukana nguye.
Kule meko, yonke into yinkimbinkimbi ngakumbi, kuba xa eqala ukuphuka, kufuneka, kwinqaba, abe ngowokuqala ukunikezela kwakhona. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, ukuze umntu athethe ukuxolelana (konke okokukhukhumeza kwamadoda kunye nokuzithemba), kuthatha iminyaka, kodwa awukwazi ukulinda. Ngoko ke, kufuneka uphinde uthathe isinyathelo sokuqala, kodwa ngeli xesha kufuneka libe lincinci kwaye litheke ngakumbi. Okokuqala, kufuneka ubeke ubudlelwane obuqhelekileyo kunye naye, umbize kwindawo ethile, kodwa kungekhona ukuba ube kunye kunye nakwinkampani. Ipikiniki, iqela, ikhonsathi, uhambo-konke oku kulungile. Musa ukucinga rhoqo malunga nendlela yokubuyisela umfana emva kokuhlukana, zama ukuphazamisa. Kwakhona kubalulekile xa udibana naye ukujonga zonke i-100, kodwa ungenzi iziphakamiso ezicacileyo. Khumbula indlela yakho yokuqhayisa. Umntu ngokwakhe kufuneka aqonde indlela aziva ngayo ngaphandle kwakho kwaye ufuna ukubuyela. Ndicinga ukuba xa ufike kwiimeko ozifunayo, uya kuqonda, into eyona nto ayiyikukhawuleza izinto kakhulu. Ngoko ukuthetha ukuba kunikwe imfuneko ukunika umntu "помомится".
Ngoko, xa isitya sikulungele, kufuneka uqhubele phambili kwisigaba sokugqibela somsebenzi, intlanganiso nganye. Apha unokongeza i-romanticism, loo nto yayiza kuba yimva. Nantsi kwakhona, into ephambili akuyikuyidlula, ungazami ukuxhoma zonke izinja kumfana, umfana kufuneka axolise, kodwa kufuneka uhambe naye ukuya kwintlanganiso. Mhlawumbi uya kuba nakho ukuyibuyisela.
Kodwa njengoko ndithethile ngasentla, umbuzo oyintloko kukuba ngaba ufuna olu lwalamano olutsha ngokwakho, kuba unokubuyela kumfana omdala, kodwa kuya kuba ngumnye umntu kunye nolunye ulwalamano.