Abanye bacinga ukuba oku kulandelelwano lwezinto, becinga ukuba "ndingumntu. Ndiyakwazi! "Kodwa akubona bonke baqonda ngokucacileyo intsingiselo yegama elithi" indoda ". Akukuphela nje ukuzisa imali kwintsapho yakho, kodwa nokuyigcina, ukuyikhusela kuyo yonke into embi. Isenzi esona silapha "silindile".
Kwaye ukuba oko kwenzeka, yintoni eya kuziphatha ngayo indoda xa yatshintsha? Ngaba uya kuzivakalisa okanye azithule? Oku kuloyikwa ngabaninzi abasetyhini, kuba besaba ukulahlekelwa ngumkhethi wabo.
Amadoda amaninzi "ahambe ngakwesobunxele" ukuze abonise ubunqunu bawo kwaye athole ukubonakala kwintsha. Ngokuqhelekileyo bayeka ukuba "ngamadoda okwenene" nabafazi babo. Ngexesha elifanayo lizalisekisa, iintyatyambo, ukuthandana, izidlo zothando zinyamalale, kwaye imihla ngemihla ikhumbuza enye yangaphambili. Isizathu sokuxoka kwamanga kaninzi ukunganeliseki ngobomi babo obusondeleyo. Emva kweminyaka emininzi yomtshato, iimvakalelo zipholile xa zingabonakali ngamandla amatsha. Kwaye emva kweso sihlandlo indoda ngezinye iinkhathi ayikwazi ukukhanyela isilingo sokutyelela umfazi othile, oza kumfumana ngokukhawuleza, ukuthanda kunye nokuqonda. Kulo mfazi unako ukumbona umphulaphuli omhle kunye nomhlobo omnene ongeke amkhumbuze ngokuqhelekileyo kwintsapho. Ukuziphatha komntu oqhelekileyo, xa utshintshile, kunokuchazwa ngamagama afana nokuthula okupheleleyo malunga neentetho zakhe. Ekubeni bonke bayaqonda ukuba ukunyaniseka okungakumbi kunokuba ngumntu olwalamano lwakhe kunye nomfazi. Kanti unembeza, unecala ungazivakalisi. Kubo, ukugwenxa kuyinto evamile.
Inketho 1. Indoda iya kuzama ukufihla into yokungcatsha nayo yonke amandla akhe, kodwa kwimeko yokuba akafuni ukutshabalalisa ubudlelwane nomfazi wakhe, umtshakazi okanye intombi.
Inketho 2. Xa eguqukile, uya kufika ekhaya aze anikezele ngakumbi umfazi wakhe. Ukuba umfazi akayinyamekeli, ngoko akayi kubona inguqu kwihambo yakhe. Kodwa kukho utshintsho. Umntu uzama ukulungela, ngokokuba umfazi akaqapheli ukuba utshintshile. Emva kwakho konke, nokuba ukhangeleka ungayinika. Ukuba uyayixabisa umfazi wayo, akayi kukwazi ukumjonga emehlweni, nangaphambi kokuba uhlasele. Nangona unentloni encinci yehlazo, uyazi oko akwenzileyo.
Inketho 3. Kukho amadoda aguqukayo ngokwawo, kodwa amangalela abafazi beentlondi, awazange azenze. Kodwa lo luhlobo oluthile lwabantu, uhlobo olusabelayo lokukhusela. Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukubiza le ndoda kunye nesondo esinamandla? Hayi, ayikho. Kodwa akayi kuvuma, naye unokuba kwindawo yowesifazane okhohlisayo.
Emva kokuziphatha komntu, xa eguqukile, iyacaca kumfazi wayo, oku kudla ngokulandelwa ngumtshato. Kodwa ixesha lidlula kwaye uyaqonda ukuba ukunyeliswa kwakhe kubangele ukutshatyalaliswa kobudlelwane bosapho. Kwaye yintoni? Umcimbi omfutshane kunye nomqondo wokuphakama? Hayi, hayi. Nangona wayevuyiswe iintsuku okanye iinyanga ezimbalwa, kodwa kungekudala ufuna kwakhona ukuya ekhaya, kwaye sele akakwazi ukulinda ... Kwaye apha ukuziphatha komntu kuguquka ngendlela efanelekileyo kwaye uzama ukudibanisa nomfazi wakhe. Ngamanye amaxesha uyaphumelela, kodwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokuba abafazi abaxoleli.
Ngaphambi kokugweba abantu, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba yini eyabakhuthaza, oko kukuthi, yayiyintoni isizathu sokungcatsha kwakhe. Kwaye kukho izizathu ezininzi. Ngamanye amaxesha abafazi abanandaba nabo kwaye abaqapheli ukuba baneengxaki okanye imeko ezinzima. Kwaye amadoda afuna inkxaso yabasetyhini njengomoya. Ngako oko, ukungafanelanga umfazi kungaba isizathu sokungcatsha komyeni wakhe.