Ubuqhetseba, mhlawumbi, yinto eyoyikrakra kwaye engathandekiyo enokubambisana. Yaye xa iqabane liguquka, intlungu kunye nokukhathazeka, umsindo kunye nenzondo zihlutha umntu. Kule meko kunzima kakhulu, kodwa kuyimfuneko ukuba uzenze uxolo kwaye ungapheleli kwimvakalelo. Emva kwakho konke, umsindo, njengokuba uyayazi, awuyena mcebisi. Kwaye ukuze ungaphuli imithi, kufuneka ulungelelanise yonke into kwaye uyiqonde. Kananjalo ungafumani zonke iinkcukacha zenzeke. Kutheni ufanele ukwazi oku? Kutheni uzenzele ngakumbi? Emva koko, uya kuvuma, kulula kakhulu ukuxolela inyaniso yokungcatsha ngaphezu kwazo zonke iinkcukacha eziza kuthuthuza ixesha elide. Akukho zizathu zokuguqulwa, kuhlale kuziphatha kakubi nokuziphatha okubi. Kodwa kuninzi abantu banenkxalabo malunga nombuzo: ukuba konke oku kwenzekayo, ngaba unokuxolela uhlanga?
Kule akhawunti, zininzi izimvo. Abanye bathambekele ekwenzeni ukuba xa wenza njalo, kuya kuqhubeka. Abanye banikela ithuba. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, kufuneka uqonde ngokucacileyo ukuba utshintsho luba necala ngaphezu kweqabane elitshintshileyo. Ewe, kunjalo. Emva koko, abantu abayitshintshi nje oko kuthetha ukuba abazange bathande into ethile kwizenzo zeqabane, into elahlekile. Ngoko ke, kufuneka uziqonde kwaye ungamxoleli umlingane wakho, kodwa wena. Ndixolele ngokungazami ukuphucula ubudlelwane. Kwaye xa umntu ebona oku, uya kuba nethuba lokulungisa yonke into aze abuyisele ivuyo elahlekileyo kunye nemizwa yokucima.
Kukho uluvo lokuba ukukhohlisa kuqhutyelwa ngumbonelo, ukuba ngokukhawuleza wonke umntu "uya ekhohlo." Oku kungalunganga ngokukodwa. Ngubani okhusela ukudibanisa ubomi babo nokuvuselela ubudlelwane babo? Kule nto ufuna kuphela umnqweno kunye nengcamango encinane. Zama ukuqhathanisa ukunyaniseka nokuxothwa emsebenzini. Ngaba bayayichitha i-initiative yabasebenzi, abancedisayo umbutho ukuphuhlisa ngezenzo zayo? Hayi, kunjalo. Okanye omnye umzekelo. Ngaba uya ku-cinema apho udlala ifilimu efanayo ngosuku? Ngokuqhelekileyo, uya kujonga iindidi. Ngoko ke, ukuba ulwalamano lwakho luyilo oluqinileyo olungenakuphulwa kwaye kufuneka lilandelwe, ngoko iqabane liza kuhamba ngokukhangela ukuvakalelwa kwintsha. Kodwa zinokuhlaziywa kunye. Kukho inani elikhulu lokukhetha indlela yokulahla ngaphandle kwe-adrenaline. Inokungena kwi-parachute, ukunyuka ezintabeni kunye nokuhamba kwisikhephe. Konke kuxhomekeke kwizinto ozikhethayo.
Yaye ukuba uthethelela ukutshatyalaliswa komlingane kuphela ngamazwi, ngaphandle kokuziqonda, ngoko ulwalamano olunjalo aluyi kuhlala ixesha elide. Ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva baya kufuneka baphele. Emva kwakho konke, kulo mzekelo, iqabane lingeke likwazi ukuhlambalaza nayiphi na into, ukuphawula iimpazamo zakho, njengoko intukuthelo nenzondo iya kuqhubeka ibilisa kwaye uya kuphendula naluphi na ukuhlambalaza kwakhe, ukuphazamisa iimvakalelo zakho. Kwakhona, iqabane liyakukhunjuzwa rhoqo ngezenzo zakhe, kwaye iyanquma ukuba kulula kwaye kulungele ukuqala ubudlelwane obutsha obungaze buthathwe, apho kungayi kuba neengxabano kunye nokuhlola.
Iimpazamo kunye nokusilela kufuneka zifunwe kuwe. Kwaye ngokubanzi, ukungcatsha kufana nesifo. Kungcono ukunqanda. Ungalindeli ukuba iqabane lakho lidideke ebuhlotsheni, yenza ngokukhawuleza. Emva koko, kunengqiqo ukuba ukuba akukho sizathu, akukho nto iya kubakho. Zama ukuqagela iimfuno zomntu othandekayo, ukuba awusebenzi, ke ekupheleni, ufunde. Kwaye wenze. Emva koko ubomi bakho kunye nolwalamano lwakho luza kukuzisa kuphela uvuyo kunye novuyo, kwaye awuyi kuba ngumbuzo, umele uxolele ukutshatyalaliswa okanye cha.