Makhe sijonge kwingcambu yengxaki yokungcatsha umyeni wakhe.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukutshatyalaliswa komyeni wakhe kukuphela kweengxaki zeentsapho. Njengoko bathetha, iingxaki azivuki emoyeni kwaye zihlala zizizathu ezifanelekileyo zokubonakala kwazo. Ukuba ufuna ukugcina umtshato wakho, kufuneka uqonde izizathu ezingundoqo zokungcatsha komyeni wakhe.
Thatha ngesandla ukuze uxoxe nomyeni wakho ekungcatsha. Mamela ngokucophelela iingxabano zakhe. Kulapho, kwingcaciso "yesono sakhe," unokufumana izizathu ezenza ukuba atshintshe. Zibuze umbuzo malunga nento ongayenza kule meko. Nantsi amagama omfazi omnye, lowo umyeni watshintsha nomhlobo wakhe:
"Xa umtshato wethu ulungelelanisa ekupheleni kokulahlekelwa ngumlinganiso, mna nomyeni wam emva kokuthetha ngokungcatsha kwakhe, usenokufumana ityala legolide eliye lavelisa ulwalamano olutsha lwethu, luzaliswe uthando kunye nokuqonda."
Musa ukulibala zonke izinto ezilungileyo ezidibene nomyeni wakho ngaphambi kokungcatsha. Njengoko izibalo zibonisa, isibini esiphila ngokukrexeza sinamandla ngakumbi. Ngoko ke, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunzima kangakanani, zama ukulibala malunga nezo zihlandlo zobomi kunye nomyeni wakho, owawulawula ekuqaleni kobudlelwane bakho naye. Ezi zikhumbuzo ziya kukunceda ukujamelana neengxaki zentsapho eziye zavela kwaye zonakalisa imeko. Kwakhona kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba kufuneka uzinqobe kwaye ulawule iimvakalelo zakho kunye netyala kwaye uhlalutye imeko.
Ngendlela, amava okukrexeza, ngenxa yonke imibala engafanelekanga kunye nemiphumo yabo bobabini, unokuncedisa omnye wenu. Mhlawumbi, emva kwengxoxo enzulu, uya kufunda ezininzi iinkalo ezithandekayo ongazizi ngaphambili. Into enye icacile, uluvo lwakho ngomyeni wakhe luya kuguquka kwelinye icala. Njengoko bethetha, ubeka onke amanqaku angentla "I".
Zama ukuzigcina ungesandla kwaye ungaphumi umsindo wakho kumyeni wakhe. Oku kuya kuphazamisa kuphela isityholo kwaye awuyi kufeza nantoni na. Vumela ukuba "uphole phantsi" kwaye ulinganise yonke into. Ngamanye amaxesha kungcono ukuba unikeze umyeni isikhashana ukuba ahlakazeke, ukuze umsindo oguqwayo ungayi kukhula ngakumbi.
Ngethuba lokucaciswa kobudlelwane, umntu akafanele ahambe ngaphaya kobugqwetha kunye nezizathu zalo. Icebiso lam kuni, musa ukucela iinkcukacha zokugwenxa - zinokuba ngumnqamlezo onzima kangangokuthi kuya kufuneka uphathe ubuninzi iminyaka.
Uxolele okanye uhambe? Enyanisweni, nawuphi na umfazi akasoze akwazi ukuxolela umyeni wakhe ngokunyaniseka. Ubuqhetseba bubunqabile entliziyweni yowesifazane, kwaye ixesha liyakwenza kuphela utywala. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba usenokumxolela umyeni wakho ngenxa yokunyaniseka, ungakhumbuli kuyo yonke into yokumxelela oku. Ngezenzo ezinjalo, uya kumngcwaba umtshato wakho ngeenyanga ezimbalwa zokuhlambalaza inkani yomyeni wakho ngokukunikela.
Emva kokuxolelana nomyeni wakhe, ungamgcini ngokufutshane. Ukuba ufuna ukutshintsha kwakhona, ngoko undikholelwe, uya kuyenza ngokukhawuleza. Umzekelo, ubuncinane kwindlu yangasese ye-ofisi yakhe kunye nobhala.
Ngaba unayo umbuzo: ngaba unokuba ngcono kunokuba? Lo ngumbuzo obaluleke kakhulu: unokwenza uthando nomyeni owakhethile kwenye. Yiba nomonde kwaye ungazami ukubonakalisa kumyeni wakho ukuba ungcono kunalo. Kuya kuguga kuphela ukuziphatha. Makukubonakalise ukuba kufanelekile kuwe.
Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, ungayikhohlwa ukuba uthando luquka inyaniso yokuxolelanisa kunye nokuvisisana nomthandayo. Wonke umntu unelithuba lesibini. Nika. Mhlawumbi, intanda yakho, wayephosakele ngokwenene, kwaye uyazisola ngokuqinisekileyo ngayo. Thandanani.