Njengoko uvakalelwa kukuba umntu usele nentsapho, abantwana, babekwe kwindawo ehlala kuluntu, ngokubhekiselele kwiindawo ezihloniphekileyo. Kwaye isiqingatha sakhe sisazi ukuba ngezikhathi ezithile akayeki emsebenzini.
Izazinzulu zisoloko zisitshela ngesithembu sendalo yomntu. Indoda izama ukuququzelela ubuninzi besifazane ngokusemandleni ukuze iqhubeke nobomi bayo. Ngeendleko zokuthi "ziququzelele" - akunakwenzeka ukuba zifuna oko, ziguqule, kodwa zithathe inxaxheba kwinkqubo efanayo, isiphumo sazo asiyi kuqhubekeka kohlobo lwalo, kodwa nje ukuzonwabisa akucacanga.
Ngethuba lethu, sizama ukukhusela lo mhlaba ngamandla ethu onke: senza konke ukuba sibe ngabomnye kwaye siyingqayizivele, baninzi kakhulu, ngamanye amaxesha sikhubekisa okanye senze i-scandals, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, asikwazi ukuma, sishiya, sibuyele, sixolele okanye singabuyi kwaye musa ukuxolela. Ukuzama ukuqonda isizathu sokuba umntu athengise umfazi kunzima, kwaye kaninzi akunakwenzeka.
Kwaye emva koko, emva kokufunda malunga nomcimbi kwicala lomthandayo, ubuza: "Kutheni?". Ukhangeleka ngokugqithisileyo athi: "Ndixolele," ufunga ukuba enye, enye, ayithethi nto kuye, ukuba umtyholi uye wagqitha kwaye ngoku uya kuba nawe kuphela.
Ngokwenene uya kuba yinyameko kwaye, kubonakala ngathi unesibili "sesithandane". Kwaye uxolela, okanye (emva komntu wokuqala, umntu emva kweshumi) uqokelela izinto kwaye uhambe. Ngonaphakade.
Izizathu zokungcatsha kwamadoda zininzi: mhlawumbi, nangona kunjalo, "umtyholi waxoshwa", wayefuna into entsha, intombazana yayinomdla, wayefuna ukuqonda iingcamango zabo, ukuxhatshazwa unxanelekile.
Kukho iinguqulelo ezifuna ukukholisa abaninzi abafazi, ukuphucula ubuchule babo. Mhlawumbi le nenye yeendlela zokuqinisekisa, okanye esinye isizathu sokungcola. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kukho izinto ezininzi ebomini, akukho mntu ukhuselwe kulo.
Ukujamelana nokukhwabanisa kunzima kakhulu, kodwa ngokubhekiselele kumanani-manani, omdala umfazi uba, ukunyamezela kwakhe kukuziintlobo zeengxaki zakhe. Kodwa ngaba zikhona na amanxeba angaphantsi kwentliziyo? Mhlawumbi akunjalo.
Kuba abaninzi abalandeli bahamba ngecala linye, enye, ayithethi nantoni na, yinto nje yemidlalo. Ubuncinane bathetha njalo. Kukho umntu, kwaye kukho intsapho.
Uxolele kwaye uza kulinda ngentliziyo edibeneyo, xa i-"bell" elandelayo iza kusasazwa, awuyi kuxolela kwaye uya kukuluma, ukhale ebusuku ngaphandle kwentando yakho kwaye uzihlambele ngenxa yokuzikhukhumeza. Kodwa kuphela ukuba uyayithanda, ayiyi kutshintsha.
Ukuba uyiyona nto ebaluleke kakhulu ebomini, uya kucinga ngekhulu ngaphambi kokuba enze into aya kuzisola ngayo emva koko, into enokukulimaza. Kungcono, ewe, ukuba awuzange ufunde ngako, kodwa phila kwaye uyazi ukuba utshintshile ngezikhathi ezithile, ukuze ugcine ifomu, ibuhlungu kwaye inzima.
Nangona kukho abesetyhini abathi bangakhathali, bavumele bahambe, kuba uhlala ebuyela. Abo bazama ukukhohlisa ngamazwi anjalo: ngokwabo okanye kwabanye, okanye nje abafuni ukubonakala bebuhlungu kwaye balahliwe kubahlobo babo.
AmaArabhu anesigqibo esihle: kwenzeka ntoni kanye kungeze kuphinde kwenzeke kwakhona, kwaye kwenzeka ntoni kabini kuya kwenzeka okwesithathu. Ukhetho luhlala luhlala luhlala kuwe: ukushiya, uhlale kunye nomthengisi, uxolelane okanye uhlele amacwecwe. Kodwa into ephambili musa ukuzigxeka ukuba ungowona nto ungayikwanelisi.
Ukuba ufuna ukugcina umhlobo wakho osondeleyo, bulumko, ungafaki phakathi kwakho kunye nodonga lokuhlukanisa kunye nentukuthelo. Ewe, kuya kuba nzima, kodwa zama ukunyamekela nokunyamekela, kholwa kwam, ukuba uyamkhathalela, akayi kufuna ukulahlekelwa yiyo nayiphi na into ehlabathini.