Ngaba ukumanga kunokubangela iziphumo ezinjalo? Impendulo ilula kakhulu. Wonke umntu uyaqonda ukunyaniseka ngendlela yakhe. Kubani umntu ulala ngesondo, kwaye umntu ucinga ukuba ukukopela kunokomoya kuphela, oko kukuthi, ukuba iqabane lithandana, okanye livakalelwa iimvakalelo ezithile, ngoko ke kukukhohlakele. Yaye ukuba uthe wagqiba umnqweno wakhe, ke oku akunakucingelwa ukuba ukungcatsha. Ilungelo lokuba khona lizo zonke iingcamango, kuba kukho abantu abaninzi kangaka, ezininzi iingcamango. Ngako oko, ukuba ucinge ngokumanga nje njengongcatshulwa okanye ungagqibeli. Eli nqaku liza kunika ubungqina obuza kukunceda wenze ukhetho.
Ewe, ngoko. Ukuthetha ngokubaluleka kokubanga, kufuneka kuthathelwe ukuba abaninzi abantu bayayithatha. Kwaye oku kakubi. Khumbula ukuqala kokubanga. Kwaye kukhunjulwa ngabantu bonke, kungakhathaliseki ubudala, kungakhathaliseki ukuba inani labalingani. Emva kwakho konke, ukuqala kokubamba kungokungena ukungena kwabantu abadala.
Kukho ilizwi lasendulo: "Musani ukumanga ngaphandle kwothando." Kwaye oku kuchanekile. Emva kwakho konke, u-kiss akwenzeki ngenxa yesizathu, asinxibe izandla. Ubusiso bunika ithemba kunye nokuphucula ukuphuhliswa kobudlelwane obutsha.
Njengoko kukho uluvo lokuba ibanga alinakuthathwa njengento yokungcatsha, kodwa unako kwaye ufanele uthathwa njengento efanelekileyo yokuzithemba. Emva koko, ukumanga nomnye umntu kunzima ngokwaneleyo ukusinda. Kwaye kufuneka ucinge ngako, kuba ukuba kukho ukubanga, mhlawumbi into ethile ijikeleze ekhoneni? Ngoko ke, kufuneka ucinge, uthathe amanyathelo ukuze kungabikho nkxwaleko yangempela.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba iqabane liye langa okanye livumele ukuba lizibambe, ngoko, wavula loo nto kuthiwa "ukungena emzimbeni," ukumvumela umntu kwindawo yakhe. Kwaye kuvela ukuba engqondweni yakhe sele ishintshile. Emva koko, xa ebanga, wafumana uhlobo oluthile lokuvakalelwa, ngoko waqonda indlela enza ngayo kwaye ngokwemvelo wabangela imiphumo ethile. Kodwa akazange ayeke, akazange alahle ukumanga nomnye umntu. Ngako oko, ukukhohlakele kwakusele kwenziwa, ngoko kuthetha, ngengqondo, kwihlabathi langaphakathi lomntu. Kwaye ngoko sinokugqiba ukuba umntu utshintsha ngaphambi kokumanga, kwaye ukumanga kuyisigqibo esicacileyo sokungcatshiswa.
Kodwa kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba iingqumbo ziyahluke. Emva koko, kubana kunye nabahlobo, kunye nezihlobo, kunye nomthandayo. Kwaye ke kukho umgca ococekileyo phakathi "okusemthethweni" kunye nokumanga okukodwa, okumele kuvezwe. Emva kwakho konke, ukuba umqeshi wakho ubanga isandla sakho intombazana kwisiganeko esisemthethweni, awucinge ukuba lo ukungcatsha. Ngako oko, kufuneka uzincede ngokukhawuleza oko uza kucinga ngokunyaniseka kwaye kungenjalo. Awukwazi ukunciphisa yonke into kwisiseko esisodwa. Oku kuyisiphukuphuku kwaye kuyangalunganga.
Ngokomntu, uluvo lwam: ukubamba kuthathwa njengokungcatshiswa kuphela xa kuvela iimvakalelo, xa intliziyo igxininisa ngesivinini esivuthayo, xa umntu elahlekelwa ixesha kunye neengcinga xa ekhohlwa malunga nento yonke nangabantu bonke. Emva koko kuya kuqwalaselwa. Kungenxa yokuba isithongo ngokwawo ayinalo nengozi. Akunakucingwa ukuba uyamngcatsha. Ingozi ilala ngokuthe ngqo kwiimvakalelo kunye neengqondo ezithintekayo ngexesha lokubanga.
Kodwa ngakwelinye icala, kwaye ngokungazinzi oku akunako ukunyangwa, kuba umangalisa unohlobo lohlula ubungane nothando. Kuye kuye ukuba ulwalamano luqala, lufanelekile amagama angamawaka, nguwe osinika emva kokuhlukana okude kumntu othandekayo.
Njengoko sele kukhankanywe ekuqaleni, ukungcatsha okanye kungenjalo, kufike kuwe. Enye into ngokuqinisekileyo: banike ubabambe kuphela kumthande wakho kwaye ujabule.