Ukususela kwimbono yengqondo yengqondo yabantwana, ixesha lokusana kweintsana liyaqhubeka lide liqale ukumomotheka, lisabele kwizwi lomntu. Ngokukhawuleza xa umntwana ehlekisayo, sinokucinga ukuba isigaba sokuqala sokwakheka kwengqondo yakhe - isiseko apho konke ukuphuhliswa kwakhe okuqhubekayo kusekelwe khona.
Ngoku umntwana usuqala ukuthobela ihlabathi elikujikelezayo, kunye nomqhubi oyintloko, ukukhusela kunoma yiziphi iingozi, ukunika ingqiqo yokhuseleko, ukhuseleko kunye nokuncedisa ukulungelelanisa kweli hlabathi elimnandi, ngowona mntwana.
Okubaluleke ngokukodwa ukuthetha rhoqo kunye nokunxibelelana nomama kumntwana oya kunyaka. Ukuqwalaselwa kweengqondo zengqondo kubonise ukuba ukuba unxibelelwano lomama kunye nomntwana wale minyaka unesizathu esithile asaneleyo, oku kuchaphazela kakubi ubomi obulandelayo bomntwana, ngokumthintela ukuzithemba nokwenza kuye ingcamango yehlabathi elijikelezayo njengento engathandekiyo kwaye zizele zonke iintlobo zeengozi. Yingakho kubaluleke ukuba kukho uqhagamshelwano oluqinileyo nolusoloko luphakathi komntwana nonina. Izixhobo eziphambili zoqhagamshelwano oluphumelelayo lomama:
- Ukuncelisa isisu kukuqala kunye nento ebalulekileyo yokunxibelelana. Umntwana usetyenziswa kwibele emva kokubeleka. Xa umntwana efika ehlabathini, ufumana uxinzelelo olukhulu, kwaye ukuzikhusela kwimpembelelo ewonakalisayo yolu xinzelelo kwi-psyche, kuyimfuneko ukuba abe nomuva wokufudumala kwesifuba somama aze ave intliziyo yakhe. Ukongezelela, kuboniswe ukuba ubisi lwebele luqulethe izinto eziqinisa ukukhuseleka komntwana kwaye zithande ukuphuhliswa okuqhelekileyo kwenkqubo ye-nervous. Ngenxa yezi zizathu, ukuncelisa unganconywa ukuba kuthatyathelwe yinto yokufakelwa.
- Chukumisa. Nangona intsana ingazange ifunde ukuthetha intetho yomntu, iyakhathalela ngakumbi ukuthintela komama. Kuzo uzimisela isimo kunye nomoya womama kunye nabo baziva uthando nothando lomama. Ngako oko, umnxeba womama kumntwana kufuneka abe sobulali, uthando kunye nokuzola. Umntwana kufuneka atyunwe, anqunywe kwaye amanga rhoqo ngangokunokwenzeka. Musa ukumchukumisa umntwana ngendlela ephosakeleyo, njengoko iya kuhanjiswa kuye ngokukhawuleza, kwaye umntwana, xa evile i-alamu, uya kuqala ukukhala, ukuba abe ngongoma. Iingcali ezininzi zicebisa ngaphambi kokuncelisa ukunyamezela umntwana, ekubeni unxibelelwano lwengqondo alugcini nje ukuthoba inkqubo yakhe yeentlanzi, kodwa lukwabangela ukuba kubekho umveliso wobisi olungcono kumama.
- Intetho. Nangona iintsana zingasayiqondi intsingiselo yamagama athethiweyo, zilandele ngokupheleleyo iinjongo ezibhekiswe kuzo. Ngako oko, akubalulekanga kakhulu ukuba yintoni kanye umama athethayo, kubaluleke kangakanani ukuba kukho ukuthobeka, ukuthobeka kunye nokuzola ngezwi lakhe. Imiba ibonisa ukuba umntwana uyakwazi ukwahlula ilizwi lomama kwabanye abaninzi! Ukongezelela, abantwana abanoomama babo bathetha ngokukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza kwaye emva koko banamazwi angaphezu kwabantwana abanomama abazange bafumane kuyimfuneko ukuthetha nabo.
- Ukuqhagamshelana kwamehlo. Iingcali zeengqondo zezingane zikholelwa ukuba umama kufuneka akhangele amehlo kwintsana yakhe ubuncinane imizuzu engama-15-20 ngosuku. Akusiyo into yokuba abantu abasondeleyo baqondane ngokujonga. Amehlo omntu uyisibuko somphefumlo wakhe, ngoko umntwana uya kuhlala eqonda oko umama afuna ukumxelela. Into ephambili - ngamehlo kamama uya kubona uthando lwakhe olungenammiselo nolungenammiselo. Kwaye xa, xa ekhangele umntwana, unomama uya kumncoma aze amomotheka, uya kumnika imvakalelo yakhe kunye nesimo sovuyo.
- Iphupha elidibeneyo. Imbono yokulala nosana kwisikhumba esisodwa ayilandeli, kwaye xa ngexesha lomama obuthongo angabambezela ngengozi okanye ambethele umntwana wakhe, akanalo isiseko kwaye uyaphoswa. Iphupha likamama libuhlungu kakhulu, kwaye kwiphupha umama onothando uphulaphula yonke into enomntwana wakhe kwaye ulawula ukunyakaza kwakhe. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba unina uqhuba umyeni kwelinye igumbi, athathe umntwana, akukho nto iya kuphelisa ...
Kodwa ukuba umntwana akaphumli, ehlala ekhala ebusuku kwaye akakwazi ukulala ngaphandle komama, akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngephupha elidibeneyo. Malunga nomama, abantwana abancinci balala ngokukhululekileyo, kuba baziva bekhuselekile. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana emva konyaka baqala ukufuna ukuzimela, ngokohluke kumama obuthongo baqondwa ngabo buhlungu kakhulu. Ekugqibeleni, ukwenzela ukuba angalali kunye nomntwana ebhedini elifanayo, unina unako ukubeka umbhede wengane ecaleni lombhede wakhe, kwaye uya kuhlala eziva ekhona kwaye alale.
Iingcali zenzululwazi zaseMerika zenze izifundo ezibangel 'umdla ezibonisa ukuba abantwana abangaphantsi kobudala abalala kunye nomama, malunga nama-50 ngamaxesha ngobusuku bonke, kukho ukuphazamiseka ekuphefumla nasentengeni yesantya, ngoxa abantwana belele ebhedeni elifanayo kunye nonina, izifo ezinjalo zibhaliswe maxesha amaninzi.