Ukususela kumaxesha amandulo ngenxa yabasetyhini, amadoda avelise iimfazwe, afuna ukunqoba amazwe amasha kunye neendlela, nabasetyhini, ngokulindelekileyo, balindele ngokuthembeka, bakhulise abantwana. Ukutsalana phakathi kwabantu ababini ngesini esahlukileyo kudla ngokuba luthando, kungekhona uthando, kungekhona uthando okanye umkhwa, oko kukuthi uthando. Ngoko yintoni uthando phakathi kwendoda nomfazi?
Lo mbuzo uye waqeda ingqungquthela ingqondo enkulu. Ukuba uthembele kuphela kwimimiselo yendawo: ukuvumelanisa okanye ngokuphambene nendawo, ubuhle beendlela, ubuhle buso, bubizwa ngokuba ngumtsalane, inzondelelo. Kucacile ukuba indoda eyayibona idlula intombazana enembonakalo emnandi, inomdla wokumbona endleleni. Okanye umfazi, ephawule ukuba umntu ohlambulukileyo, othobileyo, uya kulungisa amaphepha akhe aze azame ukukhangela ingqalelo. Kodwa oku kwenzeka imihla ngemihla yezigidi ngezihlandlo, ngelixa ukunyaniseka okulula kungavusisani uthando phakathi kwendoda kunye nomfazi, ubuninzi bokudlala ngothando. Ngoko ke, kuphela ekuthandeni ngokwenyama loo mvakalelo ayikwazi ukusekwa.
Masizame ukuqwalasela ukunxibelelana. Masithi indoda kunye nomfazi, kungekhona izalamane, rhoqo ukuthetha, ukubiza, ukudibana, ukuhamba okanye ukusebenza kunye kunye nokuqonda kakuhle, bavuya kwaye banokukhululeka. Kuvela, bathanda? Ewe, mhlawumbi bayakwenza, kodwa njengomhlobo onokuzihlaziya kuzo kwaye uziphazamise. Kwaye ukuhlala kunye, ukwabelana ngetafile enye kunye nombhede kubo akunakwenzeka. Ngako oko, le nto ayikwazi ukubizwa ngokuba yintando yesini esahlukileyo, kodwa kunokuba ngumhlobo. Nangona abaninzi abafazi baqhayisa kakhulu abahlobo babo kwaye baxabise olu buhlobo, ukutshata nabo kunqabile kakhulu. Kulungelekile kwaye ukhululekile ukuba ube ngumkhuseli kunye nentlungu enamandla, ngaphandle kokuzibandakanya ngezithembiso ezifungelweyo zokunyaniseka. Kodwa yintoni na eyenza indoda nowesifazane badale intsapho okanye bathandane ixesha elide? Emva koko, kukho abantu emhlabeni abaye bahlala ndawonye iminyaka emininzi kwaye babonise intlonelo, ingqalelo kunye novelwano kubo bonke ubomi babo. Kuyinto enhle ukujonga i-nice couple, asebekhulile, abangakhathaliseki ukuba bahlala ndawonye ndawonye, banxungubele ngomnye nomnye. Yintoni eyimfihlelo yale mbuzo engaqondakaliyo kwaye kutheni iimbambano ezincinci zigcina le ntshukumo kunye nokukhawuleza kulwalamano?
Impendulo ilula. Oku kuthiwa uthando lwangempela phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Kodwa, ukuphulaphula amava obomi obulumko abantu, uqala ukuqonda ukuba kunzima kangakanani lo msebenzi obunzima, ofuna umsebenzi wemihla ngemihla kunye nokunyamekela, nokuba unobungozi kangakanani. Uthando lufana neentyantyambo zentsizana, ezixabisekileyo kwaye zithandwa, kwaye yonke into ephosakeleyo ishukunywe. Omnye uthi uthando luyi-chemistry. Kodwa oku kungathethwa kuphela ngumntu olahlekileyo okanye ongazange amthande. Akukho nto, babizwa ngokuba yingxenye yesiqingatha, oko kukuthi, enye yesibini yonke. Ewe, uthando lomntu kunye nomfazi lubonakala ngezindlela ezahlukeneyo: umfazi, kunoko ekukhanyeni komntu, kwaye indoda iyadumisa. Kodwa intsingiselo iyahlala enye - imfuneko esiphuthumayo yokuba kunye. Ukuqulunqwa kwezi ngxabano, sinokugqiba ukuba uthando phakathi kwendoda nomfazi akuyiyo into ekhethekileyo, kodwa isiseko seemvakalelo ezinamandla ezigqithisanayo ixesha elide.
Ngelishwa, uthando lubuye italente iNkosi ayengayinikiyo wonke umntu, ngaphandle koko iintsapho aziyi kuphula, kwaye bekungekho mtshato. Kodwa enye into iyinyani - kunjalo. Intlanganiso yokuqala ngethuba labantu, babelane kuqala ngolwazi lwangokwenyama, ngokuvumba, kwaye kuza isigaba soqhagamshelwano, kwaye baqala ukuqonda nokuhlaziya iimpawu zobunjani. Ubunzima bezigqibo zezigaba zibini zokuqala zinika uphuhliso okanye luyeke ulwalamano, ngoko uthando aluvuki. Inkolelo yokuba iimvakalelo zinokuthi zenzeke ngokukhawuleza, okokuqala, zikhohlisayo. Unokuthandana njani nomntu ngaphandle kokwazi okoqobo? Kanye nje ngomfanekiso omhle? Ulwalamano olunjalo luya kuba lufutshane, kwaye uthando lwayo luyinyelisa. Kukho okungafaniyo, kodwa kunokuba yinto ekhethekileyo kunomthetho.
Ngoko, uthando phakathi kwendoda nomfazi yi-polyhedron, iindawo zalo zibizwa ngokuba: ukukhanga, ukunxanela, ubuhlobo, ukunakekelwa, ukuqonda, intlonelo, ukukwazi ukuva nokuvakalelwa ngumntu wakho umlingane, ukwethembeka nokunyaniseka. Wonke umntu uya kuba nako ukunyusa ubuso babo kuloluhlu, kodwa nokuba yintoni ebekiwe, into ephambili kukuba kufanelekile. Ephakamileyo inkcubeko yokunxibelelana kunye nococeko phakathi kobudlelwane, oluqinileyo luya kuba ngumanyano womntu nomfazi, kwaye uthando olude luya kuhlala. Ewe, impendulo yombuzo othi: "Uthando luni phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini?" Yaphenduka ibe yinto engaqondakaliyo kwaye ingacacile, kodwa umntu unokuphendula: kutheni uthanda umntu?