Imibuzo inzima kakhulu, kukho iingcamango ezininzi apha, njengoko ngamnye umntu unamava olwalamano lwabo, ibini ngalinye liqala ulwalamano ngendlela yabo. Ngaba kukho nayiphi na imilinganiselo "engathí sina" eqhelekileyo kubo bonke, kunye nendlela yokuzichonga? Cinga ngemimiselo elandelayo.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukubiza ubudlelwane obukhulu phakathi kwe-millioneire osekhulile kunye nentombazana? Okanye ubuhlobo phakathi kwentsha? Uninzi lwethu luyakwazi ukuphendula kakubi. Enyanisweni, kwimeko yokuqala, ukubala kunye ne-mercantilism iyabetha, kwaye okwesibini-umnqweno wokubukeka ubekhulile emehlweni oontanga, ukufumana izinto ezintsha. Yintoni ekhoyo kwimibandela yobudlelwane obunjalo ukuze kuthiwa yiyingozi? Kungakhathaliseki ukuba i-banal ityandile, kodwa, ngokuqinisekileyo, akukho luthando olwaneleyo kwimizwi ebanzi yegama. Emva kwakho konke, uthando luyinkimbinkimbi: yintando, ukuvisisana kunye nezicwangciso eziqhelekileyo zekamva. Kubalulekile ukulungelelana, intlonipho, umnqweno wokuba kunye kunye nokunika uthando omnye iminyaka emininzi.
Ulwalamano olunzulu luhlala luqala ngothando - kunye kunye nokungabi nabugovu. Kuzo akukho ndawo yokubala, ukusebenzisana kunye nokuzingca. Yintoni ezayo eyenzayo-umhla wokuthandana nomtshato okanye umtshato womtshato - awubalulekanga. Impumelelo yemanyano ixhomekeke ngokunyanisekileyo kwiimvakalelo, inhlonipho ngokwakho kunye nomlingani wakho, umnqweno wokupha nokunika umntu obathandayo ngaphezu kokufumana ngokubuyisela.
Ubudlelwane buya kuphumelela xa eso sibini siya kubo bonke uxanduva, bobabili bavuthiwe kungekhona kuphela ngokweminyaka yobudala, kodwa banesicwangciso esicacileyo sexesha elizayo, inkqubo yexabiso lenene. Iingcali ezininzi zeengqondo ngoku zibhale ukuba indlela yeso sibini yindlela efanelekileyo kunye nechanekileyo yokuzibonela, ukubonakalisa intsingiselo yomntu nokuphucula ngokomoya. Emva koko, ubudlelwane beentliziyo ezimbini zothando luyinto ebalulekileyo yothando, inwaba, ukuziqonda, mhlawumbi nokudala kwintsapho, umama kunye nosapho.
Kwimimandla yanamhlanje, ngenxa yezizathu ezithile, ayivunyelwanga ukufundisa ubugcisa bokuhlala kunye kunye nobudlelwane obubi. Nangona kunjalo le nto inokuvakalayo, ininzi la bafazi baya kulwalamano olunzulu, kuba umntu ungumkhuseli kunye nomthombo wembuyekezo. Ngoko ke, kumadoda, ibhinqa isini ekhululekile, ukutya okunomsoco, induduzo, iimpahla ezicocekileyo ... Akumangalisi ukuba ezininzi ikhefu kunye nomtshato uya kwenzeka emva kweminyaka engama-2-3 emva kokuqala kobudlelwane. Umnqweno weli xesha uphela kwaye uqala nje ukusetyenziswa. Abazange bacinge, bebengayazi njani, bebengayazi ukuba ubudlelwane nabo kufuneka bafunde kwaye baholele ekutshatweni komtshato ngendlela ethile. Kule meko, ulwalamano oluqinileyo kufuneka luqale ngomsebenzi ngokwakho, kwaye kungekhona ngokuzama ukutshintsha iqabane. Tshintsha wena akulula, kodwa awukwazi ukutshintsha enye. Ukuba umntu akanakukuqonda oku, uya kuhlala ebunzini lakhe ngeengxaki ezinjalo. Ubomi buhlelekile ngokufanelekileyo kwaye ngokuvisisanayo, kwaye ukuba ingxaki ingasombulululwa, iphinda iphindwe kwakhona, ixesha ngalinye liqinisa. Ngoko ke, ukuba ulandelwa ukungaphumeleli ebomini bakho okanye uwedwa - lixesha lokuhlala phantsi ucinge: ndiyintoni na into engalunganga? Kukho ubuninzi beencwadi, ukuqeqesha kunye neeminina ezinokukunceda utshintshe ubomi, ubuyisele ubuhlobo.
Akusoloko kunokwenzeka ukubiza ulwalamano olunzulu nolunaphakade. Emva koko, abaninzi bahlala kunye nomkhwa, ngenxa yabantwana okanye izindlu. Ubudlelwane kufuneka bulinganiswe kungekhona nenani leminyaka behlala ndawonye, kodwa ngomgangatho okanye kwisiphumo. Ngoko ke, ukuze ungazisoli kamva, zibeke phambi kwakho iinjongo ezithile kunye neenjongo ukususela ekuqaleni: "Kutheni ndifanele ndibe nolwalamano?", "Ndifuna ntoni kubo?", "Baya kuninika ntoni kunye nentanda yam?" Ukuba iimpendulo zemibuzo enjalo ziyanzima kuwe, kwaye kungekhona kuphela okuthandayo "I" ziya kubonakala kuzo, ngoko ke, mhlawumbi, uhamba ngendlela efanelekileyo.