Ndidibana nabafana ababini, kuya kuthini na?

Yonke into intombazana iyayithanda, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha iyamkhathaza umntu. Akunanto ngaphandle kwexesha elidlulileyo abameli besifazane abaqhathaniswa neekati. Ewe, sithanda yonke into enhle, ecacileyo, into esifanele sibe nesithakazelo ngayo, njengoko nje sijikila umsila, sitsalane thina, kwaye oku akusiyo iphutha - sisona sitsho.

Yintoni esenzayo xa kukho ingqalelo ngokwaneleyo okanye ubuninzi? Njengawo wonke umntu ohlakaniphile-siyisebenzisa. Emva koko, kuyimfuneko ukuzuza kwiimeko nganye. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, kwizondlo zeziganeko, sikhohlwa malunga neengxaki ezinokwenzeka. Ndidibana nabafana ababini, oku kuya kubakho na?

Inkalipho nomngcipheko wokutya akupheli ngokwabo, kodwa enye yeendlela zokuphumelela. Ukudibana nabafana ababini ngenye yeengozi zengqondo, okubonakalayo njengolu vavanyo esikolweni, eyunivesithi, ukwazi abazali bomntu othandekayo, udliwano-ndlebe ngomsebenzi. Makhe sijonge ekuqaleni, kutheni imeko ivela - "Ndidibana nabafana ababini," kuya kuthini na oku ku futshane kakhulu?

Okokuqala, masichaze: ngaba ufuna abantu abaninzi ukuba bazuze okanye bahambi nje ngeemeko? Mhlawumbi uthanda iinjongo, abanalo nantoni na, kodwa amava okuphila - angaphezulu. Ukuba kunjalo, ngoko ungobuchule. Abaqhubi bahamba ngamantombazana abaziphatha njengamantombazana amancinci athatha uxanduva kwizenzo zabo, kodwa anqwenela ukuzibona. Ngalesi sizathu, udibana nabafana ababini ngenxa yokuzithemba, ukuvakalelwa okanye ukuhleka, oku kuqinisekanga akuyi kubakho nantoni na. Ngexesha elithile, kuya kuba ne-peak - kwaye kuya kuvulwa amakhadi akho. Kukho iingxaki kubathandekayo bakho, owamthabathele yona, iintaba zokulahleka kunye nencazelo ayiyona inkqubo enhle kakhulu. Ewe, ufunani, xa udibana nabafana ababini, yiyiphi eyakhokelela kwimeko ephosakeleyo? Ngenxa yokubona okanye amava, uyaqonda ukuba abahambahambayo ngabantu abonwabileyo okanye abanelisekanga, kodwa abafanele bafumane. Ngoko ke, kungenxa yenu, ngumdlalo nje wokuzonwabisa, okanye umdlalo wobomi.

Kodwa ukuba awuyena umcebisi, kodwa uhamba ngeemeko? Yintoni eya kuba ngumphumo wokudibana nabafana ababini? Makhe siqwalasele olu khetho. Uyakuthanda ingqalelo, nangona intombazana ayithandi ukunakwa. Usuvele uthandana nomfana kwaye yonke into ibonakala ilungile. Kodwa ke kubonakala esinye isibindi esinamandla, ngubani ozama nje ukukhawulela inqaba yentliziyo yakho. Ukholiswa ngabantu, ngenxa yokuba unomdla, nangona sele sele ulwalamano - kuyajabulisa yonke intombazana, kuba usenako ukuba ngumfazi kwaye ukhangele. Kwizondlo kunye novuyo lweziganeko, awuqapheli indlela yokubeka ingozi. Kwaye oko akuthethi ukuba unobungozi kwaye unqabileyo ukugqiba ekubeni ukhethe imeko efanelekileyo ukuba usebenzise amabhinqa amabini. Awukwazi ukukhetha ukuba ubani oya kushiya, kwaye ngubani okumele abe nalo kwaye akakuniki ukuphumla. Kukho nawuphi na, le ngxaki iza kusombululwa kwangaphambili, kunokuba iyakuba yimihla kakhulu - kwaye uya kuhlala kwindawo ephukileyo. Yiba nobulumko kwaye ungenzi iimeko ezimbi, kuba oko kwakungayi kuba yindawo, ukuhlangabezana nabafana ababini akuyi kubakho nantoni na.

Esinye isizathu sokuba imeko "Ndidibana nabafana ababini" yempembelelo yenkampani. Ucela ukuba njani? Ndiza kucacisa ngoku. Mhlawumbi unomdla kangangokuba unamahlobo amaninzi, ngokulandelanayo, iinkampani ezininzi. Kuzo zonke iinkampani kukho ubuncinci omnye umfana oza kutsalela ingqalelo yakho, kulungile ukuba umntu engashiyi ibheyili. Ngoko, ekubeni kwinkampani enye, kukho iinqabane zamantombazana eziza kuthi: "Kutheni ungayiboni uSasha, Kolya, okanye omnye umntu?". Uza kucinga, kwaye kutheni, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ngeli thuba awucingi malunga noko kuya kuholela. Kwimeko efanayo nakwezinye uluntu. Iikhampasi ezineemfuno ezahlukileyo, ngokulandelanayo, kunye nabantu bahluke ngokupheleleyo, bathathwa izinto ezahlukeneyo, banezinye iindawo ezibalulekileyo. Uyakuthanda, ngaphezu koko kufanelwe nawe. Ngobusuku noSasha ukusuka kwinkampani yokuqala othetha ngezimoto, uzenza ngokwakho njengengqiqo yeteknoloji yomatshini. Kwaye kutheni, kungekhona bonke ubomi bakho malunga namadonki aqala ukuthetha. Ngomso noAndreya besuka kwelinye inkampani, bexoxa ngeendlela zakutshanje kwiithala zehlabathi, uqhuba ingxoxo enjalo. Kwaye njengabo bantu babini bahluke kwaye kubonakala ngathi bobabini bobuhle. Kodwa apha kuza umzuzwana: udibana nabafana ababini, ingcamango ibonakala: yintoni eya kubakhokelela? Okungenanto, ukuba bangazazi, abahlali abaqhelekileyo kwaye bahlala kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zesixeko. Oku kunokuthiwa njenge-jackpot kwaye uphumelele. Yaye ukuba bafunda kwi-faculty efanayo, okanye ubuncinane isikolo? Ngoko ke kufuneka uqikelele malunga noko: wenzeni, kuba awufuni iingxaki kumntu. Kukho iindlela ezimbini zokusombulula imeko. Okokuqala kukuqhubeka nomoya ofanayo, ukunandipha amadoda ahlukeneyo, ukwazi ukuba kuya kubakho ukuguquka, kodwa ungakhathazeki ngako. Okwesibini kukugqiba isigqibo: ngubani na osondele kuwe, onokufuna ukuhlala naye, ngenxa yoko, ukususa isithintelo esinye, unokunyamekela ingqalelo kwelinye icala. Ngaloo ndlela, uya kuba novuyo lokuba xa udibana nabafana ababini, akukho nto ekhokelela kuyo nayiphi na into embi.

Enye inketho yokudibana nabafana ababini bazimisele. Ndiya kucacisa, udibana nomntu, kwaye akayi kuhlawula ngokwaneleyo, kuyacaca ukuba ufuna ulonwabo kwabanye. Ufuna ukuzalisa ukungaqwalaselwa, oku kusemvelo, uhlobo lwamantombazana yilo, lugungqiwe ngabantu kunye nokufudumala. Kule meko, iintlanganiso kunye ezimbini zikhokelela ekubuyiselweni komntu ongeyomfuneko oza kunika omnye nomnye kuzo zonke izinto, umntu uya kuhlala kwisikhalazo, kodwa kungekhona. Kodwa kukho enye inketho, njengesiqhelo, uya kuba yinto enzima njengentombazana engenakunqwenelekayo, ukuba ubani akwanele. Okukhethwa nguwe!

Hlalani nikhumbule: kungakhathaliseki ukuba ungubani umfana, ungumntu ofanelekileyo ubuhlobo boluntu naye. I-Karma ibuyisela yonke indawo kwindawo yayo, kwaye ukuba awuzange wenze kakuhle, wasebenzisa amabini amabini, emva koko unokuba ngowesibini kwiindawo zazo. Ubudlelwane kunye nabafana ababini baya kuhlala bekhokelela kwinto ethile, kwaye vumela iziphumo zale nto zilethe uvuyo kuphela.