Umzuzu uye wafika, kwaye waqaphela ukuba, indoda enhle kakhulu enokukuvuyisa, awunakufumana. Uyakuqonda ngokupheleleyo. Uhlala apho xa ufuna ukukhala ngenxa yokuba isimo sengqondo esibi kunye "nehlabathi lonke lahleka". Unomusa, ungcono, unengqondo kakhulu, unononophelo. Umbuzo entloko yam kukuba: kutheni ndingazange ndimbone umntu wam amaphupha am phambi kwakhe?
Ingaba yinyani kunye nendlela yokuguqulela ubuhlobo kubusane kumthanda ?
Ukuze uzuze ukulungelelanisa, kufuneka ubonise kwaye uqinisekise ukuba uyabathanda yaye unomvakalelo onomngane wakho-indoda.
Okokuqala, makhe siqale ngento yokuba unamathuba amaninzi ngaphezu kwamanye amabhinqa: Uyazi zonke iingxaki kunye neqhinga lomntu onomdla kuyo. Uyazi into ayithandayo, ukuthanda kwakhe. Ngoko ke, ukuba usebenzisa zonke iinkcukacha ezifumanekileyo ngokuchanekileyo kwaye udibanise yonke into enomtsalane wakho, uze ubenze ubuhlobo ibe yintando, akuyi kuba nzima kuwe.
Injongo yakho: uthando lwakhe. Izenzo zakho: zama ukufumana umdla kwaye ucele
imibuzo malunga nobomi bakhe besikhathi esidlulileyo, ngokuchanekileyo malunga nobuhlobo bakhe obudlulileyo. Kungenzeka ukuba loo mibuzo iya kubangela umona nomsindo emphefumlweni wakho. Kodwa, gcina imvakalelo enkundleni, le migaqo iyimfuneko ukuba ufuna ukufezekisa inyaniso: "Indlela yokuguqulela ubuhlobo kubusane kumthanda?" Nangona kunjalo, ukuba kukho imvakalelo ephazamisayo, khumbula ukuba loo mantombazana ayedlulile, kunye naye ngasekudleni ngoku - wena.
Ukuba unesiqinisekiso sokuthi umntu omncinci ulungele ukudala ubudlelwane obunzulu (kungekhona kunye nawe), ngoko unokubuza imibuzo ngokuphepha.
Yintoni ekumele ikuthande kwindawo yokuqala? Yintoni eyamkhangela kwintombazana yangaphambili, into ayithandayo kuye, yintoni awayenzayo ngenxa yothando lwakhe. Yaye, ungesabi, ukhumbule ixesha elimnandi, uya kuqala ukwenza le mfa nekiso kunye nemizwelo emnandi kuwe. Nguwe kuphela ohlukile, ungumfazi omhle, kodwa umnike ulwandle lweemvakalelo ezintsha nokungazi. Kwaye kwiimpendulo ezifunyenweyo uya kuqonda indlela yokuthabatha isitshixo entliziyweni yakhe.
Usoloko umqonda njengomntu osondeleyo, kodwa, ngokufika kwothando entliziyweni yakho, ngokwemvelo, umfazi uya kuvuka kuwe. Ufuna ukumbona ngokuphindaphindiweyo, xa udibana nawe uya kudlala. Konke oku kulungile, kodwa nantsi into ephambili akuyikuyidlula, kuba ukuziphatha okunjalo kungamtshitshisa kwaye kumsunduze. Kodwa unomdla kwenye.
Ukutshintshana ubudlelwane obuvela kubuhlobo kunye nothando kunokwenzeka, akunzima. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba uqale le mishini, phendula umbuzo othi: "Uya kufeza nini le ndoda - ukuziva kwakho ngokuthandana akuyi kubakhoka njengemfudu?". Emva koko, ukubuyisela ubuhlobo obulahlekileyo kunzima kunokuba kufumaneke uthando kunye nokulungelelana.
Ukuba, xa uphendula lo mbuzo, uyaqiniseka ukuba isigqibo senziwe ngokuchanekileyo kwaye awusoze wazisola ngokuba unamathele isigqibo sakho nomhlobo, kuya kuba nexesha elihle kumanyano akho.
Ngokwemvelo, uthando lubonakaliswa kubukho bekhanuko, ukuthanda omnye nomnye. Kodwa, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, eli xesha lobudenge liya kudlula. Yaye uya kuthini na? Emva koko ubuhlobo bakho bokugqibela luyakuchaphazela. Khumbula ukuba kutheni ungamjonga njengomhlobo? Ngenxa yokuba, uvakalelwe kakhulu ngokomzwelo. Usoloko ufumanisa iindikimba eziqhelekileyo kunye nemisebenzi. Kukho ukuthembela kulwalamano lwakho. Uhlala unomdla wokuchitha ixesha lakho lokukhulula kunye. Ngaphezulu kweyodwa, umhlobo wakho, osele uyithandayo, wafika ekuhlanguleni xa kwakufuneka.
Zonke ezi ngasentla akuyiyo isiqinisekiso sobudlelwane obude, obuhlala kunye nolonwabileyo?