Indlela yokuhlala ifunwa ngumntu

Sifuna abafazi banqulwe, bathande ngathi. Asiyisebenzisi nayiphi na umzamo, sikhohlwe malunga nomfanekiso, ukwakheka, iintlobo zezinwele, ukulahlekelwa yintsimi, ungaziphathe njengowomfazi wokwenene, uguquke ube yizilwanyana eziduna kunye nezigalu. Kwaye siyabagweba bonke abantu. Kodwa ukuba uyaqonda, aba bantu abanetyala nantoni na, bafuna ukubona umfazi othakazelisayo, omhle kwaye onqwenelekayo ecaleni kwakhe, abanikezela ngokuziphakamisa kwiintsapho kunye nabahlobo bakhe, abangenamahloni ukuhlala kwindawo yokutyela, baphuma baye kwisixeko. Siza kukunika iingcebiso malunga nendlela onokumthanda ngayo umntu kwaye ube nguye lowo afunayo kangangokuba ixesha elide aliphumelelanga. Indlela yokuhlala ifunwa ngumntu, sifunda kule ncwadi. 1. Ibhinqa kuzo zonke iimeko kufuneka zihlale, ngaphezu kwakho konke, ibhinqa. Kodwa ngale nto, ngelanga abaninzi bethu bayalibala. Iyona nto iphambili yintsikelelo, yinto ebonakalayo xa sithathiweyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo ekutshiseni komsindo sithetha amazwi amaninzi, size sizisole xa umsindo ususa. Senza izinto ezinjalo, apho sihlala sineentloni. Kwimeko nayiphi na imeko, kufuneka ukwazi ukuzikhusela. Ukuba ufunde oko, ngoko imvelaphi yabangani bakho iya kuvela.

2. Yiba yincwadi engafundwanga kuye, isiqwenga afuna ukuyixazulula. Ukuba wakho umthandayo akaziveleli ngeentsuku ezimbalwa, ungamthumeli ii-sms ezilila. Akufanele ube ngumntu wakho 100%. Xa umntu eqonda ukuba ibhinqa lakhe liphelele kuye, ngoko yonke into yokuthandana yanyamalala, ngenxa yokuba uyayibona nayiphi na ixesha, mhlawumbi esikhundleni semini yakho, unokukwazi ukuhlangabezana nabahlobo, ukulibale, nokuyikhansela. Kwaye konke kwenzeka ngenxa yokuba uyazi into efanelekileyo, fowuna, ubuze ukuxolelwa, njengoko ugijimela kuye kwaye umxolele.

3. Ungesabi ukulahlekelwa ngumntu, ukuba uyayiqonda le nto, ngokukhawuleza uza kukudlala njengopopi. Mbonise ukuba wena, ngaphandle kwakhe, unokhetho oluninzi, ungayisebenzisa njani ngokuhlwa. Kwaye ke iziphumo aziyi kukulinda.

4. Zihloniphe, ungahlaziswa. Ukuba kukho ukhetho phakathi kokugcina ubudlelwane kunye nesithunzi, khetha isidima. Awudingi indoda engakuhloneliyo. Kungekudala uza kufumana umntu oya kufanelekela.

5. Ungathobeli, awufumaneki. Musa ukuhlala kunye nolwalamano olusondeleyo, ngomhla, nangona ekubukweni kwayo amadolo akho aphephe kwaye intliziyo iqala ukubetha. Ngaphantsi kokuba ubonisa umdla kuye, ngokukhawuleza uza kuba nobundlobongela.

6. Bonisa ngokukhawuleza kumntu ongeke uvumele ukuba usule iinyawo zakho ngawe, ukuba uyaphupha lamadoda amaninzi, kwaye akusikho i-footcloth. Kwaye ukuba umntu engayiqondi le nto, makhe mvumele, kwaye ngokukhawuleza uya kuqonda oko akulahlekileyo.

7. Ungabi ngumama kumntu. Awudingi ukumncedisa. Akuyi kubakho nantoni na. Indoda idinga ukuziva ngathi yindoda, kwaye wena, mhlawumbi, udinga umntu onobukrakra, kwaye ungabi yindwangu yecala. Makhe enze isigqibo sakhe, nokuba kamva, uya guquka kuyo. Kodwa ukuba awukwazi ukukhumbula, khumbula ilizwi: "intloko yendoda yintamo yomfazi". Qalisa indoda yakho ukuba iqondise, kodwa yenza oko ukuba akayikuqiqa ngayo.

8. Ukususela kumhlangano wokuqala, musa ukuthetha naye malunga nobudlelwane obukhulu, oku kuya kuthusa indoda kuphela. Yenza kube ngathi ungafuni naluphi na ulwalamano, nokuba iikati ziqala ukukhangela ngala mazwi.

9. Ukuzithemba okukhulu. Ungaziqhathanisi namalingane akhe, kuluhlaza nje. Emva koko, ukuba ubashiye kuwe, ngoko ulunge ngakumbi kunabo, cinga ngako.

10. Ufanele ujonge ubumnene kunye nesifazana, njenge-rose evela "kwinkosana encinci", ngoko isikhulu sakho siya kufuna ukukukhusela nokukhusela, njengentyatyambo ebuthathaka. Kwaye oku kuyimfuneko.

11. Ungalibali ukuthokoza indoda yakho, bayayithanda. Yaye ke, akayi kumela xa uqala ukuthetha endlebeni yakhe, indlela enobumnene, emangalisayo, onomusa kunye onamandla.

12. Kufuneka ujonge 100%. Kufuneka uhlale unesilungiso esilungileyo, umfanekiso ogqityiweyo, umququzeleli womzimba. Kwaye akukho ncinane inokuma phambi kwakho.

Musa ukulibala indlela yokufunwa ngendoda ngaso sonke isikhathi. Zithande kwaye uya kuthandwa. Ukuba ibhinqa liziphatha ngesithunzi, abantu baya kumphatha. Ngandlela-thile uzibambelele: ziphathwe kwikomityi yehayi elimnandi kwi-fast dinner set, uthathe ibhotile ecocekileyo, uhlambele egumbini ngefowuni oyithandayo. Nangona kunjalo, wena ngokwakho uyazi indlela yokuzikhupha, khumbula nje into ohlala uyifuna, kodwa wena ngokwakho awuvunyelwe ukwenza oku.