Yeha ku-Wit
Abanye bathi uthando luyindlela yokwenza imichiza emzimbeni nasengqondweni. Kwaye konke okungaqhelekanga, kuthethwa ngevesi, zonke iibhotela ezinjengezisu, ukubetha kwentliziyo, iinkwenkwezi emehlweni akhe, ihlabathi elibethayo kunye neenkwenkwezi kumdaniso ... konke oku kukukhemikhali kunye namahomoni. Ububele obunomntu wonke buyi-hormone, njengokuthembeka, ulonwabo, uvuyo, uthando. Uthando luyi-hormone, iimpendulo zamakhemikhali kunye nezinto ezenza sibe nolonwabo novuyo. Siyavuya, sisesulwini se sixhenxe, kwaye zonke ezo hormone zizinto ezidakisayo. Nje uthando. Ngaba kukufanele ukuba ube njengezilwanyana kunye neethubhu zokuvavanya? Ukusinda konke oku? Mngcipheko? Ubheka ngendlela engacacanga ...
Kuyavela ukuba imibongo emihle yeebongozi, iincwadi ezintsha kunye nefilimu zothando - zonke ezi ziyimpikethi yempiksi eyenza abantu bahlasele. Ngaba ixabiso? Emva koko, yonke into esicinga ukuba ngummangaliso kunye nesipho esihle kakhulu incitshiswa kuphela ekuphenduleni kwamakhemikhali kunye nokulingana, kwaye sifana neefesti zeenkwenkwezi ezinqwenela ukwanelisa umnqweno kwaye zifumane umthamo.
Kukho enye imbono yokujonga. Ingundoqo yinto yokuba uthando luyintlawulo yendalo yokuvelisa. Kwaye konke esikujongayo kuyisicwangciso sobuqili sendalo, umgibe osichukumisayo ukuze sivele ... sivelise lwethu uhlobo lomusa. Emva kwayo yonke into, ngaphandle kokukhangeka, ukuthanda "amehlo amahle angayi kuvumela ukuba silale ubusuku", abantu baya kufa. Yiyo yonke into ebalulekileyo yamanonti, iingoma phantsi kwenyanga, iintyatyambo kunye nezipho, ukutshatyalaliswa kobugqwetha, ezininzi iinkcubeko zabantu kunye neentetho zethu zonke. Konke oku kuyenza inzala kwaye ikhule. Umntu ulingana nesilwanyana, ngokucinga kunye nemvelo, iminqweno, eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekukhenkeleni ngokwesondo.
Kwaye abo abangenabungane kakhulu nekhemistri kunye ne-biology, banokuqiniseka ukuba uthando luhamba ngokusesikweni. Ukuthengiswa okwenene. Emva kwakho konke, uthando namhlanje luyinto eqhelekileyo, into eyenza izinto zibe zifuna. Iincwadi ezithandwa kakhulu, iifilimu kunye neengoma ziphathelele uthando. Zininzi izipho zinikezelwa "ngothando". Amantombazana afuna ukuba yinto enhle, athenge i-makeup ukuze ayithande. Yintoni esinokuyithetha malunga neziqhumiso, xa abantu befuna ukuvumba njengeentyatyambo, ukukhanga, ukuthwala ulwazi malunga neqabane elifanelekileyo.
Umxholo wothando namhlanje ufana nokuthengisa okukhulu. Wena, njengomntu, ubonisa impawu yeempawu kunye neempawu ezingenakunceda okanye ezingenakunceda "kwimarike yothando". Ukuba unobungqingili, untle, unemilenze emide kunye neenwele ezintle - kulula kakhulu ukuba ufumane "iqabane kunye nomthengi" kunento ephantsi, epheleleyo ... Oko kuthathwa njengento enqwenelekayo kuthathwa njengento efiselekayo, ngoko, unethemba lokuba iqabane, eziya kuba zifuna iimpawu "zothando." Nanku, uthando ngokwalo luqala ukufana nesenzo sokuthengiswa kunye nokuthengiselana okunenzuzo, ezinye iimpawu ngokutshintshana kwabanye, uhlobo olulodwa lwempahla kunye nolunye ngokuhambelana neemfuno zeemarike.
Ukwesaba, ukukhohlisa, ukulindela
Emva kokuba ufunde konke oku, mhlawumbi, yibambelele kula magama intsingiselo kunye nesabelo senyaniso - ngokunyanisekileyo nokubi. Kwaye ngoku khumbula abahlobo bakho, phakathi kwabo ngokuqinisekileyo kukho ubuncinci omnye. Kwaye, yena, skoreevsego, uya kuvumelana nenye yale mibono, uthando ngaye ngokuqinisekileyo luyonyaniso, inkohliso, into ephosakeleyo kwaye engafanelekanga ingqalelo. Kwaye khumbula ngoku. Okanye watshata. Okanye umntu othandana nothando lomntu. Baya kuhleka ngamazwi anjalo baze bathi yonke le nto yinqanaba elithi "i-romantics ekhohlisayo." Emva koko, baninzi babo abazange bawubambe le ngcamango ngaphambili. Oko sikulahlekile kusenza sibe sengozini. Ngoko, lowo wayeseluthandayo kwaye wayenqatshelwe, ubiza intando yothando, ukukhohlisa. Bathi "umtshutshisi uyisithandwa sokuthandana". Kwaye kunjalo ngokwenene.
Abantu abonwabileyo akudingeki bacinge ngothando, njengokwenza i-dodarmarketing, malunga nokuphendula kwamakhemikhali. Benza njengoko babona kufanelekile ukuba banandiphe imizwa yabo. Abantu abathandayo, bakwenza i-radebya kwaye abakhathaleli ngombono wabanye. Akudingeki ukuba bacinge ngako. Kwaye i-tromobole yaphikisa ukuba uthando luyinto engafaniyo. Emva koko, oko bakuvakalelwa kukuba kuyinyaniso. Kwaye kulungile.
Kutheni na ke kukho iimbono ezithandwa yintando? Oku kubangelwa ithemba elidaniweyo, ukudumala kunye nabangayifumananga uthando lwabo kunye nalabo abanoyikiyo yokuba abayi kuphinda bawufumanise, owalilahleka kanye, owathi watshiswa kwaye wadana, kunye nabo babone intlungu kunye nokulahlekelwa abanye.
Kutheni oku kwenzekayo?
Kubantu kukho ilizwi elithi "uthando luyimfama." Ngamanye amaxesha sibona indoda-eyintle, eyomeleleyo, eyimpumelelo ecaleni kwintombazana embi, eyingozi, siyayikhumbula le nto. Ngokuqhelekileyo sibona "akufaneleki" kwimbono yethu ngamabini kwaye asiyiqondi: yintoni abantu abahlukeneyo abangahlangana ngayo? Intombazana enobungozi enjengomfana onokuqhutywa kuyo yonke into yesibili? Ingaba abantu beentlobo ezahlukeneyo, iintlobo, kunye nokuba zikhona ngokubanzi, bathande kude? Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka, ukuba umtshato usenzeka okanye abantu abavumelaniyo, basola omnye weqabane. Oku kubi. Ubudlelwane buyasebenza kubantu ababini, isenzo sokusebenzisana nentlalo, apho iqabane ngalinye libandakanya indima ebalulekileyo, ithatha inxaxheba ekwakheni ubudlelwane, ukufumana ukuqonda ngokufanayo, njl njl.
Ibhinqa lihlala lakha ubudlelwane nomntu malunga neli nqanaba elinye. Umlingane ngandlela-thile ubonakalisa thina, ngoko ukuba simmangalela kwaye simnyundela, ngoko kulungile njengokuba kunjalo. Uthando luyavumelana, luyi-symbiosis ecinga kakuhle, apho iqabane ngalinye lihlangabezana nezicelo ezithile zenye. Oko sifuna, siyafumaneka. Akukho "uthando oluyimfama", amaqabane angafanelekanga. Kungokuthi ngamanye amaxesha asiyiqondi ukubaluleka kwabanye abantu, ukuthanda kwabo, apha senza izigqibo eziphambi kwexesha. Umntu ngamnye uyazikhethela oko akufunayo. Ukuba siyayigweba le nto okanye siyifonele ingcamango, ke thina ngokwethu siyiphutha. Ukuba asiyiqondi into okanye ayivumelani nemigaqo kunye nokuthandayo, oku akuthethi ukuba le nto ayibi, ayikhoyo okanye ayikho. Uthando luyinto yedwa wonke umntu kwaye owaziyo ukuthanda rhoqo uyazi ixabiso elifanelekileyo kulo.