Thina, bafazi, siyavuya xa umntu othandekayo ngumntu ophumelelayo. Umsebenzi othakazelisayo, umvuzo obalaseleyo, intlonipho kwabanye, ukufumaneka kwezihlobo ezithembisayo - konke oku kubonakala kuwe ukuba kukho into ebonakalayo xa ifika kumntu ophumelelayo. Umfanekiso wendoda enxulumene neendleko ezibiza, iimoto, indlu yelizwe kunye ... nomfazi omhle onjalo. Kodwa kungekhona kwabanye abafazi, ngakumbi ukuba le ndoda yakho. Kodwa ekugqibeleni kwavela intombazana enhle. Ukususela ekuseni kuze kube sebusuku lo mntu uhle kakhulu usondelene nomyeni wakho: uyilungiselela ikhofi, wenza iziganeko, ufumana iindwendwe eziza kuye kwaye zimbiza ngefowuni kaninzi ngosuku. "Ubunzima!" - uya kucinga kwaye uyothuka - "Mfundisi!". Kodwa musa ukwesaba kanye kanye. Nguye nje unobhala.
Kwaye kutheni kubalulekile? - ucela. Uthini unobhala? Umsebenzi we-Secretar ufuna ukuba uguqulwe ngokukhawuleza ukusuka kolunye uhlobo lomsebenzi ukuya kwelinye kwaye lubonakaliswe ngobubanzi kunye nobuninzi bemisebenzi eyenziwe. Umsebenzi obaluleke kakhulu unobhala kukunceda inkokeli kwaye igcine ixesha lakhe. Unobhala usebenza namaxwebhu kunye nezixhobo zeofisi, uqhuba iingxoxo zefoni, uthumele iposi, ufumana iindwendwe, ulungiselela kwaye aqhuba iintlanganiso. Unobhala uphinde uxanduva lwezinto ezininzi zezoqoqosho. Njengoko ubona, unobhala unento yokwenza emsebenzini, ngoko akakho ucinge ngendlela 'engqonge' umphathi wakhe.
Wena ke, uyaqonda ukuba unobhala unomsebenzi obunzima kwaye uyimfuneko, uyaqonda ukuba lo msebenzi kufuneka abe ngumphathi kwaye abe nembonakalo enhle. Uyakuqonda kwakhona ukuba intloko kufuneka ibe nobhala kwaye uyazi ukuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, esi sikhundla siza kuthathwa ngumfazi, kwaye ukhetho luyakunikwa kwintombi ekhangayo neyobuhle. Kodwa awufuni ukuba unobhala onjalo abe nomyeni wakho. Ukuqaphela ukuba intanda yakho ithatha ixesha elingakumbi kwinkampani yakhe kunani (ubona kuphela emva komsebenzi, kwaye yonke imini), uba nomona.
Inyathelo lokuqala: mbambisana naye
Awuyithandi xa umyeni ehlala eofisini, kwaye unobhala wakhe umbiza kwiseli emva komsebenzi, kucacisa ixesha leentlanganiso zezoshishino. Uyakhathazeka kakhulu ngamazwi omhlobo oqhelekileyo owafika kumyeni wakho ukuba asebenze. Uthi unobhala onobuhle, intombazana enengqondo, "watsho, uyindwendwe yakho, kwaye waqala ukuphazamiseka. Uzicingela intombazana encinane engumngelosi, entle ingubo emfutshane kunye ne-decollete enzulu ... ngokukhawuleza uya kujikeleza umyeni wakho? Ubunokwenzeka ukuba umyeni wakho uya kudlala ngunobhala wakhe unobungakanani, ukuba ukuthanda kwakhe nabanye abesifazana kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Kodwa ukuba indoda oyithandayo ayikwazi ukunyamezela izibilini, akunakwenzeka ukuba udlala ngothando nabantu abasebenzisana nabo, nokuba ngaba bayathandeka.
Kwaye kufuneka uqhelane nabazalwana bakho kunye nabangaphantsi kokukwazi ukuba ngubani na ochitha ixesha lakhe ecaleni. Ukuboniswa kwangaphambili-kuthetha ukuxhoba. Ukwazi ukuba ngubani oqhuba umyeni wakho, kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, ngubani olawulayo, kuya kuba lula ukuqikelela imeko kwaye uhlalutye iingxaki. Xelela umyeni ukuba uza kusihlwa kunye naye kwaye uhlale ixesha elide eofisini lakhe. Zenzele i-hairstyle enhle kunye ne-makeup, ugqoke ngokugqithiseleyo, ingakumbi ukuba ngulo oqala ukumazi kunye noogxa bomyeni wakhe. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, xa uqhelana nobhala wakhe, unokwenza izigqibo ezingaphezulu. Kuhle ukuba ufika kumyeni wakho kwiqela leqela. Njengomthetho, basela emacaleni. Kwaye kunye nabalingani abadakiwe emsebenzini, unokufumana ulwazi oluninzi. Kodwa qaphela izinto ezifunyenweyo - abanye abafazi, ngenxa yomona wokukhanga kwakho, umzekelo, unokuthetha ngokuthe ngqo malunga nomthandi wakho. Qaphela kwaye uthembele intuition yakho.
Inyathelo lesibini: khusela
Enyanisweni, kufuneka uqonde oko umyeni wakho azive. Mbukele ezimbini kwiiveki ezintathu.
Ufanele uhlaselwe ukuba:
- uhlala ekhaya ephuma emsebenzini ekhathele, okanye engqingili, okanye ephuzile;
- uhlala evalelwe emsebenzini, ngaphezu kweeyure ezingama-4;
- akafaneki ukukubiza ngexesha lemini, kwaye ukuba uyabiza, uthetha ngokukhawuleza aze ahluthe;
- Nangona ekhaya, uyaphendula ifowuni ngamagama athi "Ndiyakukubiza kamva" okanye "wenze iphutha kunye nenani" ngaphezu kwephindwe kabini ngeveki;
- ufumene kwincwadi yakhe yamanani amanani amasha ngaphandle kokusayinwa;
- uyakubiza ngelinye igama lebhinqa ephupheni okanye kwingxoxo;
- yaqala ukucaphukisa indlela oziphatha ngayo, iimpawu zakho kunye nezihlobo zakho.
Inyathelo lesithathu: Ukuqonda iimvakalelo zakho
Ngobudlelwane obusondelene phakathi komphathi kunye nobhala, zintathu iindlela ezinokwenzeka. Kwimeko yokuqala, u-flirts, kwaye indoda ayikhathaleli. Le meko inenzuzo kakhulu, kuba ithetha ngokuthembeka kweqabane lakho. Uzakufuna ukufumanisa oko kubangele ukubhala kombhali. Mhlawumbi unendlela enjalo yokufumana ithemba, mhlawumbi sele eseluthandweni. Isisombululo esona siphumo sobunye bentsapho yakho sisusa loo ntombazana. Ukudala iimeko ezingenakubekezeleka kumsebenzi wakhe kwaye amenze ahambe, okanye uthethe ngokunyanisekileyo nomyeni wakhe ngokudluliselwa komqeshwa wakhe kwelinye isebe - kukuthi kuwe. Kodwa gcinani engqondweni ukuba indoda yakho iya kufuna umncedisi omtsha emsebenzini, kwaye ukuba unako, fumana indawo yombhali wakhe onothando.
Utshintsho olunokwenzeka, xa inkokheli ikhula, kwaye unobhala uphazamisekile. Kule meko, ungakhankanyi ukuxothwa komqeshwa. Emva koko, ingxaki ayikho kuyo, kodwa kumntu. Oku kukukhanga kwakhe ukuba adventure, ufuna iimvakalelo ezintsha kunye nokuzithemba. Kule meko, sebenzisa zonke iindlela owaziwayo ukuba uphinde uvuselele uthando lomyeni kuwe kwaye uluthise ngomonde omtsha.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu yintando yomlomo kunye nonobhala, okanye, ngokulula, inkonzo yothando. Ukuba uyakrokra umyeni ukuba ukukopela kuwe kunye nomncedisi wakhe, ungalahlekelwa yintloko yakho. Mhlawumbi akayena owokuqala ukuzonwabisa ngaye, oko kuthetha ukuba ufanele ukuxhalaba elidala. Musa ukugxeka intombazana yonke, i-provocateur ingaba yindoda yakho. Ukuba ubekezelela ukungcatsha kwendoda yakho, kwaye uze uvumele le nto, ke akunakwenzeka ukuba unomdla okwenene ngunobhala wakhe. Kodwa ukuba ungumfazi othembekileyo kwaye uthembekileyo - waqala ukukrokreza iqabane lakho ekukhohliseni, ngoko lixesha lokuthetha. Lungiselela incoko: cinga ngeendlela ezinokuthi uxoxe kwaye uphephe ngentloko yeyona ndlela ingalunganga - ngoko kuya kuba lula kuwe ukuphulaphula umlingane. Ukuqokelela ulwazi oluthe xaxa ukwenzela ukuba izikhalazo zakho zingabi nasisiseko, nangona kunjalo kwiimeko ezininzi, amadoda anika zonke i-ins kunye nokuphuma ekuphenduleni i-bluff ephumelelayo. Ngokuxhomekeke kwiziphumo zengxoxo, zithathe isigqibo - ngaba ulungele ukuqhubeka kunye nale ndoda okanye ngaba sisihlandlo sokuba uqale ubomi obutsha.
Kwaye okubaluleke kakhulu, ungakhathazeki. Ibhinqa elixhatshaziweyo, lididekile kwaye lididekile, aliyi kuhlola imeko leyo. I-hyperbolizes kwaye idlale imeko. Ewe, kunzima ukuba. Kodwa ke ungayikhohlwa malunga nokuzimela kokungabi namacala.
Isinyathelo sesine: Bonisa iimpawu zakho
Awubambanga umyeni wakhe ngobuxoki obucacileyo okanye ngobuqhetseba, kodwa wafumanisa isizathu sokuba uqaphile? Ingaba uqinisekile ukuba ufuna, ngeendlela zonke, ukugcina ulwalamano lwakho? Emva koko kufuneka usebenze kuzo. Ukuqaphela oku okanye cha, umyeni wakho uza kukuthelekisa kunye nalowo ukhangeleyo naye. Kwaye unokuchaphazela ngokupheleleyo uphuhliso lweziganeko. Zama ukunciphisa umnqweno wokubiza umyeni kwisigwebo somlomo kwaye "umbulale" ngomsindo okanye ukukhala. Emva koko, "ukuvusa" kuya kuba ngumhlobo onobubele nomonde. Yaye nomfanekiso wakho uya kubandezeleka. Isisombululo esona sisisiseko kukuba uhlale uphelile kwaye uzinzile, ngelixa ubonisa iintlobo zakho ngaphezu kobizo olubizwa ngokuba ngumncintiswano.
Umzekelo, ukuba uncinci kakhulu kunani, gxi ninisa njalo ukuba unamava-ngesini, emsebenzini, ekukhuliseni abantwana. Ukuba uneminyaka elifanayo, gcizelela ukuba, ngokomzekelo, uhlala kwindawo ephezulu, lawula isebe ngokwakho, kuquka ukunika imiyalelo kubhala wenkonzo yakho. Zama ukuvumela umyeni wakho ukuba aqonde ukuba unento efana nento efana nayo: umzekelo, unabantwana abancinci, unayo ikhaya elihle, abazali bakho bayathanda ukuxoxisana.
Nika ingqalelo kwiimpazamo zobhala wakhe ngokugqamisa ukufaneleka kwakho. Ukuba unomlenze onqabileyo kunye nokuzikhukhumeza, kwaye uyisigxina kunye nokugqithisa, ugqoke ukugxininisa zakho iingenelo. Ukuba uyazi iilwimi eziliqela, cela umyeni wakhe ukuba ancedise kwingxoxo okanye aguqulele ileta. Qaphela ukuba kulula ukunyuka kwaye uthanda ukuhamba xa engengomntu ohambahambayo. Musa ukuthetha ngoku, kodwa yenza. Hlela uhambo oluya elwandle, ukuya ezintabeni, ukuya echibini, okanye nje ipikiniki kunye nabahlobo kwimithi.
Ngendlela, malunga nabahlobo. Fumana inkxaso. Ukuba ngabahlobo bomyeni wakho benqwenela ukuthetha kuphela kunye naye, kodwa kunye nawe, baninzi baqonda ngaphandle kwentshiseko ukuba kungenzeka ukuphuka ngenxa yowesifazane othile. Kwaye oku kuthetha ukuba kuya kuba yinto engathandekiyo ukuba aqalise enye inenekazi kwisangqa sazana naye, kuba akayi kuxhaswa, akayi kukhulula, kwaye mhlawumbi uya kugwetywa. Kwaye kunye nawe-ngokufudumala nangokufudumele yonke inkampani, ukuba awufuni ukutshintsha nantoni na.
"Hlaziya" ubuhlobo bakho. Qala kwakhona ukuya kwimidanso kunye namaqela, buyisela umdlalo omdala. Vumela indoda kwakhona ifune ukunqoba. Unokumenza ube nomona omncinane. Ngaphandle koko, mhlawumbi uye wacinga ukuba unobhala wakhe? Mhlawumbi, wayengekho kuyo yonke imbambano yakho yesikhashana?