Uthando lixesha elimangalisayo, xa zonke iingcinga zijoliswe kumntu omnye. Ndifuna ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye, kwaye ke le nto ayichithwanga, ndifuna ukuhlala nje ngokumkela kwaye ubukele ifilimu yothando, kodwa ujabule.
Ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, abathandwayo abazicingeli ubomi ngaphandle komnye, ngoko bahlala benemixholo yengxoxo, bahlala bhala imiyalezo komnye nomnye, bathethe ngokungapheliyo kwifowuni. Ukungaboni, nokuba nexesha elincinci kubo libhekwa njengentloni. Abanye abafuni ukuyeka ukuhamba komthandi wabo okanye umthandi wabo wesibini, bakhetha ukwenza yonke into kunye. Kodwa ngaba kunjalo ngokwenene?
Abaninzi bethu bachitha ixesha elide lokuthanda imicimbi, kwaye oku kunokubangela iingxaki ezininzi. Abaninzi babingelela izifundo okanye umsebenzi wabo, ukuze babone abathandekayo babo, ukuba bachitha ixesha elingakanani kunye naye. Kodwa le ndawo inobungozi, kuqala. Akukho imfuneko yokuyeka iiklasi okanye ukunqumla iiklasi, ukucela umsebenzi wokuqala okanye ukungabi khona kuzo zonke ngenxa yokuba uthanda kwaye ucinga ngothandwa wakho rhoqo ngomzuzu.
Mhlawumbi indlela efanelekileyo yokwenza ubuhlobo bubunjani, kungekhona ubuninzi. Ukuba isibini esithandweni sichitha lonke usuku kunye, ngolunye usuku olulandelayo kwimemori yabo, iimeko ezimnandi zosuku oludlulileyo ziya kukhunjulwa. Ngokomgaqo, kufuneka kube njalo. Ngoko, ixesha elichithwa kunye ngokukhawuleza, liya kubeka phezu kwakho. Ngako oko, ungazami ubaleke okungenani ngomzuzu ukuba ubone, kuya kubaluleka ukudibana ngexesha lakho lokuzikhethela kwaye uchithe lonke usuku ndawonye, kunokubamba ixesha elifutshane.
Kukho uluvo lokuba xa usichitha ixesha elide kunye kunye, unokulahlekelwa ngumntu ngamnye. Ukuchitha ixesha ngokuqhubekayo kwinkampani yomntu oyedwa, nokuba yindoda enqwenelekayo, kunokukhuthaza ukuhlala kwakho ekukhulumisaneni nabanye abantu. Ngokufanayo, ukunyamekela ukwenza yonke into kunye, awukwazi ukuthwala isohlwayo kwaye wenze izinto ezithile ngokwakho, uya kufuna ukubona umthandi oseduze, ukuze ancede. Ngako oko, uya kuxhomekeka kakhulu kwisiqingatha sakho sesibini. Akunakutsholwa ukuba ulwalamano olunjalo lubi kakhulu kwaye aluzinzile, nje olunye usuku xa umthandayo enqabe ukukunceda into ethile okanye akakwazi ukuhlawula ingqalelo, njengokuba kwakunjalo ngaphambili, uya kuthandabuza uthando lwakhe ngawe.
Ngamazwi, ukuthetha rhoqo rhoqo kunokukulimaza. Yaye yonke loo nto ingasinda njani?
Mhlawumbi, owokuqala, - akuyimfuneko ukulibala malunga nabahlobo kunye neentsapho, ukuba unothando lobuhlobo. Musa ukucima kubo kwaye ufihle kwisithandwa, uphelele ngokupheleleyo kuwo. Ngaphandle koko, abahlobo bakho baya kukhwankqisa kuwe kwaye xa kwenzeka ukuxabana nomthandane wakho, awuyi kubelana ngentlungu yakho nabani na kwaye akukho mntu uya kukwazi ukukuxhasa. Ukuba oko kwenzeka, uya kuzicima ngakumbi kwiqabane lakho, kwaye emva koko, naye uya kuba ngumnye kuphela oya kubona kwaye ngubani ofuna ukuthetha naye.
Into yesibili omele ukwenze kukugqiba isigqibo sokuba ufuna ubuhlobo bokwenene ovukayo njengomntu. Kufuneka uthathe isigqibo malunga nemibuzo yakho endiyithandayo malunga nezinto oza kwenza kunye kunye naziphi na oza kuzihlula.
Musa ukubeka umnqamlezo kwiminqweno yakho, uphando, umsebenzi. Qhubeka ngendlela efanayo ukwenza ibhizinisi lakho kwaye unike inkululeko kumthande wakho. Ukuba uqhotyoshelana ngokukodwa, ke iya kuseka zombini kwikhonkco. Kodwa khumbula, umntu ngamnye kufuneka abe neyakhe ixesha kunye nomthandi wakho, onelungelo lokuziqhuba njenge-swami.
Omnye umba kwi-intsebenziswano eqalisile nendlela yokuchitha ixesha kunye.
Ingaba ungumtshato oqabane okanye uhenyukazi, oqale waqala ukuthandana, ngenye indlela kukho umbuzo wexesha lokubambisana kunye neyona nto ibalulekileyo, ukuyiqhuba ngenzuzo. Kanye nje ngobudlelwane, ekuphumleni okuhlanganyeneyo, into ephambili yinto esemgangathweni, kungekhona ubuninzi. Kukho ixesha elininzi lokulondoloza, kunye nomntu nje ngeeyure ezimbalwa, kodwa oku akufanele kuthintele umgangatho wabanye.
Okokuqala, kufuneka ukhethe ezo ntsuku apho uya kukhululeka kunokwenzeka, ukuchitha ixesha kwiholide kunye kunye nokuzonwabisa kwaye ukhethe oko uza kwenza.
Ngoku abaninzi baninzi abaya kwii-movie. Iholide enjalo iya kunceda kwaye uphumule, kwaye ujabule, ukhangele iqhinga lokubamba le filimu. Ingaba ngumdlalo wokuthandana, umxhwele, kunye nefilimu eyoyikisayo, into eyona nto kukuba imifanekiso ekhethiweyo ifana neminqweno yabathandekayo, ngoko kuya kuba yinto yokuzonwabisa.
Kuya kuba mnandi ubuncinane kanye ngeveki, kuxhomekeke kumathuba emali yomlingane, ukutyelela i-cafe okanye indawo yokutyela. Umoya wesithandane, iwayini okanye i-champagne, ukutya okutyiwayo okulungileyo kukuzisa ubudlelwane bakho kwaye kukuvumela ukuba ukhulule, ukuthetha intliziyo ngentliziyo.
Akukho nto ibaluleke kakhulu ehamba emoyeni omtsha, nokuba iyipaki, isikwere okanye isitalato kwisixeko sasebusuku. Iholide leyo yothando ngendlela yayo. Uhambo olunjalo luyahlukahluka nge-skating skating, ngebhayisikili. Abantu abaninzi banqwenela ukutyelela ipaki kunye nokukhwela kwiindawo ezizonwabisa. Kuyinto enomdla kwaye ayibaleki. Usalindela ukukhumbula ngokuzonwabisa okunjalo kwaye, ngokungangabazeki, ufuna ukuphinda uyiphinda, kungekho kanye.
Ehlobo, iholide yakho ingaba yimihla ngemihla. Akukho nto ingcono kunokuba ulale ndawonye entlabathi eshushu kwaye uphuphe kwisitofu epholile. Ukuba akukho ndawo yokubhukuda kwisixeko sakho, unako ukuya echibini. Kakade, i-pool ayifaki indawo yokuzonwabisa yangaphandle, kodwa iya kukuvumela ukuba uchithe ixesha kunye.
Ukuhamba kwithengi ngesizathu esithile kubonwa nje ngumsebenzi wesifazane. Kodwa kutheni ungathathi naye kunye nothando lwakhe, ukuba ngokuqinisekileyo akayi kucinga? Kwaye, akufuneki ukuba uthenge into ethile kuwe, yenza unqabileyo oyintandokazi kwaye ukhethe okuthile kuye. Kuphela akunakulungele ukuhamba ukuthenga ixesha elide, indoda, ukuba engabonakali ukuba ukhathele, ngoko uyacinga, kwaye ixesha elide liza kuba lixesha elide lokuphumla.
Musa ukulibala malunga nabanye kunye nabahlobo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba amadoda axhumane nomntu ngaphandle kwakho. Mema kunye nabahlobo bakho. Nonke unokuya kwimvelo, fry shish kebabs, uthetha ngokutya.
Ukuba sele uqhelene nabazali bakhe kwaye uyazi umfana wabo kunye nabo, kungekubi ukuba uwatyelele, hamba okanye uwatyelele. Unokulungiselela isondlo esincinci seentsapho, apho ungayazi kakuhle, mhlawumbi kunye nomkhwe kamva kunye noninazala nomkhwezala. Ukongeza, ukuba iqabane lakho linodade omncinci, ngoko unako ukuwathabatha ekuphumeni kwendalo okanye epakini. Kuya kukwahlukana nokuzonwabisa kunye nokuqinisa ubudlelwane kunye nezihlobo ezizayo, kwaye kuya kwenzeka, kuya kunceda ukucinga indlela uza kuhamba ngayo kwikamva kunye nabantwana bakho.
Ndingathanda ukukukhumbuza kwakhona ukuba into ephambili ayiyikuyidlula. Musa ukuxhonywa kwintetho yothando kuphela, kuba ukuba yonke into ihamba kakuhle, uya kubakho kunye kunye nobomi bakho kwaye ube nexesha lokukhangela. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, ungayikhohlwa malunga nokuzonwabisa kunye nokuzonwabisa okudibeneyo, okuya kukunceda ulwalamano lwakho luye lwahlukana kwaye awuyi kukhangela.