Kulula xa wayeyithemba le-phantom kunye nephupha. Kodwa ukuba wayekufuphi kwaye ngoku kukhwankqisa ukucinga ukuba unomnye umntu kwaye, omnye, ngoku uwamkela, utyhawula iinwele zakhe nokuwa elele ezandleni zakhe. "Andikwazi ukumlibala loo mntu. Yintoni enokuyenza, indlela yokuhlala ngakumbi, ngaphandle kokubandezeleka, "- yiloo nto iingcinga zakho zihlala zixakeke ngazo.
Into yokuqala kufuneka uyeke ukucinga. Ukususela kwiingcamango zakho akukho nto iya kutshintsha, kodwa ekugqibeleni uya kuziphosa. Abasetyhini banomdla wokuvelisa yonke into, ukuya kwi-hyperbolize kunye ne-embellish. Kule nto, ngokuqhelekileyo, inkqubo yethu yeentlanzi ihlupheka. Kufuneka uhlale ugxotha iingcamango zokuba ungubani na ngoku. Ewe, ngezinye iimeko kunzima kakhulu, kodwa akukho nenye indlela yokuphuma. Kubalulekile ukuqokelela intando ibe yintonga kwaye uzenzele. Ngelo xesha kuya kuba lula kwaye kulula.
Kufuneka uvumele ukuhamba. Yena, indoda. Ubuhlungu. Imizwa. Ukuba ufuna ukukhala, hlawula. Ukutshatyalaliswa yonke imvakalelo, kodwa ungaphenduli konke oku kumakhohlisi. Omnye kufuneka avumele ukuhamba intlungu yakho ngezinyembezi, ulale embhedeni, kwaye i-sutra iqale kwakhona.
Ewe, kuya kuba nzima kakhulu. Ndifuna ukumboza ngengubo, vala ifowuni uze ukhale. Oku akunakwenziwa nakweyiphi na imeko. Ukuhlala kwiindonga ezine kunye nokulila elidlulileyo kukhokelela ekuphumeni kwexesha elide, ukuzama ukuzibulala kunye nezinye izinto eziyintsipho, ezizisola ngazo. Yingakho kufuneka uhambe uze uthethe nabahlobo bakho. Ngendlela, musa ukujikeleza malunga nomzi, ngethemba lokuhlangana naye. Nangona oko kwenzeka, akukho nto iya kutshintsha, kodwa iya kuba yimbi ngakumbi. Ngokuchaseneyo, kungcono ukuzama ukunciphisa ithuba lokuhlangana. Kubalulekile ukwenza njalo ukuba akukho nto ifana nayo. Ngendlela, abahlobo kunye nabamantombazana kufuneka baxeliswe ukuba awukwazi ukukhumbula malunga nomntu wakho wangaphambili kwaye ungavumeli ukuba kwenzeke. Naliphi na inkulumo malunga nayo, efanelekileyo okanye engalunganga, iya kubangela intlungu. Ukususela kwixesha elidlulileyo kubalulekile ukususwa.
Kufuneka uhlale kunye nento ethile. Wonke umntu unomdla wokuzonwabisa. Khumbula into othanda ukuyenza kwaye ngexesha lokudabuka, thabatha into oyithandayo. Kubalulekile ukuba usebenzise ingcamango yakho ngengqondo, jonga kwi-plafini uze ucinge ngako.
Khumbula: ubomi abupheli. Ngoku kubonakala ngathi ihlabathi liye lawa, kodwa ke yonke into iya kutshintsha. Umntu usenaso isimo sokuzigcina, kunye nentlungu yintshatyalaliswa yomzimba wethu. Ngoko ke, umzimba kufuneka uwusitye. Kodwa ukuba wenza inzame. Isiphumo siya kufezwa ngokukhawuleza.
Amaqela, ii-discos kunye neeklabhu yinto oyifunayo kwangoku. Kodwa kuphela kwimeko yokuba ungenzi ngokwezicwangciso "ukunxilisa uze uzikhohlwe". Uncedo luya kuhlala lufutshane, kwaye ke yonke into iya kubuya okanye ibe yimbi ngakumbi. Ngoko ke, kufuneka nje uphumule, qhelana nabantu abatsha kwaye ungasuki phantsi kwamathuba. Ukuba ufuna ukuqhelana nendoda enhle - ungayihoyi. Akukho namnye umnyanzelisa ukuba atshade naye. Unokuzama ukuthetha nje, kuba kwenzeka ukuba abantu abaphantse bahlala besisindayo kwiintlungu.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, zama ukubaninzi nabantu abasondeleyo, ujabule kwaye ungaziniki ukuba ucinge ngezinto ezimbi.
Ukuba kukho ithuba lokuya kwesinye isixeko - ngaphandle kokungabaza, uye khona. Iindawo ezintsha kunye neendawo eziqhelekileyo zinceda ukuphazamisa kunye neengcamango ezimbi zihanjelwa kangangoko. Ngaphezu koko, kwiindawo ezintsha, ukuthandana kudla ngokukhawuleza kwaye kungalindelekanga, okuya kuguqula ubomi obuyikhulu lee-degrees.
Ukuba awuyikuncedisa, unokujika kwii-psychologists. Ngendlela, khumbulani: isazi senzululwazi asisombululi ingxaki, inceda ukuqonda ngokwakho indlela yokujongana nayo. Kuphela akukho mfuneko kufuneka uqale ukuthabatha izidalwa ezichasayo. Umzimba usetyenziswa kwiipilisi kwaye ngokukhawuleza awukwazi ukujamelana neemvakalelo ngokwazo.
Umfazi uye wahlala ekhona, kwaye uya kuba namandla ngokuziphatha. Unamandla kunomntu. Musa ukulibala ngoku, malunga nekratshi lakho, ukuba ungumntu ongafanelanga ukuhlupheka. Emva koko, uyazihlonela kwaye uzithandayo, ngoko kutheni uhlushwa?
Umntu ngamnye ufumana iimvavanyo. Ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi asikufanelanga oku, ukuba asinakho amandla, kodwa, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukuqonda kuvela ukuba le nto yayingcono. Yingakho, cinga ukuba le nto yincinane, ayikho into ebomvu ebomini, elandelwa yintsasa elitsha.
Njalo udibanise kwi-positive. Ungazivumeli ukuphulaphula iingoma ezibuhlungu ngothando, jonga ama-movie amahle. Kwaye kukho konke okufunekayo ukuzikhusela kwizinto ezinokuthi zikhumbuze umhlobo wakho.
Wonke umfazi ufumana intlungu ngendlela yakhe. Kodwa intlungu, nangona kunjalo, ihlala ibuhlungu. Kwaye kufuneka kulwa nazo zonke iindlela. Mhlawumbi ufanele uyenze ukuba uyayithiya ukuba iyinyani. Ngokuqinisekileyo, inzondo ayona yona nto ingcono, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo umsindo ungakusindisa kwiintlungu.
Kodwa kunjalo, indlela echanekileyo yokuphuma iya kuba ukuxolela nokuyeka. Lo mntu ebomini bakho, wakulethela uvuyo, unemizuzu emihle kwaye ulungile. Bashiye kwindawo ethile kwikona yememori, ngohlobo lwebhokisi lomphefumlo, apho ufumana khona unkumbulo kunye nokumomotheka. Okwangoku, vala le bhokisi ngentloko kwaye uyalibale malunga nayo.
Ukuba uthe waphula - kuthetha ukuba akuyena umntu wakho, kwaye ukuba uyakho, ngoko uya kubuya ngokuqinisekileyo xa kufika ixesha elifanelekileyo. Kodwa akudingeki umlinde, kufuneka nje uphile. Wena ngokwakho, kwintsapho, kubahlobo. Kubomi bentombazana kubaluleke ngakumbi ngaphandle kwothando. Musa ukulibala malunga nalo. Khumbula amaphupha kunye neenjongo zakho. Hamba kwenye indawo, zama ukufezekisa into ethile. Kwaye ke ukuba ubomi bakho buhlala kunye neengcinga ezintsha kunye nemihlali, ukukhathazeka kunye neemvakalelo ezintsha, kusasa kusasa uya kuvuswa kwaye uya kuqonda: intlungu sele ihambe. Intliziyo efudumeleyo kwaye ilula. Ulungele ukuqala isigaba esitsha. Yaye ubomi buya kuphucula.