Kwinye yeenkqubo ezihlekisayo kwakukho ibali malunga nomhlangano wokuqala wendoda nomfazi. Bavuma ukucela kwiintlanganiso ezi-3 ezichaphazela bonke abantu.
Uya kubuza imibuzo: "Uhlobo luni lweentyantyambo ozithandayo?" Ungubani wena ngomqondiso we-zodiac? Ukhetha ntoni uhlobo lokutya? "
Uya kubuza imibuzo: "Kukuphi na isithili sakho? Yiyiphi impawu imoto yakho? Ingakanani imali kwi-akhawunti yakho yasebhanki? "
Abaninzi abasetyhini ngomhla wokuqala bafana neengqungquthela zothando, kodwa uhlobo oluthile lwabaqeshwa bebhanki abaye benza isigqibo malunga nokunika imali mboleko. Ngoko ke, amadoda amaninzi kwindlela yokusebenza yenza ukuba kube lula ukuthatha umhlalaphantsi.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, kwi-intanethi yokuqala, uphando luqhutyelwa ngothando, lufana nomphandi ocingayo, ezama ukuzithumela isithunzi sakhe kumnxibelelwano, ukukhahlela ngaphandle kokuyeka. Zonke ezithathwe ndawonye azikwazi ukukhuthaza uphuhliso lwentsebenziswano. Njengoko kuboniswa ngophando lweengqondo, ngomzuzu omnye nje umboniso wokuqala womntu uyakhiwa.
Emva koko le ngcamango ingavunyelwa okanye iqinisekiswe, kuthatha ixesha elide. Indlela yokwenza intlanganiso yokuqala ingadluli kwiminithi, kodwa iya kuba kukuqhubeka kobudlelwane obusondelene okanye obunothando.
Njengomthetho, sithande abo bafana nathi. Kubantu abanjalo kulula ukuthetha kunye nokulula ukuhamba. Abantu, phakathi kwabo abathembekileyo kunye noqhagamshelwano olufanelekileyo, baqala ukuziphatha ngendlela efanayo. Kuvela ukuze ukholise omnye umntu ofuna ukuba naye. Kwaye akusoloko kuyimfuneko ukuba utsho ewe ngegama ngalinye kumnxibelelwano wakhe, kwaye ukopishe yonke impawu yakhe njengengonyama.
Kwanele ukwakha ingxoxo malunga nomdla kunye nokufumana umgangatho oqhelekileyo. Musa ukucaphukisa xa kungekho zizathu, ngaba ufuna umntu ongenalo kwaye akukho nto iyafana nayo? Kukho iimfihlelo ezininzi zonxibelelwano onokuthi unomdla kumntu oyithandayo, kunye nokuqonda ukuba ufuna ukuqhubeka nokuthetha naye. Makhe sijonge kwiimfihlelo zonxibelelwano kunye nezakhono zomhlobo onomdla kunye onomdla.
Khetha isihloko sencoko
Kubalulekile kwintlanganiso yokuqala ukuqhubela ulwalamano nesihloko sencoko. Ngoko umntu unquma indlela onomdla ngayo kuye. Inketho enkulu yokuphumelela iya kuthetha ngomntu ngokwakhe. Kodwa kwesi sihloko esivuthayo kuyimfuneko ukukhankanya kuphela into enomdla kumnxibelelwano, oko kubalulekile kuye, kwaye ungathethi kuphela into enomdla kuwe. Ngokomzekelo, malunga ne-akhawunti yakhe yasebhanki, malunga nomsebenzi, ukuba akayena umntu ongenamdla. Abesetyhini kuphela abona ukuba ngomhla wokuba baphenduke kwigosa labasebenzi be-pedantic abafumanisa uhlobo luni lomviwa kunye nokuba luhlangabezana kangakanani neemfuno ezichaziweyo. Ewe, le mibuzo ifuna ukucaciswa, kodwa kukulungele ukwenza ngokuthe ngcembe kwaye unobtrusively.
Iinkolelo
Abantu baxabisa kakhulu iinkolelo zabo, kwaye xa ufumana into ekhangayo kwaye ibalulekile kunxibelelwano, unokuba ngumntu onomdla kakhulu kuye. Kuba ixabiso lokungenelela lingaba nomnqweno wokunceda abanye, umsebenzi, ubudlelwane nabantu, ukuthanda izilwanyana, ukuthanda, ukunyuka kunye nezinye iinkolelo. Ngokomzekelo, unokufumana kwi-interlocutor yintoni ixabiso anika ixesha.
Uya kuqonda oku ngokukhawuleza ukuba uthe wafika emva komhla, nokuba ngaba lixabiso kuye. Bhengeza ubunye bakho ngamazwi: "Ndiyayiqonda ngokwenene, kuba andithandi xa umntu ephulile." Ngoko ke, ulungelelanise iinkolelo zakhe, kwaye kwintetho inokuyifumana yoluntu kwiimbono zakho. Ukuba ulawula ukufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo, ngoko unxibelelwano unokwenza ngcono. Kwaye ixesha elide akayi kufuna ukuyeka ukuthetha nawe.
Ngokusekelwe kwimiba enjalo, kwintlanganiso yokuqala kufuneka ube nencoko malunga nawe malunga neziganeko ezihambelana nemilinganiselo ye-interlocutor. Ukuba wenza imidlalo, ndixelele ngemiphumo yakho yezemidlalo, ukuba ungekho kwimidlalo, ke ungakhulumi kuze kube yilapho unamanye amanqaku athile.
Amava abo
Iingqungquthela ezimbini, abahlengikazi ababini, ababhali beengxelo zeemali ezimbini, baya kufumana ngokukhawuleza ulwimi oluqhelekileyo. Kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba udibana nomntu ofunde naye eyunivesithi okanye esikolweni. Amava akho okanye "iimephu" zidibanisa kwaye kule mimandla yesiganeko ibe yinto "yokufana", inkxaso efanayo. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, kulula ukuba ama-romance kumaziko emfundo nakwimisebenzi. Namava aqhelekileyo, amava alula anceda ukuqhagamshelana kunye nokwethemba.
Uyakhumbula abahlobo abaqhelekileyo, iimeko ezifanayo ozihlangabezane nazo, indawo oye wahlala kuyo njalo njalo. Kwinqanaba ngalinye lezonxibelelwano, gxininisa isivumelwano, faka amabinzana kwingxoxo, eya kukucacisa ukuba ulungelelaniswe ngomsinga owodwa kunye nomnxibelelwano. Ukuba akukho namava ahlangeneyo, unokukwazi ukuyidala kalula, umzekelo, tyelela umcimbi wezeNtlalontle okanye indawo yokudlala.
Yenza umhlangano wokuqala kwindawo ethile engazikhunjulwayo, ukwenzela ukuba kamva unako, ngokubanzi kunokwenzeka, iimvakalelo ezidibeneyo. Khumbula ukuba akukho nto ifanele iphule le ntla nganiso, ukuba uyesaba kakhulu ukuxhuma ngeparachute, ngoko le ntlanganiso ayiyi kubonakala iyimpumelelo. Into ephambili kukuba umntu ofuna ukukholisa kuye, wazibonakalisa ngendlela engcono, kwaye akakwazanga ukungena kwimeko apho eziva ekhuselekile.
Lawula ingxoxo
Kwintlanganiso yokuqala abantu ababazana, kodwa baziva banqandekile. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, incoko ingakhokelela ekufeni. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo asiyikuvumela ingxoxo ekhoyo iguqule ibe yintetho enxibelelwano. Kwaye kubonakala ngenxa yokuba asiyazi indlela yokulawula intetho, sibuza imibuzo engafanelekanga. Imibuzo evulekileyo iqalisa ngamagama athi "nini", "njani", "kutheni", "kutheni njalo njalo, kwaye ufuna impendulo eyandisiweyo.
Ekuqaleni kwencoko, imibuzo evulekileyo yintonga yangempela. Ukuba ubuza umbuzo kwiqabane lakho "Kutheni ukhethe le moto?", Uya kuqala ukuthetha ngentshiseko ngemoto yakhe, kwaye ngoko unokukhuthaza umnxibelelwano ukuba aqhubeke nencoko. Ukuba ubuza imibuzo evaliweyo ebonisa impendulo engafanelekanga "ewe" okanye "hayi, umzekelo," Ngaba le nto iyimoto eninzi? ", Emva koko incoko iya kufinyelela ekupheleni kokufa.
Nayi imimiselo yendlela eyahlukileyo
- Kubonakala kum ukuba umsebenzi we-intatheli unomdla kakhulu, ndixelele ukuba kutheni uthanda lo msebenzi? Ngaba umbuzo ovulekile.
Ngaba uyayithanda umsebenzi wakho? Umbuzo ovaliweyo.
Imibuzo evulekile ifanelekile ukufumana ulwazi, kwaye imibuzo evaliweyo ifanelekile ukucacisa olu lwazi.
Ukuze ukwazi ukuphulaphula
Ukuba umnxibelelwano wakho ngumntu oveza iimvakalelo zakhe ngokukhawuleza, ngumntu okhutheleyo, ngoko kuya kuba nzima kuye ukunxibelelana nomntu ongekho umntu ofihla imizwa yakhe. Abantu balindele ukuphendula okufanayo, yindlela abayaqonda ngayo ukuba bayayiqonda. Ukuqhubela phambili kule nto, zama ukulungelelanisa ukuhamba, impawu kunye nobuso bomlingane. Kwaye akukho imfuneko ukukopisha yonke into eyenziwa ngu-interlocutor, nje ngokuziphatha ngokubanzi.
Ukuba uthetha ngomntu onomsindo, zama ukuphinda uphakamise amazwi akho ngokuthinta, uthethe ngokukhawuleza, ukubonisa iimvakalelo zakho ngokucacileyo. Abantu abanomdla abanomdla wokunxibelelana, omnye umgangatho omhle udibanisa, abazithetha ngokuncinci ngokwabo, kodwa ngelo xesha bavumela ukuba umntu odibanisa naye aqonde ukuba uyamdla kuye, kubalulekile kuye kwaye aqondwe nguye. Le khono libizwa ngokuba yikhono lokuphulaphula. Umntu akagcini nje ngokuzithoba, uphulaphule umnxibelelwano, kodwa ukhuthaze ngokukhawuleza iqabane. Oku konke kudala umoya omsondeleyo phakathi kwabantu ababini kunye nokwethemba. Imfihlelo embalwa ongayisebenzisa.
Ukuphindaphinda
Faka iingcaphuno zeqabane lakho kumagama akho "Ngaba ucinga ukuba umfazi akufanele asebenze?" Phinda ubhale amagama okugqibela egama lomlingani-ngegama. Zama ukuphinda ngegama lokubuza imibuzo amagama ambalwa athiwa ngumlingane.
Ukuphawula
Ingcaciso emfutshane yeengxelo zeqabane. Zama ukwakha kwifom lacisko yintoni iqabane elithethileyo. Landela i-logic yakho, kodwa landela ingcamango yomlingani.
Ukutolika
Ingxelo yokuthathwa kwengqiniselo yokwenene yento ekuthethwe ngayo. Buza ukucacisa imibuzo, "Mhlawumbi utsho oku ngenxa ...?", "Mhlawumbi uthetha ukuba ...?". Sebenzisa ubuchule beengcamango ezinemiqathango okanye imibuzo yokubuza: "Mhlawumbi ungathanda ...?"
The lekiswa
Ukujonga kwimiba eyahlukileyo - "Uthi awukwazi ukuqhuba imoto, kodwa ndiyabona indlela osebenza ngayo ngokugqithiseleyo yonke i-jams traffic?".
Ukuhlaziywa
"Xa uthetha malunga ... unokubona ntoni?". Ukusebenzisa olu buchule, unokunceda ukusondelana komnye ngokukhawuleza, ukumisela ukuthembela, kunye nokudibanisa nomntu omnye kumyinge olinganayo. Ngoko, ukuba nomdla komnye umntu, unako ukuphumla nokuziva uqinisekile. Khumbula umgaqo obalulekileyo ukuba u-interlocutor, esi sibuko, esibonisa ukusilela kwethu nesidima sethu.
Ngoku siyazi malunga nomhla wokuqala: imfihlelo yokuphumelela, phulaphula iimfihlelo zempumelelo, kwaye ukuba unako ukubonakalisa iimpawu ezingcono kwiqabane lakho, uzakufumana isihloko seyona nto ibhinqa inomdla kwaye inomdla kwihlabathi.