Enyanisweni, kukho ezinye iingcebiso zokuziphatha nomntu ongafani nawe. Okokuqala, ngomntu onjalo akudingeki uxabane kwaye uqinisekise ukuba uyaphilile, ukuba uyingozi kwaye uziphatha ngokungafaniyo. Kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba wonke umntu unelungelo lokubona kwakhe. Ukuba ayivumelani neyakho, akuthethi ukuba umntu wakho osondeleyo ulungile. Ngokomzekelo, kunzima ngomntu ongafaniyo xa ephethe i-phlegmatic, kwaye u-choleric. Kule meko, iziphakamiso zilandelayo: ungacacisi ubuhlobo kunye noncedo lokumemeza. Abantu abanjalo abazange baphendule nonke ukukhwaza njengeminqweno ye-choleric. I-choleric, eqineni, injongo yakhe yokumemeza kukukhupha iimvakalelo kunye neengcamango zomdlali. Kodwa, nangomntu ozolileyo, konke oku kunemiphumo eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo. Uthi nje uyayigatya kunye neengcamango. Kwakhona, uhleka kwaye uhlekise ngawe. Kodwa, ukuba uyayifaka kwindawo yokubilisa, ingawaphula kwaye ibonise yonke into ecinga. Kule meko, ingxoxo eyakhayo ayiphumelelanga, kodwa ingxabano phakathi kwakho iya kuqinisekiswa. Inyaniso kukuba ngomntu ongafani naye, umntu onjalo akakwazi ukufumana indawo yokudibanisa kwiimeko ezifanayo. Ukukhala kuye akusiyo isizathu sokunxibelelana ngokuqhelekileyo. Ufuna ingxoxo eyakhayo, iingxabano kunye neengxabano. Ngoko ke, ukungahoywa okanye ukuhleka, umntu onjalo ulindele ukuba uhlalise uze ukhulume ngokuqhelekileyo. Ukuba oku kungenzeki, abantu bacaphukile kwaye badangele. Bakufumana kunzima ukubonakalisa ukuba uthukuthele ngenxa yalolu cwaka nokuzola. Akunakukwazi ukuqonda indlela enokuyicaphukisa ngayo indlela yokuziphatha, kuba iyona echanekileyo, eyaneleyo kwaye eyamkelekileyo. Ngoko ke, akufanele ulungelelanise umntu ozolile. Akayi kuba njalo. Kodwa, kuya kubonakalisa ulwalamano lwakho. Kule meko, kukulungele ukufunda indlela yokuphendula ngokuzolile uxolo lwengqondo. Funda ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho uze ungahambi. Emva kwexesha, wena ngokwakho uya kuqonda ukuba unokuxoxa ngezinye iimeko kwiitoni zokuzola ngaphandle kokutshatyalaliswa okukhulu kwemvakalelo. Nangona kunjalo, abantu abanjalo abahlala bebonisa ukuba bayayithanda kwaye bayayixabisa. Ngokuchanekileyo, abayi kuthetha ngako. Kodwa, ukuba ubona ngokuziphatha umntu akuxabisa kakhulu, musa ukucaphukisa uze ukhulume ngothando lwakhe. Olu lubudlova kumntu. Ngokuqinisekileyo, uyavuya ukuva amagama anjalo, kodwa, akunakulungeleka ngokukrakra ngokubetha ngentonga xa umntu ebonisa isimo sakhe sengqondo ngokuziphatha kwakhe.
Kwakhona, iziphakamiso zokuziphatha ezichanekileyo ziyimfuneko xa abantu benembono eyahlukileyo ebomini, kwaye ngamnye uzama ukubeka iinjongo zawo kweso. Le meko inzima kakhulu, kuba kule ngxaki, sithetha ngabantu abahlukeneyo abanomlinganiselo ofanayo wenkani.
Kule meko, ukuba ubona ukuba umdlali wakho oyithandayo akafuni ukukunika, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo ufuna ukugcina ubudlelwane obuhle, ngoko kufuneka ubonise ubulumko bakho kwaye wenze ukunyaniseka. Kodwa, ngelo xesha, akufanele uhlazise kwaye ubeke uluvo lwakho. Kalula, kuyimfuneko ukuba ufunde ukuphepha izihloko zokungqubuzana, okanye ukuthetha nalo mntu ukuze kungabonakali kuwe ukuba ufuna ukubeka imbono yakho. Enyanisweni, kwanomntu onenkani unokufunda ukuthetha kakuhle. Kalula, kubalulekile ukuba uvumelane nezinye izinto ezithethayo lo mntu, kodwa, ngexesha elifanayo, ziyeke ilungelo lakho kwimbono yakho. Kubalulekile ukuqonda indlela yokucinga lo mntu kwaye ufunde ukuthetha naye ukuze ngamanye amaxesha, akananto ayithethayo. Kodwa, ngelixa uvikela imbono yakhe, kufuneka ulungiselele kuphela ezo ngxabano ezingenakukwazi ukuchasa.
Ukuba umntu akakwazi ukuphendula ngokwaneleyo ngombono womntu, kuthetha ukuba kungcono ukuba ungabonisane nabantu abanjalo. Enyanisweni, xa umntu ehlaselwa ngomsindo kuyo yonke into ekuthethwa ngayo kuye, akuthethi ukuba akafani nawe, kodwa ukuba akakwazi ngokwaneleyo kwaye akwazi ukuthetha ngokuchanekileyo nabantu. Kuba kunjalo kungcono ukuba ungabambeli, kuba, aba bantu baphazamisa abanye iingxaki kwaye banganiki ithuba lokuzimela ngokwabo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu abanjalo abavumelani nje nomntu ngombono wabo, baqala ukucinezela abanye baze banqande bonke ukuba babe neembono zabo kwaye benze ngendlela yabo.
Enyanisweni, abantu abahlukeneyo, nangona kunzima, kodwa banomdla kunye kunye. Bayazi ukuba bathabathe njani into ethile komnye, babelane ngamaphuzu okujonga kwaye bancedana. Into ephambili nje ukufunda ukuqonda isizathu sokuba umntu enze kwaye acinge ngokuchanekileyo kwaye akukho nto engalunganga ngayo. Enyanisweni, kungakhathaliseki ukuba sithande kangakanani ukuba umntu uyamxhasa ngokuzeleyo kwaye wabelane ngesimo sakho sengqondo, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, iqala ukucaphuka, kuba ayinomdla kuye. Sinokuyithatha njani, kodwa, ngokwenene, umntu akanakuphila ngaphandle kokulwa kunye nokuphikisana. Ngokulula, ngamanye amaxesha izi mpikiswano zijika kwiingxoxo zibe zi-scandals, kwaye oku akusisona nto intle. Ukuze uhlalisane ngokuthula nomntu ongekho, ufanele uzibeke endaweni yakhe kwaye ubuncinane uzame ukubona imeko ngamehlo akhe. Oku akusoloko kwangoko kunokwenzeka, kodwa, ngokukhawuleza, uqala ukuqonda ukuba ngeendlela ezininzi iingcinga zakho ziguquka. Enyanisweni, asifani. Ukulula, ukukhuliswa kunye nomlingiswa, kusenza silahle ezinye iingcamango kwaye sikhethe abanye. Kodwa, ngamanye amaxesha abantu esicinga ngathi asinakuthetha kwaye senza oko sifuna, kodwa asizivumeli. Kungenxa yoko, sifuna kakhulu.