Ndikholelwe, bantu!
Ngokwezibalo zehlabathi, i-intanethi yokubambisana i-intanethi ibone ukukhula ngokukhawuleza kwiminyaka emibini edlulileyo, oko kuthetha ukuba izigidi zamabhinqa namadoda ziba nomdla wam kwiiprojekti ezibonakalayo. Kunyaka odlulileyo, kwintlanganiso yonyaka ye-Intanethi yokuDlelana kweNtsebenziswano (inhlangano edibanisa iinkokheli zamanqaku amaninzi e-intanethi), kwaziswa ukuba i-traffic yanda nge-12% ngokumalunga no-2008. Iiwebhusayithi ezinkulu zaseRashiya ziye zabona ukwanda kwenani labathathi-nxaxheba kunye nexesha eliqhelekileyo elichithwa ngabo kwiiwebhusayithi.
Yintoni na? Okokuqala, ngexesha leengxaki, abantu abaninzi baninzi ixesha lokukhulula, imali encinci yokutya-iikontshi-ukuhamba, kunye nesidingo sokuthi "ukubetha" kwengqondo, ukubonisa uvelwano, ukuqonda, ukuthandana, kuye kwanda. Ngokomzekelo, kwi-poll kwi-website enkulu yamazwe ngamazwe eHarmony.com, ama-25% amabhinqa avumile ukuba ngamava ngeengxaki zezoqoqosho ezenza ukuba bangene ebubudlelwaneni besikhathi eside kunye namadoda. Kwaye ngaloo mihla xa isalathisi seDow Jones sawa ngaphezu kwamaphuzu angama-100, inani lokutyelela kwiwebhusayithi laxhamla ngokuphawulekayo.
ERashiya naseUkraine kukho into eyongezelelweyo: inani labantu abanobuchule bekhompyutheni landa, kwaye bakhula. Ngokomzekelo, i-psychologist yaseRussia, uVladimir Shahidzhanyan, obhaliswe noMamba kwiminyaka emine edlulileyo, uyaphawula ukuba ngelo xesha, eneminyaka engama-65 ubudala, mhlawumbi wayeyedwa kuphela kwisiza somntu oneminyaka leyo; Namhlanje unama-70 kunye no-75 ubudala abanomncintiswano. Nangona kunjalo, njengasehlabathini lonke, isininzi sisenza ulutsha ukuya kwiminyaka eyi-25. Kodwa kukho izinto ezinobumba: ngokubakho kwiinkalo ezihlanganiswe yi-Mamba sociologists, amadoda ananoma yiphi iminyaka banomdla kumantombazana amantombazana, kuphela ama-20% amadoda afuna abafazi abaneminyaka engama-30 ukuya ku-35.
Ukongezelela , amadoda amaninzi awalwela ubuhlobo besikhathi eside, kunye nesondo - oku kubonakala kunoma yimuphi umsebenzisi kwiintsuku ezimbalwa emva kokubhalisa. Mna, umzekelo, ukulungiselela ukubhalwa kwinqaku, kwakhona kubhaliswe kwenye yeesayithi, kunoko ngokugqibeleleyo kwaye "ngokugqithiseleyo" kugcwalise le mibuzo, kodwa ayizange ingindisindise kwiziphakamiso eziqhubekayo zokuhlala ngokuhlwa "njengabantu abadala".
Emva kokuba ndiqhubekile: "Ngaba ufunde ifom yesicelo sam? Endaweni enye, yonke into ibhaliwe! Ndiyathanda kuphela ubudlelwane besikhathi eside! "Impendulo ixhamle ngokuzithemba:" Andikholelwa kubafazi! "Ukususela apho isiphelo silandela: ngamanye amaxesha, kwaye mhlawumbi ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ootyhini" abahle "baphendule imvume kaDon Juan. Ndiqinisekile ukuba abaninzi abafazi kwiindawo zokuthandana nabo bafuna isondo. Oku kunjalo kuluntu lwethu lincinane kunamadoda. Emva koko, sasisoloko sicinga ukuba ukuba umfazi uyatshintsha izithandani, ngoko "ukuziphatha okulula", kwaye ukuba umntu - unalo ixesha elifanelekileyo ebomini bakhe. Nangona kunjalo, ngaphezu koohenyukazi, ezikwabaninzi kwiindawo, kukho abafazi abaqhelekileyo abanomdla kuphela kwisini, kungekhona uthando. Namaxesha ambalwa, okanye "isondo rhoqo rhoqo" - kukho indawo kunye nolu khetho.
UBrad Pitt kunye nomsebenzisi
Kutheni abantu bebhenela ekuncedeni kwindawo yokuthandana? Impendulo ixhomekeka kumntu omdala umsebenzisi kunye nokuba yintoni imeko yakhe yentlalo. Abantu abaselula baye bahlala benamathuba amaninzi okudibana kunye nabantu abadala. Abasetyhini abadibeneyo abangaphezu kwama-30, bafumana ukuxinezeleka okungenakukugwema, baqale ukukhangela amaqabane kwi-intanethi, kuba kwii-nightclub bazizwa bengabantu abangaziwayo, ngokuqhelekileyo bangayi kwimivalo, baninzi bachitha ixesha lokukhulula nabantwana. Kwisayithi onokuxoxa naye ebusuku, ukuba unesimo sengqondo. Ngoko uninzi lwabatyeleli bezithuba zabantu abadala zilungelelaniswe nabantu abangenayo ingxaki yokunxibelelana kwi-intanethi, ubudlelwane obuhle. Into kuphela ayinayo ikhefu kunye nemikhwa yokuzonwabisa ngaphandle kwekhaya.
Ngokuphathelele ulutsha , ngoko umfanekiso uhlukile. Senze uphando, sizama ukuqonda indlela inyaniso ngayo: iingxoxo, iifom, izindawo zokuthandana - zibaluleke ngakumbi kubantu abatsha kunokuba "ubomi boqobo". Uninzi lwaba bantu kunye namantombazana baxhomekeke ekungenakulungelelanisa: ukungaqiniseki, abazi ukuba njani baqhagamshelane nabo. Ewebhsayithi, badala umyalezo: batshintsha isondo, iminyaka, izinga lezenhlalakahle, beza ne "nicks" -imaski ezifihliweyo emva kwazo. Kwaye umnxibelelwano awubangelisi njengokwenene. Unokuzicingela ukuba uphumelele, uphumelele kunokuba kunjalo. Ngaphezu koko, kulula ukubonakala kule ndawo kwaye nje ngokusabalalisa ngokulula.
AmaMask enza kube nzima ukuba angene kwizinto zangempela, kodwa akuyimfuneko kubafana kunye namantombazana athathakayo, ayenayo ngokwaneleyo ukudlala ngothando. Ukuba imigaqo yomdlalo iphulwa, kukho into enentloni. Ngokomzekelo, uVladimir Shahidzhanyan wacebisa njengesigqirha sengqondo esithile, esazisa kwiwebhusayithi. Umfana oseneminyaka engama-22, ngaphandle kwemali, nge-acne kunye nonina onomngcipheko, ngokungenasiphelo kwisayithi senkosikazi enhle: umlawuli weminyaka engama-40 ubudala, uthanda amakhwenkwe amancinci. Esikhundleni sesifoto sakhe, le ndoda yayimthumelele isithombe sikaBrad Pitt. Wayexabisa ihlazo waza waphendula ngomfanekiso ka-Angelina Jolie. Bahleka baze bavuma ukudibana. Le nkosikazi yazisa i-CMC ukuba ithenge amabhola e-vagin kunye nezinye izinto ezincedo. Emva kokuba ugijime kumhla, umfana ovuyayo wabona ... umama wakhe. Emva kwesikhalazo esivuthayo ("Ungathini na, mhlawumbi ubizwa ngokuba ngumlawuli wezemali, ungumqhubi ebhankini!"), Umama nendodana awazange athethe ixesha elide, kwaye kwafuneka ndiphendule kwingcali ukuba ngandlela-thile ndiyicombulule imeko.
Iindwendwe eziza kubadala kwiindawo zihlala zisebenzise ithuba lokufihla emva kwemaski enhle. Enye intombazana eneminyaka engama-27 ubudala, ukuhlala nabazali bakhe, ikhuseleke kakhulu, sele ihleli kwiindawo zokuthandana kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo kwaye yenza imiboniso engazange ibe yinyani. Unolunye uhlobo lolwalamano nabantu, kodwa kungekudala, ngezikhathi ezithile. Kwaye kwi-Intanethi - "ubomi boqobo" nothando. Nangona kunjalo, wenqaba ukudibana nabalingani bakhe bee-letters, kuba uloyiko lokutshatyalaliswa. Kwaye ndiyazi ezininzi iimeko. " Amadoda amaninzi awanamathele iintamo zabo ngokwenene, mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba besoyika ukudideka, okanye ngenxa yokuba batshatile kwaye abajongi nantoni na kwi-intanethi, ngaphandle kwesahlulo se-drive ekhuselekileyo. Kwisiza onokuqhayisa, obukhali, obushushu, onesibindi, ukudlala nayiphi na indima ongenakuyenza ebomini. Abasetyhini (ngomyinge) kulula ukudibanisa kunye nokutshatyalaliswa kunamadoda, ngoko banokuthi banakho amathuba kwaye banomdla wokunxibelelana nabo.
Ngenxa yokuba amantombazana a ...
Kubonakala ngathi ukuba ubeka isithombe sakho kwaye ubhale inyaniso malunga nawe kwiphepha lemibuzo, ke umngcipheko wokugatywa kwintlanganiso yokuqala incinci. Kodwa eqinisweni, ukucinga komntu kwenziwe ngezinto ezincinci ezincinane esingazicinga ngazo, ukudibana "ebomini boqobo": indlela yokubamba, ukuhamba, ukuthetha, ukunyusa iinwele; ukuvumba, ukuvakala kwezwi, indlela yokumomotheka, ungakhankanyi imibimbi engabonakaliyo emfanekisweni.
Emva koko uthabatha ukubhala into echasayo ngamadoda aseSoviet emva kokuba afikeleleke kwindawo ethile yentlalo (nangona iimeko zomnikazi weemoto zasemzini), qalisa ukuphazamisa abantu abasetyhini, njengengulube kwi-acorns. Yaye iya kuba yinyaniso, kodwa inxalenye kuphela.
Elizweni lethu kuye kwahlala kukho ingxaki echazwe kwingoma: "Kukho abantwana aba-9 abantombazana aba-10 ngokwemibare. Ukuxhaswa kwemimandla yabantu emva kwempi sele kuphelile, inani lamadoda ebantwini, ndicinga ukuba, alincinci kakhulu. Kodwa abaphumelelayo, abahlakaniphile, abathandekayo, abafazi abaqaphela impilo beba ngaphezu kokulingana kwamadoda alinganayo. Kukho inkqubo yokukhululwa, amantombazana akhuphisana ngokunyanisekileyo namadoda ukuze baphumelele kunye nemo, kwaye bona ngokwabo bahlupheke kulo. Ekubaleni, kubalulekile ukuthatha enye into. Amadoda aphezulu awanqabile ukhethe oontanga bawo ngesimo sabasetyhini. Bakhetha ukuphumelela ngaphantsi, bengabandakanyeki nomsebenzi, abo baya kubheka abo banyulwe kwi-bottom up kunye neenyaziso zamehlo - mvumele ukuba abe nesisu esiswini kunye nesimo esibi.
Kodwa abafazi abasenyakatho abaqhelanga ukuba banxulumane nabo besimo esingaphansi komntu, kunye namadoda amancinci kunabo: le yinto yamasiko. Kwaye abo banqoba amanqweno enkcubeko, bafumana ulwalamano kunye ne-alfonso yangempela. Kodwa kwiindawo zokuthandana kwezentlalo zintlukwano zentlalo zifana nokuba zenziwe. Nazi zonke zibonakala zilingana. Kwaye abantu baqhelana nabasetyhini ababesenokungabonakali kwindlela abaphila ngayo ngokwenene. Enyanisweni, ngokuqhelekileyo aba baqhelana nabo baphela kuphela ngesini esiluncedo.
Ngoko, akunakwenzeka ukuseka ubudlelwane obunzulu kwisiza? Akunjalo. Kwiphina i-ofisi, apho abantu abangaphantsi kwekhulu basebenze, kukho omnye odibene nomlingane kwi-intanethi. Zinezinto eziqhelekileyo: emva kokufumana omnye nomnye, abazange bahambelane ixesha elide, ngamanye amaxesha kuphela iintsuku ezimbalwa, baza badibana nobomi bokwenene, - Inna uyazisa. - Ukuba umntu uvuma ngokukhawuleza kwiintlanganiso, oku kuthetha ukuba unomdla wokwenene. Enyanisweni, abaninzi kufuneka bahlale kwiisayithi zonyaka, badibana rhoqo kunye nokukhetha, ade bafumane enye, yodwa.
Kubonakala kum ukuba abo bangalibali ukubhalwa kweencwadi kubonelelwe ukuba bahlole ukucinga kwabo. Emva koko, kwiwebhu sithandana nomfanekiso othile, senza zonke izinto esizilindeleyo, sinika iimpawu esiza kuzibona kwikhethiweyo. Kwaye ixesha elide libhalwe kuyo, iphakamileyo yinqaba entlabathi, iyadumala ngakumbi xa udibana. Nangona kunjalo, ndicinga, iintsuku ezimbalwa emva kwentlanganiso, kusasa kakhulu ukuhlangabezana. Kufuneka kubekho ithetha legolide. Ngaphandle koko, abantu abanalo ixesha lokuvalelwa omnye komnye ukuba oqhelekileyo, owomthonyama, ukuba banokudibana.
Ukuthandana okuMandla
"I-Sieve" apho abaviwa abaza kuhlolwa khona kufuneka babe kunye neeseli zobungakanani obuphakathi, kungekhona encinci kwaye kungekho mkhulu kakhulu. Ngokomzekelo, "ukukhula okungabi ngaphantsi kwe-180, umvuzo weedola ezingamawaka amabini, utshwala emlonyeni asithathi" - le sihlwele esikhulu kakhulu, abaninzi abanokubaluleka abaviwa abanokubhabha kuyo. Umfazi ohlakaniphile unako ukwenza inzululwazi ngomvuzo omncinci womntu oshishino ophumelelayo.
Ngoko ke, kunceda ukuqokelela uluhlu lweempawu ezisisiseko ezibaluleke kakhulu kuwe (ukunakekela, ukubonisa uxanduva nokuthatha uxanduva, ukuhlaziywa, kunye nokunye) kwaye ubonise kwifom yesicelo sakho njengeemfuneko ze-satellite.
Ngomvuzo ofunwayo, ngendlela, kungcono ukuba ungabhali. Uya kuqonda yonke into emva kweendibano ezininzi. Kodwa kungekhona into yokuba emva kokuqala. Ngokomnini we-arhente yomtshato yaseMoscow, abaninzi abantu abacebileyo baqala ukuya kumasayithi okuthandana, kwaye bayenza ngokungaziwa kwaye ukuqeshwa kokuqala kukutya ngokukhawuleza - badlale umdlalo "ungithandi ngemali." Ndiyazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba kakuhle, ohlakaniphile, amadoda angaphaya kwama-30 anesidingo sobudlelwane obukhulu. Njengabasetyhini, banokuphelelwa lithemba, kuba abazi apho baqhelana khona nabalingani abangakwaziyo. Ndafunda ibali malunga nomntu oshishino osebenza kwinqela lamadoda elikhalazayo malunga nokungazi kakuhle kumfazi. Ngoko misela umntu ngemoto endleleni evela emsebenzini, "- umhlobo wakhe wamcebisa. Ndiyakucinga ukuba kuya kuba njani ... Ndidla ngokuphindaphindiwe emsebenzini emva kobusuku. Isitalato, ubusuku, ijeep iyeka kwaye indoda enkulu iphuma kuyo ... Nantsi ibhinqa elihamba ngezitrato liya kuvuya!
Kuyamangalisa ukuba ngoku akukho mntu wenze ibhizinisi kwizinga elifanelekileyo lamaqela "kulabo abangaphezu kwama-30". Emva kwakho konke, ukuhlala kwamadolophu kuqhubela phambili, abantu basebenza ukususela ekuseni kuze kube sekupheleni kwebusuku kwaye bengazi namagama ommelwane babo kwizitepsi ...
Ithemba eliye lavela kuloo mhlaba, njengendlela emncinci ekhephu, inokubonakala lula kwaye ilula nje ngokulula. Amagulane, amaninzi amantombazana amantombazana, eze kum ngezinyembezi: "Wangcatsha! Sasibahlobo kunye naye, ndamxelela yonke into ngaye, kwaye wasasaza iimfihlelo zam kwiziko lonke! "Impazamo kukuba bazisa ubungqina obusondeleyo, ubudlelwane obungabonakaliyo bodwa: banobukhwele, babonwa ngothando kunye nentombazana" ubuqhetseba, "kwanokubangela ukuba ababenxibelelwano nabo babe" nokukhohlisa ", ngokukhethekileyo, bacele abahlobo ukuba babelane ngothando kunye nabakhethiweyo babo baze balandele ngokukhawuleza iziphumo zomdlalo ongathandabuzekiyo. Ingumncinci kwaye ayikhohlisi. KwiWebhu, kufuneka uhambe kakhulu ufikelele kwi-frankness, ungaxineli ubudlelwane. Ngaphandle kokufihla emva komaski ongaziwa, umfazi uya kuba neentlungu xa umnxibelelwano ehlekisayo ngaye, uya kuhamba kunye nokuvuma kwakhe ngokunyanisekileyo ngeengcamango eziyindoda.
Umngcipheko wokungena kwiinkathazo ezinjalo ungaphantsi, ukuba ubunzulu beenjongo ze-interlocutor kuqinisekiswa yinto ethile. Ngokomzekelo, eNtshona, iintlawulo ze-intanethi ezihlawulwayo ziya kuba zifakela imfashini kubantu "abahloniphekileyo": akufuneki nje kuphela ukwenza igalelo lenyanga ye-$ 50, kodwa kunye nemizuzu engama-40 ukugcwalisa ifom yesicelo epheleleyo xa ubhalisa, ukwenzela ukuba i-matchmaker ye-elektroniki ikufumene amaqabane afanelekileyo.
E-US, ngokwezibalo , nganye isibini sesibhozo esitshatileyo sidibene kwi-intanethi. Ukudabuka malunga neengxaki zentsapho, ukuhlala kwimizi kunye nokuhlukana kwabantu abavela komnye kunokwenza ingqiqo. Inkqubo iyaqhubeka, awukwazi ukuyiyeka, kufuneka nje ukubandakanya ingqiqo-kunye nokusebenzisa amathuba anikezelwa ubomi.