Umntu onokumnceda angamkholisa njani

Ehlabathini lanamhlanje, yonke into ishintshile, ngoku awona nje abafana bafuna ukunqoba intombazana, kodwa amantombazana kufuneka ahlakaniphe ngokwaneleyo ukuze athole umfana owamthandayo. Iingqayi zangaphambili zazithatha iintliziyo zamantombazana, zazenza izenzo zecala. Ngoku abantu abatsha banamathele ngakumbi kwizenzo zabo ngenxa yeentanda zabo, basetyenziselwa ukuba kukho amaxesha amaninzi amantombazana abahlala kuwo, kwaye akukho nto ifuna ukuba yenziwe. Kwaye ke intombazana iphinda icinge indlela yokukholisa umfana ukuze angakhangeli kwicala kwaye akaye kwenye. Qhagamshelana nabahlobo, izazi zengqondo. funda iincwadi ezahlukeneyo malunga nendlela yokuba yintonga, indlela yokugcina umfana ohamba naye. Ishishini lethu lokunyathelisa ngokwenene lakhukula izityuli zezinto zokuthenga ngezinto ezi "zithengisayo." Omnye abancedayo, umntu phambi kwamanye aphanga bonke ubudlelwane. Masizame ukuqonda imeko. Umfana unokukholisa njani?
Okokuqala, kufuneka uqonde oko kubalulekile - le ngongoma ebalulekileyo, ukuba ufuna ukuba iqabane lakho lenze into enhle. Yiyiphi into ayithandayo kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zobomi: umsebenzi, izinto zokuzilibazisa? Iyintoni umsebenzi wakhe ozithandayo ngexesha lakhe elincinane? Ziziphi iifilimi ezikhetha ukubukela, yimuphi umculo okumele uwuphulaphule, yintoni eyenziwa kwimidlalo yezemidlalo? Ukukhethwa kweentlobo zesithandwa sakho, naye, akunakuncitshiswa, njengoko ubulumko bendoda ithi: "Indlela eya entliziyweni yomntu ilele esiswini." Ukuphendula yonke imibuzo, uya kuqokelela ulwazi malunga nomntu wakho kwaye unokuguqulela imibono yakho ngexesha langempela. Nokuba ufuna ukuyithatha, okanye sele uhlala kunye nentanda yakho kwaye ufuna ukuba ibe yakho kwaye akukho mntu. Akunandaba nokuba yeyiphi inqanaba lokuphuhliswa kobudlelwane bakho, kunye namadoda ofuna ukugcina amehlo akho evulekile rhoqo, ngendlela abahlala bebanjwe ngayo intombazana enolwazi.

Ukuba umntu uthanda unyoko, akufanele ukhulume kakubi ngaye. Nangona ngamanye amaxesha ufuna ukuchaza yonke into oyicinga ngayo. Nguwe kuphela oqala ukunamathela kumntu ukuze aphile - unina, kulo luhlobo lwakho luya kuphela. Nangona umntu ozimeleyo, unina kuye uhlala eyokuqala. Kucebise ukuba nawe ube ngumnye umama wakho, umxabise kwaye umxabise. Indoda ayithandi ukutya kuphela, kodwa ukuva amazwi athobisayo kwidilesi yakhe.

Kufuneka uzilungiselele ukuba unokwaluqaqa uchungechunge lwakho oluthandayo, ngenxa yebhola lebhola. Akunakukubona konke ngeli thuba, nangona uya kugxotha phambi kwakhe. Ukuze uzuze kakuhle oko kuya kuba ukuba ubuncinane uyayiqonda le mdlalo, nangona kungenakuchukumisa kuwe nonke, kwaye awuqondi ukuba kungani amadoda amaninzi emfutshane kunye negalufu egijima ibhola. Kwaye ukuba awukwazi ukuba ngubani u-Arshavin, unokukuthabatha umfokazi. Ngoko ungene kwizinto ezibalulekileyo zobomi bebhola, oku kulukholisa nje inkwenkwe yakho.

Xa iqabane lakho linqwenela ukukunceda wenze into ejikeleze indlu, kufuneka uthathe oku njengemana evela ezulwini. Ngethuba leenyanga ukukhumbuza indlela enhle ngayo, ukuba wayebethelele isikhonkwane ekamelweni lakho, ngendlela awayeyenza ngayo, kwanokuba umphathi onamava wayengenakwenza. Uze ungangena kwinkqubo yokubethelela le khonkwane, uyindoda, unobulumko ngaphezu kwakho (yiloo nto ayicinga).

umfana unokukholiswa ngeendlela ezininzi, ufanele uhlale ucinga ukuba uyindoda kwaye unamandla, unamandla kunakho. Musa ukumdumisa, nangona athe wakukhupha nje i-chamomiles, kwaye waphupha ngo-101. Wanika ubuncwane obuncinci, kwaye waphupha indandatho yedayimani, kwaye kulo mzekelo kufuneka ujabule kwaye unqule umthandayo. Ulonwabo lwakho lusezandleni zakho, kuba siyazi abafazi, sinobuqili ngakumbi kunabantu, nangona bentloko, kodwa sisentamo apho sifuna khona ukuya khona kwaye sijika le ntloko.