Kungenxa yokuba ukuba amadoda elwa nabasetyhini, abayena madoda, bafana nabasetyhini abafanayo, banikwe kuphela iimpawu zomzimba zabantu. Nangona, mhlawumbi, ukuba uzama ukwenza zonke iimeko ezinokwenzeka, ngenxa yokuba umntu unokulwa nomfazi - ingcamango yam iya kutshintsha kwaye ndiya kuqonda ukuba ngamanye amaxesha sifanelekile imfazwe enjalo.
Isimo esisodwa: Undishiyile!
Ewe, apha apha apha. Udibene nayo, mhlawumbi kude kakhulu, mhlawumbi nangona kakhulu. Okanye mhlawumbi babelungiselela umtshato, kakuhle, indoda yakho, nokuba kunjalo. Ndifumene umsebenzi ohlawulelwayo kakhulu, ndaqala ukuqokelela imali, kuba le mbhiyozo iyabiza kakhulu, ingakumbi ukuba umfana wayefuna ukwenza umtshato wengqondo yamaphupha ephupha lakho. Kodwa ngokukhawuleza waqonda ukuba uphosakele. Mhlawumbi, kwindawo ethile yaqala ukuvelisa "iigx" zayo, ongazifuni ukuzibeka. Okanye mhlawumbi udibana nomnye umntu ocinga ukuba ulungele wena. Emva koko, ubomi bubunjalo, buzele imimangaliso. Kwaye uyaqonda ukuba akufanelekile ukuba uhlale nomntu kuphela ngenxa yendlela yokuziphatha kunye nesihe - yingakho ufumana isibindi uze utshele inyaniso yonke inyaniso. Yintoni elandelayo? Ngaba uyazi kakuhle lo mntu, ngaba unokubona kwangaphambili indlela awasabela ngayo? Emva kwayo yonke into, inokuba yinto enhle kakhulu: indoda enye iya kukhwela kwisithandwa sayo isithandwa sayo, esishiya kuye, kwaye okwesibini iya kuqala imfazwe evulekileyo.
Kutheni umntu eqhuba le misebenzi yempi ngokwenene? Mhlawumbi ufuna ukuba uqiniseke ukuba unamandla kwaye unesibindi, ukuba nayiphi na imeko ifike kuye, ukuba yinto engcono kakhulu eyenzekayo ebomini bakho. Okanye mhlawumbi wayedidekile, mhlawumbi ungumntu onobudlova-oko kukusabela ekuhlukaneni kwakho, unobundlobongela.
Ngoko, umntu uphonswa njani ekulweni nomfazi wakhe owayesithandwa njengesiqhelo? Ziziphi iindlela ezinokuthi zenzeke kule meko? Apha, mhlawumbi, into yonke incike kumntu kunye nomlingiswa wakhe. Ukuba unyanzelekile kubudlova-into embi kakhulu, loo mntu unokuzama ukukubamba ngamandla. Kwaye kuninzi ukuphumelela kule ndawo - ingakumbi ukuba unentlonelo kuye. Indlela yokuphuma kule meko ayilula. Ukuba usuvele unomntu omtsha-mhlawumbi makavumele ukuba bacebise kuphela iingxoxo zesilisa kunye nokuxoshwa. Nangona kunjalo, apha abafazi basoloko bekwesaba - kuthekani ukuba omtsha uya kuba buthathaka, uya kubethwa aze akweswe? Uze usinikezele? Ewe, ngoko unokuthuthuzelwa: kutheni sifuna ubuthathaka ebomini? Zama ukuthetha nomntu owayekade uqobo. Kuyinto evamile, ngaphandle kokuhlambalaza, ukucacisa ukuba awuzange uye kunoma ubani, ukuba kukukuthi awukwazi ... Sebenzisa zonke iindlela ezingavumelekanga, into ephambili kukuphepha ugonyamelo. Ukuba ufuna, unokukhala xa umntu wakho wangaphambili esenza oko.
Imeko emibini: Ndiyakuthanda, kodwa andiyi kukuxelela!
Le meko iyinkimbinkimbi yengqondo. Ngenxa yokuba sisetyenziswe kwinto yokuba amadoda abonisa imfesane nazo zonke iimbono zabo kunye nobubele. Basidla ngeentyatyambo zeentyatyambo, baqulunqe iziqulatho ezimnandi zothando - kwaye bangazivumeli zivakalisi, kodwa sisavuya. Nangona kunjalo, kukho amadoda azama ukutsala ingqalelo yethu, ukuyibeka ngokuthobeka, ngendlela engavamile. Benza nje imfazwe! Indoda enjalo idla ngokukhokelela kwimfazwe ebonakalayo, ngokubonakalayo, yenza izinto ezininzi ezingcolileyo, kodwa akukho nto inqabileyo kwaye inenekayo kuye ayikwazi ukulinda, emva koko, injongo yonyani yale mpawu iwukuba ufumane umdla kunye nomdla.
Mhlawumbi, xa uphuma emnyango, uya kufumana ukuba iindonga zendlu zichazwe, okanye iibhuthi ziphihliwe. Okanye, mhlawumbi, ukuhlambela kunye nesoka lakhe, uya kumela endleleni, kwaye emva koko uya kuqhuba ngemoto, ekukutshisa ngodaka oluphantsi kweevili. Uyakucasula ngandlela-thile, kodwa ke uya kumnaka. Enyanisweni, lo mkhuba awufaneki kakuhle, kodwa ukhona.
Imeko yesithathu: Iphazamisa ukukhula kwam msebenzi!
Iimeko xa umntu elwa imfazwe kunye nomlingane wesibini yinto enye "eyingozi" kwaye inemiphumo. Ingakumbi ukuba ngaba ngabafake izicelo ezimbini kwindawo ephakamileyo, kwaye umfazi kuzo zonke izibonakaliso uba ngumntu. Emva koko kufuneka ulungele nantoni na! Apha unomdla, kunye nokutyunjwa kwabaphathi kubaqeshwa abangenakwenzeka okanye abangenzi kakuhle. Ngokubanzi, yonke into, kwinto enokwenzeka ukuba yehla. Nangona kunjalo, unokuphendula impendulo efanayo, ukuba ufuna. Kodwa cinga nje: ngaba umfanekiso wakho uya kuba neengxaki?
Kungcono ukumxolela kwaye uqondise yonke imikhosi emsebenzini - kuza kuzisa iziqhamo ezininzi, kwaye indawo entsha iya kuba sondele ngakumbi kuwe. Ewe, ukuba umntu uphazamise ngokucacileyo umsebenzi, ngoko kufuneka uphume kunye naye kwingxoxo evulekile. Ukuba akaqondanga ngoko-kufuneka uthabathe amanyathelo okuqeda umchasi, kuba umntu onobuqili unelungelo lokuthululela ngokufanelekileyo udaka kunye nokunyamekela i-curry ngabaphathi bakhe. Ewe, kubantu abanjalo (ngendlela, kungakhathaliseki ubudala kunye nesondo), akufanelekile ukunika inzala ngqo!
Isimo sesine, ubomi.
Ewe, yinto encinci - wenzenjani kuye? Mhlawumbi wayengenakuchukumisa ngesinye sezihlobo zakhe, okanye mhlawumbi akazange azikhubekise ngelizwi, kodwa ngezenzo? Ngaba ingozi yatshitshisa imoto yakhe entsha nekhwama lakhe? Kwaye, mhlawumbi, inja yakho inqabile ikati yayo, okanye ngaba uyikhukula ngokungekho nto? Ewe, imfazwe ingakwazi ukuphazamiseka kwiimeko ezinjalo, ingakumbi ukuba amacala omabini ayengenangqondo kwaye ecacile ngokwaneleyo, engakwazi ukudibanisa iimvakalelo zabo zomzwelo.
Kwiimeko ezinjalo kulunge ukufumana indlela enokuxhamla ngaphandle kwenkquzulwano, ukwenzela ukuba ungabaluleli imeko iminyaka emininzi. Ngokukodwa ukuba usabona le ndoda yonke imihla!
Khumbula - ukuba umntu ulwa nemfazwe nawe, ngoko unobungozi kakhulu. Yaye ukuba uyashukunyiswa ngokwenene nale migudu efana nemfazwe, funda ukufunda indlela yokuphuma kwiimeko eziyingozi, kunye nenzuzo enkulu. Ewe, ucinga ntoni? Ngaba kulula ukuhlala? ..